As a kid, hanging out with girls.

honestly I respect his game

Drawing in a manga/anime style. (It was the last century though.)

Pete Holmes the stand up comedian had a good bit about how masturbation is Double Gay because he’s giving a man a handjob WHILE AT THE SAME TIME getting a handjob from a man 😅😅

As someone who visits schools on the regular for workshops, it give me no pleasure to inform you that A LOT of slurs we thought were well in the past are back in fashion Funny how having a Government and media only too happy to demonise minorities seems to have a trickle down effect

There once was a young man from Carlow, Was gifted a scarf warm and yellow, But his friends "No way, That's totally gay", So he shivers through winter, poor fellow.

Four even!

The classic of course was ear piercings. Left if you’re straight, right if you’re gay.

I wasn't told this one personally but I heard of a guy's dad who said wiping your arse more than once was gay.

Striking matches *away* from you was girly/gay. Always strike *towards* yourself 🙄 Liking music that didn't have guitars was also dicey. Like female fronted bands? Might as well declare oneself a power bottom. Not sure those musical barometers have changed that much, to be honest.

Oooh that's actually pretty sneaky and I may incorporate it into my arguments arsenal.

Home knitted jumpers. Every boy in my school wore cheap shop bought jumpers in boring colours. One poor lad (where are you now Larry McGovern?) had colourful tank tops his mum knitted him. I don't know how he survived the abuse.

One that I was dinged with multiple times in school was “remembering people’s names”

And holding a cigarette. The further down the knuckles, the more manly.

So this particularly fascinates me - and what I didn’t realise until I looked into it that was there are apparently “male-coded” and “female-coded” ways of: ⚫️ checking your nails ⚫️ looking for dogs**t on your shoe ⚫️ holding a beer bottle ⚫️ stabbing someone

An Andrew Tate post where he claimed enjoying heterosexual sex is gay/effeminate: sex should be used to dominate, a real man does it so much to establish hierarchy that it becomes unenjoyable work.

Might have changed now but years ago it was driving an automatic instead of a manual car.

When we were kids, my cousin said my dad was gay for wearing a wedding ring. So I dumped a glass of Fanta over his head.

Yes, the least gay motors are crew cab pickups, which are the worst passenger vehicles on the road: dangerous to occupants and other road users, gas guzzling, hideous.

I note that every guitarist kid on instagram is currently playing the solo from ‘Sultans of Swing’ and declaring that Knopfler is an undiscovered genius. I love it when the kids like Boomer songs.

Most Ridic, Brazilian ed.: turning 24

combing your hair cleaning your nails knowing any classical music riding horses being nice to girls/women cooking cleaning

Point one works for books too. Even before the new Shogun on TV, James Clavell was being rediscovered by readers too young to think of it as “That book that everyone’s father had in the 70s”. Still waiting for the Michener revival…

I have learned from reddit that an APPALLING amount of grown adult men don't wash their ass cracks. One described the medical issues that arose in horrific detail that I will never forget.

Good morning Bluesky. What's the most ridiculous thing that you've been told is "gay"? Or at least "gay when a man does it"? Skin care, health care, and cunnlingus

As for the actual prompt: Holding a cigarette in a specific way

you had to watch out while shaking yourself dry after a wee too, because, as one lad in our school liked to remind everyone: "more than three shakes is a wank"

As per always a Simpsons joke summed up the absolute absurdity of this phenomenon pretty succinctly: "Ewwww you kissed a girl?! That is so gay!"

A boy in school called Mullins asked this in sex ed class. He said he'd been told by a friend's brother that giving any fellow a hollywood handshake - even if the fellow was one's self - was gay. The teacher said no, it wasn't gay, but he should still pace himself.

That needs to be a limerick

I was briefly involved, in a previous life, as a rep for infant form manufacturers on the then body administering an industry code - as opposed to strict regs. Past abuse in developing countries dominated the outlook, with low % of breastfeeding in 🇮🇪 + high% of global manuf of the stuff in 🇮🇪. 1/2

What??? Why is there a limit on baby formula?! I wasn’t able to b’feed and got zero support and information the whole way through, from prenatal classes to nurses actually seeing my baby hungry. Not one healthcare professional talked about formula as a viable, normal option.

An ex therapist of mine: “There seems to be a lot of rules in the lesbian community” Me: “You think WE have rules?”

I think the replies can be split into three (very sad) categories: 1. Treating women with basic respect. 2. Rudimentary self-care. 3. Wearing nice clothes.

A college-going girl described her lunchbox full of fusilli pasta, that did not have any kind of sauce on it, and that she'd prepared herself, as gay.

It was unbelievably stressful and upsetting and made the first few days of parenthood quite miserable. As soon as we switched to formula there was a transformation, and my baby was and continues to be (now age 9!) the healthiest person I’ve ever met.

Writing Christmas Cards ...

All-boys secondary boarding school survivor here. Rules were complicated. Being good at art (drawing, painting) was ok, but anything craft-y was gay. Learning guitar was fine, piano questionable, anything else gay. Reading was dodgy, unless it was Sven Hassel or something “sexy”. I could go on.

Getting the response "You have the sloping forehead of a drunken Tipperary jennet and cart driver" in my next rejection letter.

liking literally any animated show, I remember

Using both straps on your schoolbag. Common knowledge at our secondary school.

Sitting with my legs crossed.

I realise I've just painted a picture of myself as scarf and red pant-wearing kind of dandy and that's not the case at all. That I feel the urge to point that out says a lot about how men are conditioned. We all know this.

I have done scientific research on both human milk and infant formula, some sponsored by industry, and got savage hate mail. I was once told that taking formula industry money to study human milk (to make better formula) was like taking tobacco industry money to study cancer

oh god, this thread is reminding me of a friend at school who was "very" invested in all this kind of stuff. It's no way to live

Not a parent so I’ve only observed this from the sidelines but it’s always struck me as parallel to the rabid anti-veiling types - they can’t see that they’re just yet another group trying to dictate to women about their choices. Let each woman decide what suits her at any given moment ffs.

My experience is its not encouraging its admonishment. Just do it this way. its not work. Well ur fucking doing it wrong energy

boomer-before-his-years coworker called farfalle gay just two days ago.