basketball, pumpkin pie, & grief. what does this have you into, pals?

Every year around this time, I ask folks to consider doing something in support of Native people. This year, please join me in supporting the Native Organizers Alliance as they build grassroots power, defend Native voting rights, and equip our people for collective struggle through skill-building.

therapy canceled 5 minutes before our start. glad my therapist is safe, just bumming as I was really feeling the need to have therapy today (and always tbh). dying uncle (my former boss & colleague at the funeral home) has me tripping. this grief feels like the ultimate shapeshifter. just, not okay.

To be clear (since NPR isn't), the "joke" is premised on the fact that Trump is kidnapping people w/o due process and shipping them to offshore concentration slave camps in defiance of court orders, human rights accordances, the U.S. constitution, all tenets of common decency, and international law.

grief heavy, gooooodnight.

thanksgrieving is this anything

Doggo, Scout, got a funeral home visit to open it up and run a bit on this rainy day. Love having her excited energy in the space. Un/related: how legit is that new rug that started and guides the interior updates. Really hoping it will pull the building together.

Ash & I starting hermit mode turkey day until their surgery 12/12 to keep ourselves as healthy & as least contaminated as possible to avoid surgery and PTO rescheduling. All intentions for a smooth surgery & an easeful-ish & supported recovery. Nervous while also amped to be care assist to my wife.

(A) stop feeling pressure to be perfect; (B) normalize asking questions, because that is normalizing learning; (C) do not ask AI if your turkey is done; ask a meat thermometer

Hey @mayorcarter.bsky.social are you in control of the St. Paul police or are you no longer in control of them as they are claiming on the ground as they assault residents? bsky.app/profile/viam...

Hearing that ICE is in the funeral home’s vicinity. Maryland & Rose maybe? If you have info, do share. Finishing up a post op appointment atm.

sitting with grief & a coffee.

Want better schools? Tax billionaires Want jobs? Tax billionaires Want affordable healthcare? Tax billionaires Want better infrastructure? Tax billionaires Went well funded Social Security? Tax billionaires Want a balanced budget? Tax billionaires Want democracy? Tax billionaires

More people need to be told to shut the fuck up. Mainly white folks.

I really need to practice saying “what a weird, rude thing to say” to the people who say weird, rude things to me

Finding out my uncle aka boss/colleague for many years at the funeral home is down to his last living days of life right before this grief garland event might be the best/worst timing. Woof.

Just a lil midnight listen to Francis Weller on "You're Going to Die: The Podcast" <-- which is great if you're unfamiliar. yg2d.podbean.com

I'm up sitting with my intentions for the "Grief Garland Making: Conversations & Crafting" gathering at the funeral home tomorrow. The night before has me feeling like a grief imposter, but I am acknowledging that I'm not the expert - but a grieving person in search of communal grief & life support.

Headed to the Ordway for The Notebook. s/o to Binx for the tickets and time!

If you're buying gifts for the holidays, maybe consider supporting artists, writers, creators. Gift someone a Patreon, commission an art piece, buy a book, purchase handmade jewelry, etc. Your support means everything.

Sent an obit to the newspaper yesterday at 1pm for a Sunday run. Awaiting a proof back two hours before deadline and I am STRESSED. It still needs to get to the family before the 2pm deadline for their eyes/heart to green light it. Arranging flowers for tomorrow between obsessively refreshing email.

Glad to see such a large opening night crowd for women’s hockey in St. Paul. Also glad to see my state’s team, which sees fit to employ a transphobic goon, lose.

The Somali communities in Minnesota are warm, vibrant, and brilliant. Minnesota is lucky to have them and we will stand alongside our neighbors and friends in the communities all of us call home.

Boosting these know your rights resources in Minnesota tonight —you can reach out to have them ordered for free Mpls

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BREAKING: Sen. Elissa Slotkin says police responded to her home tonight in response to a bomb threat. Slotkin wasn't at home at the time. This is two days after Trump said Slotkin and other Democrats committed "seditious conspiracy, punishable by death."

it's good to join together to go "lmaooooo" sometimes actually

Makes sense. She usually has plans on January 6th.

Wolves game dialed up. Fireside sitting. Joint rolled. Check in: How does this find you doing this evening?

Bit of a wild ride today, but made it through. A dear friend staying with us this weekend, & another joins tomorrow evening. Laughter & chosen family love in great abundance. Intentions of taking my grounding time to prep for being the best host / space holder at Sunday's Grief Garland Making event.

Put myself out there & it’s looking like a full turn out Sunday! I feel confident the connections will be magical & supportive that I’m releasing anxiety as I pull the final intentions together. The funeral home is all set up for the gathering, & that’s nice to have ready to roll! Let’s do this! 🫶

The raising of the 2025 Walter Cup Championship banner at the @pwhlfrost.bsky.social home opener 💜

I’m here tonight for bingo and we just did a shot in Charlie’s memory.

One day this will be over. One way or another.

It's wild to think there are intelligent giant beings just swimming around in the ocean

late dinner cooking. lofi playing. bopping with gratitude for the day. how does this find you tonight, pals?

i want to grow old with my trans friends

They lied about it. All of it. A thug cop shot an unarmed woman five times without justification, boasted about it to his colleagues, and then this administration tried cover it all up by arresting her and charging her with felonies.

The President of the United States has raped multiple children. And multiple women. The President of the United States fomented violent insurrection against our gov’t to preserve power. And today he threatened his opposition with death. If you aren’t speaking up, you’re complicit: 202-224-3121

Booked needed last minute solo time at The Grief Room for later week. Be familiar with this life support: www.thegriefroom.com

This is a real image of a real thing that exists in the universe! And because a bunch of humans decided to get together and build a space telescope, we get to see it! 🤯

Hey, why didn’t @governorwalz.mn.gov say anything about Ice operating 5 miles from his house today?

Booked needed last minute solo time at The Grief Room for later week. Be familiar with this life support: www.thegriefroom.com

rally caps on after talk therapy and craniosacral action / non action today.

my representative says ABOLISH ICE

how does this constitute giving money away if you in fact just gave it to yourself

So, I have a thing for hardware store buckets. Can you ever have too many?! Look at this little guy Ash brought home as a surprise from Menards! Little big joys for the Win.

This is how rape culture and a patriarchy works. The loudest, most extroverted men get deference from the ones who prefer to avoid conflict and want to stay in the good graces of the bully. And the consequence is whatever the bullies want to do to women, it’s allowed through complicit silence.

This is a really important thread and I don't think enough men understand how pervasive this is in our culture.

There was a dude on scene today, enormous white dude, just absolutely leaning in and screaming about honor and you should give up this evil job. Really in their faces. I have no real evidence but I’m guessing he’s military. Seems to speak their language. More of this please. Hero shit.