new profile picture is the notion avatar maker btw - had a fiddle around today. might end up fiddling a bit, maybe adding skin tone and proper hair colour but idk. I could use a Memoji but that’s cringe

Dorley 26: Mia Dorley not cleaning the cafetière is extremely me coded (and topical) ever since I became one of those insufferable people that takes one to work with beans ground earlier that morning.

maybe it’s just the kind of people I follow but I’ve genuinely never seen anyone use a cashtag. (this isn’t to say we shouldn’t have them - they’re harmless and a “quick win”, in PM speak, and some people use them, I hear)

Dorley 25 poignantly putting into words how I’ve felt since starting back at work in the new year doing 3/4 office days in a dress, with: “I don’t want people to see me […] while I’m still so early in transition, because I feel sort of ridiculous and ugly and male, all that shit.”

we really need better ways of handling per-app deactivation - I’ve been out of a few days but wish teal scrobbling and tangled worked properly

brewing up several steaming hot takes for one day when they’re needed. (aka editing them to a point that I can tolerate posting them)

every time I change my name in one place, I manage to find another that I need to do and had forgotten about. this applies at work too where I keep finding systems that aren’t linked into HR properly and don’t automatically update.

how tf does one willingly spend $2k/m on 5TB of database*? that’s wild - you could do so much of _actual good_ with that money *yeah I saw it’s managed. managed databases were a mistake

forgot that steam has (and actively shows) username history, so I’m going to end up deprecating my 12 year old steam account at some point in transition - this sucks.

lazyweb: anyone run an ATProto relay on NixOS? One of my last two systems is running a relay but I couldn't find anything in nixpkgs so idk if I need to work out how to get it into my config

[gru meme] see person chuntering about how decentralisation hasn’t gotten us anywhere. *looks at account* they’re just posting about it and not doing anything of use …

right, time to move the server my PDS runs on over to Nix - see y'all on the other side (I have backups and a rotation key, *just* in case)

annoying that I switched lastfm accounts mid year and all my year end stats are wrong need to get that goddamn import done so I can actually do stats.

oh it is, oh that was good. they managed to wear away at me enough over two hours that Holly and friends right at the end made me cry

two machines done, three to go

🥂 Here's to a great 2026 in the Atmosphere, with many new different apps, big growth for existing ones, cool new clients, many new users, more geographical/language diversity, new fun EMEs, more funding for devs and builders, great protocol updates, new feature launches, and lots of fun in general 😄

Happy new year, folks. let’s have a good one in 2026

I did the annual roundup thing! (ignore any incorrect tense, I've been working on this for a good three weeks) mia.leaflet.pub/3mba5xywer22u

On Questions Regarding the Ethics of 'Sisters of Dorley Hall's' Feminizing Torture Basement Program - A Foreword for Cis Readers 🧵 (1/25) 🧵

annual roundup tomorrow once I’ve proofread it one last time and got it into leaflet… 1900 words, give or take.

Anyways, I’m probably not going to be around much today (certainly no programming!), so if you celebrate, have a good Christmas Day.

it is officially Christmas and here I am getting called out by goddamn Dorley 24 (again) I see myself in 2008 Stef and the way he acts around people and comes out of his shell when he’s around the right people and I’m glad we know how it goes for him.

me posting is just the “I guess we doing circles now” meme ad nauseam with different technical topics.

Me fr fr

okay i'm running with an export of my ssh key for now but if anyone knows how to get ragenix to see age-plugin-fido2-hmac please tell me

learning by doing is nice and all, but sometimes you spend a few hours confused because a chunk of your nix flake isn't connected to anything and therefore isn't doing anything

starting my Christmas break off right tomorrow by touching grass before spending two weeks on the computer (I need to collect something from the doctors and my usual lift is busy and I’m not calling an uber for a sub 15 minute walk)

wondering how much of the site I’ll break if I mute “ai” and “ml” because ESH and reading takes from either side takes up time I could be using for other things.

68 million years? damn she must almost be up for her first consultation at the Newcastle gender identity clinic

I got back here again and oh my god oh my god this is so sweet I love these two so goddamn much gdi just kiss already

negative health impacts of puberty blockers on trans kids could just as easily be solved by giving them access to hrt

this is, among other reasons, why i think names & emails as immutable identifiers are bad. git's model basically forces deadnames in perpetuity. im hoping our next generation of vcses actually tackle this problem instead of punting on it and screwing trans folks over.

WHEN YOU FELL FROM HEAVEN is my trans/cis lesbian cheerleader series! In HOW TO FLY, we meet Max and Taylor, and we discover just how much a suitably determined cheer captain can change someone’s life. mybook.to/HOWTOFLY alysongreaves.itch.io books2read.com/u/47LXBN

I’m going to run with the (perhaps) nuclear takes that 1) half of the commenters in this Reddit thread (and others) deserve bans[fn1] because they are blatantly unsafe to be around, 2) the fact that there isn’t a neat way of doing identity renames in git without making everyone suspicious is… (1/n)

finally landed it! Tap is your all-in-one sync tool for the Atmosphere: webhooks, backfill, filtering, signaling collections, no cbor/msts/signatures/cursors. this thing's got it all! give it a go and let me know what you think & if you run into any issues docs.bsky.app/blog/introdu...

people at work really have proved over the last week that most cis people either literally do not care (in a good way) or are actively supportive of trans people. some people switched to calling me Mia so fast it caught me off guard

putting off frontend by deciding to do some work on lexicon generation first because then I can have types! generating lexicon* from the rust types using jacquard, naturally - got most of the way there but there’s a few rough edges atm imo *the plural of lexicon is lexicon or lexica. don’t @ me

🎶 Simply 🎶 🎶 cuddling 🎶 🎶 a wonderful kitty cat🎶

🔴 LIVE https://stream.place/mia.pds.parakeet.at mia fails at webdev

again; the doctor was *NOT* on trial she was called as a witness to give testimony about Sandie Peggy's objectively horrible behaviour, some of which was targeted at said Doctor. The courts should face consequence for the danger they have put the rest of her life in. Again; *as a victim*.

anyway hi just use the new filter rules bsky.app/profile/did:pl…

results: sqlite is significantly faster! I can index ~5 operations per second now with FTS, which is an acceptable speed. even the analysis is fast and runs over a few thousand records in 300ms. sqlite stays winning, as ever, even if the DB is 26GB.

We are hearing that those few who were on NHS GIDS prescribed puberty blockers before GIDS closed, who were transferred to a small legacy clinic at Nottingham, are now being told all referrals for MDT panel approval to start hormones have been stopped. 1/2

I should really stop taking on projects. I’ve got like three programming things, four leaflet drafts, an infrastructure migration to do / prep for, and the beginnings of another programming thing that I want to turn into a talk eventually.

yep this is normal person behaviours

this one’s so good (and so obvious) that when I got to this bit again I immediately thought of it despite having forgotten about it.

programming became more fun for me when I started doing it to learn and solve interesting problems along the way and I think that’s important to share (and I’ve always used sm like a stream of consciousness anyway)

it will never not piss me off that spotify wrapped and every other end of year recap drops in december before the year is actually over

used iOS 26 today for the first time on my brother’s new phone and my review is “not quite as bad as I thought”. in the like 30 mins of usage noticed several bugs though which is super fun, love Apple software in the year of our lord 2025

tomorrow - wish me luck (thankfully I am not doing this myself, the boss is doing it and I have approved their wording) Strongly considering coinciding an early lunchtime walk with the meeting it’s happening in bc even though I know it’ll be fine, idk if I want to be there.