I'm reading Heated Rivarly while I, myself, identify as queer, I'm not a gay male so I look to what they say. And it's interesting on their presentation that women fetishize MMs but then the opposite argument is MM romances are a safe space for women because it takes danger out of sex for them.

You cannot marry your first cousin in Michigan. You can, however, marry your second cousin and further out.

I'm exhausted. I use Fluffbusting Purity to strip out crap from FB feed. It's not perfect but it (mostly) works. Just scrolled through friends feed for the first time in weeks and all I could think about is, "Are you finding sources before you post that?" These bitches are LIBRARIANS.

Yesterday I mentioned that I had to email a few companies to get my name off their mailing list since their Unsubscribe links were broken (as well as broken email addresses on their website). Heard back from one and they had no idea shit was broke. (And they took me of their newsletter.)

I have been trying to unsub from DBSA Alliance's newsletter for a week. The link is broken. I emailed info@, per their contact page, and that email does not exist. I emailed other emails listed on their contact page, and two more came back broken. I posted on their FB/IG my issues. Will I hear back?

Vet called NYE that Thursday's liver proteins were elevated and told me to call today to discuss "game plan." I called a few hours ago and she hasn't called back yet. (Probably after her day is done.) I swear to god if that dog is ill, I'm burning 2026 down to the ground. I'm going to go make cake.

I succumbed and started the first book in the series, "Game Changers," and it's...not good. The sex scenes could be reduced to, "tell me you're not a gay guy by not telling me you're a gay guy." THIS IS WHY SENSITIVITY READERS EXIST! www.salon.com/2026/01/02/d...

Anyone Else Here xkcd.com/3188/

It's January 1 which means it's Public Domain Day! Over at The Blog of Nerd Girl Industries, I give a brief history of PDD, examples of what's in the PDD, links to Duke's partial lists of what's in the PDD< and of course, RESROUCES! 👉 nerdgirl.net/general/janu...

My 90DF commrade in arms, Erika, said she changed her sheets and took a shower before bed last night so 2026 started out fresh and clean. I drank and had a gummie before bed. Hopefully my year does not become shite! (Did get a pedi today and my toes are a very medium blue.)

Mr. Lisa and I were going to go into town to see Dead Snow (killer nazi zombies) tonight but weather is miserable. So! I'm drinking (cocoa bean vodka + faygo cream soda), and fucking up WordPress. Dinner will be luxury nachos (because they have queso) and some kind of movie night.

Look at @litjrzygrl.bsky.social over there sending me Heated Rivalry / Pride and Prejudice thirst traps www.instagram.com/p/DS1K1j8DCRf/

I have 9 images but looks like Bluesky only takes 4? Anyway, some stats from Goodreads for my reading in 2026. 133/100 so far and on track to finish one more before tomorrow night. I wrote a dissertation over on IG about my reading plans for 2026, so, what are YOUR reading plans for 2026? #Booksky

Being on Bluesky is a double-edged sword: It's giving me 2010 Twitter vibes where I'm making friends, dropping my knowledge, & having conversations. However, who I follow is curated mainly by news orgs and journalists so I get a feel for the world currently (shit storm, etc).

In short: We got Rick-Rolled by Rian Johnson and we love him even more for it.

I'm not a fan of some librarians posting this but of course I want to add my 2 cents: As a librarian, of COURSE I want people to have cards and use the services. BUT, I'm also a big fan of teaching info lit and doing research responsibly, which this article doesn't touch on. 1/

Ugh. So, NGI now has NGI TV with episode 0 just released. It's posted all over my socials which includes Threads and X. I did not want to have those accounts but I have clients who are and you can't do much if you're not logged in. If you want to see the video check out the socials 👉🏻 nerdgirl.net.

The next issue of my personal newsletter, January 11, is on Brendan's suicide. The issue after that, January 25, begins with a deep dive and analysis of Heated Rivarly. I assume my audience is inline with my progressive views but that does not mean that discussing suicide and m/m sex will sell.

Bluesky needs a dynamic app icon that changes color based on realtime vibes so you know what you’re in for before logging in

Mr. Lisa estimates we got about 6” between midnight and 8 am with another 4” today. The snow was up to Thursday’s chin so he created an area for her to do her thing. Don’t know how Mr Lisa figured out or read a leaf blower rocks socks in the winter but here we are!

Sorry my guy, you don't need to keep a book as a physical reminder to tell your story or who you are. Donate them! Recycle them! Gift them! If you need a reminder, use the library. (And no, libraries don't want your stinky books.) Signed, a librarian www.nytimes.com/2025/12/28/o... (Gift link.)

"And I never say no" We need to have a serious talk about the way "AI companion" apps not only prey on the vulnerable, but are priming their users to ignore consent and to conflate love with control. We need AI regulations across so many sectors, but this area is particularly horrifying.

I often see those posts as deflections because whatever you say is not going to appease them. They are like the bros who want to "debate" your humanity. They get their jollies by exhausting you. We. Keep. Us. Safe.

Good Omens Tarot: XIII Death I read ages ago Death is a positive card & pulling it towards the end of the year is nearly perfect. The card means change, transition, and closing of the end and the beginning of the new. With 2025 being shite, I take this card as a good predictor of 2026! #TarotSky

RIP Google Reader.

In non Heated Rivalry or Eurovision news, several models are predicting my village is going to get from 3" - 9" of snow tomorrow. So who knows how much will dump! Good thing neither myself or Mr. Lisa plan on leaving the house tomorrow.

Huge user of NYT's Cooking section and I read the Athletic. Plus Amex comps entertainment subscriptions up to $25 so I pay like a $1 every month. NYT emailed me to tell me they are upping my sub by nearly 20% ($30). Mr. Lisa doesn't read NYT anymore so I went to cancel. It's now $8/mo for a year.

Reading r/fauxmoi and it’s mentioned Jacob Tierney was in Letterkenny and he’s GLEN! The world makes so much sense knowing Glen wrote and directed Heated Rivalry. 😂

I love fanatics. lol

I'm all invested in the stupid Heated Rivalry show & the stupid first book is going to take forever to get to me. I DID enjoy that the author based Shane/Ilya on Steve Rogers/Bucky Barnes from Captain America. Her original fan fic was on AO3 and I think she removed it or something but copies exist!

HOW IN THEE FUCK COULD THEY JUST END IT LIKE THAT, ERIN???!!!!!?!?????????!!!! cc @originaloestrus.bsky.social

Today is Stuff Your Kindle Day! (I have 1600 ebooks in my Kindle app based on Netgalley and previous SYKD, and trust me, it ALL sounds good!) 👇🏻 www.romancebookworms.com

ho ho ho. (or hoe hoe hoe. you choose.)

Mr. Lisa & I went grocery shopping yesterday for regular and holiday meals. We stopped at Meijers, Costco, a bakery, & a local market. Cost spent in 2.5 hours? About $450. Meat alone was $100+ for hamburger, bacon, and a chuck roast. We should not be spending that amount of money for a family of 2.

This is a bit of a serious post, but it's so important to remember that a person can be mentally ill *and* have genuine spiritual experiences; the two are not mutually exclusive. Please don't be afraid to seek medical help over the fear that it'll make your experiences stop. #WitchSky

When I was a bookseller, I was one of those snotty assholes who thought it was a stupid genre. I was schooled heavily, learned a lot about the genre, and now majority of my fiction reading is romance (all sub genres). I also write romance! I will defend this genre to my last breath.

ONE 👏 OF 👏 US #HeatedRivalry

- "Irregardless" is not a word. (It is in the OED. It's been used since 1795.) - "Correct" grammar. (English is a bastardization of 29384320 languages. It is also a living language where rules change ALL THE TIME. There is no such thing as "correct" grammar.) - And don't start a sentence with "and."

I respectfully disagreed with someone here. (No swears or agression, I promise!) My response was nuanced and thoughtful. Not only does this person no longer follow me but I now no longer follow him! I didn't know this was something you could do (have someone enable you to not follow them.)

Many have asked me if I have seen Heated Rivalery yet (not YET! Chill) and my opinion which I'm flattered. (And why? No idea.) This weekend, I promise. This GQ article is respectful and gives Storrie and Williams grace. Read it. www.gq.com/story/heated...

Many don't know this but I worked in tech (specifically in support and network engineering) from mid-1990s to mid-2000s before I said fuck mediocre white men, I'm going into humanities. A zoomer attended a local women in tech group and heard my story. She's bringing me to present in March for STEM.

I think I developed a recipe for apple cake! Mr. Lisa loves apple cake but the last time I made it, I found it to be underwhelmingly spiced and dry. This time, I was inspired by another apple cake's flavor profile so I used that and modified the baking powder and soda mix. Will share if edible!

Question for #tarotsky, tarot readers, and woo practioners: When you pull a card/do a reading, do you consult more than one source for interpretation? I consult three. No idea WHY I do this or when this started, but I feel like it's overkill? Interested in what other people are doing!

It’s a love letter to Democracy!

Hey all...read anything and everything by Dr. Snyder and/or Anne Applebaum. They've lived there. They know their onions. She has a free-to-read op ed in the NYT today that he recommends you read.

I honestly feel Bad for people That don’t read romance. They have no idea that they could feel this way ALL THE TIME.

A very dear friend unexpectedly died this week. He was 46. Between Brendan, this, Trump, Mr Lisa getting laid off, and god know’s what else, 2025 can go fuck itself. Burn it all down.

Well, I've spent my self-allocated time on Bluesky for this morning. I've dipped some thoughts and said the word fuck a lot. My work is done.

I watched this in a high school English class. The teacher, who was Black, looked at his students, majority white, and said, "If you're not racist now, you will be." And that has stayed with me for over 30 years. (And, watching GenX grow, he was not wrong.)

Recently, a post went around social media where a GoodReads user posted that "On Tyranny" by Timothy Synder was popular with the romance reading crowd. I was intrigued so I checked out the book. I was so inspired I bought a copy to keep. Snyder's summary of 20th C is chilling and a must read.