got that memetic hazard pussy she S on my C till I P

whilst in new york i convinced a girl that in the uk we pronounce the bass in bass guitar like bass the fish. Like how paul McCartney is a famous british Bass player

going to be taking it very easy for this month so I'm not going to be making too many plans. October was insane and i need to rest

friend gave me a deep tissue massage yesterday and... i did not know my back could feel this good what do you mean you're not supposed to feel resistance in your back muscles when you move?

ahh i love my life i love my community of perverts this is the biggest social yet and it is mind blowing

I guess this is as good a time as any to remind you all that I wrote a cool, queer book set in 1830s London with magic and class politics, which you can buy from all good book stores and online, and when you do I spend the money on looking like a hot bitch at raves.

bluesky moderation decided to label mel's entire account so you probably won't see her fundraiser for bottom surgery. now you will.

i am a misandrist and a misogynist but do not make the mistake of thinking i just hate everyone, my hatred for men is a very different shape than my hatred for women. plus there’s non-binary people, who i don’t care about

WAIT STEAMOS IS ARCH-BASED? HOW DID I NOT KNOW THIS

the only positive in all this is there was a mandatory all-staff meeting from 18:30 to 21:00 i was supposed to attend but i got out of because the first one was when i was in New York and the second one was tonight and i was not going to cancel my anniversary plans for an absurdly late work meeting

I'm home. I'm safe. I think I'll dissociate into videogames until the adhd meds wear off.

do not want to go home right now but i know if i don't i will do something unhealthy

i am too on a comedown to regulate my emotions right now this fucking sucks.

oh cool and now the trains are fucked love that for me

never mind, guess that's my night ruined

alright lets go to a show on no sleep

brain don't do this to me i just settled on my gender and body goals don't you fucking dare

ahhh balls

it's vampire survivors

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

You should read the chain of quotes here & I'm going to link some previous skeets of mine in the replies that talk about references, frameworks, & aught else that may be useful info. Check the replies to those too there's some good info there. At some point I'll compile it into a proper thread

it seems sleeping for 20h solid after returning from new york on sunday may have actually fucked my sleeping pattern who'd have thought

warlock

I FORGOR TO POST MY POST-RAVE WEEN LOOK

i actually really hate the "consent is sexy" rhetoric it's not. it's not fucking sexy. it's a mandatory prerequisite for making sexy happen. air isn't sexy. it's a requirement to staying alive.

can i convince more girls to go vegan with the knowledge that it makes your blood taste better

You should read the chain of quotes here & I'm going to link some previous skeets of mine in the replies that talk about references, frameworks, & aught else that may be useful info. Check the replies to those too there's some good info there. At some point I'll compile it into a proper thread

i guess it's a loki~ goes off on several kind of night

people make mistakes when engaging in kink. that's okay, shit happens. sometimes unexpected shit, sometimes a lack of knowledge causes it, but it should be talked about so you can both grow and move on without it becoming trauma for one or both of you.

also important: even a quick debrief after a scene is important even if it was just a hookup it's important to ask (& be asked): - how was that for you? - did anything not work for you? - what would you like done differently if we did this again? - are you okay? do you need any more aftercare?

and for all that is fucking holy check the aftercare needs of everyone involved and give it. if you're the one getting demolished then you will likely get priority but once you are cognisant and ok the others involved will likely need a chance to unwind and receive aftercare and you need to step up

bottoms & subs it's also on you to check consent & bring up negotiation. never assume the person you're hooking up with knows everything. you may be more experienced & even if you aren't, you know your body best and need to communicate your needs and check theirs your safety is your responsibility

the first one is tricky because sometimes you're not normal because the community has shit norms and sometimes it's you who have a shit attitude can be hard to tell actually! and sometimes there's not even any foul play it's just different vibes that's fine

i think we really need to normalise asking "what does sex look like for you?" instead of just making assumptions and going off vibes during hookups and stuff

some good places to start when you enter a community: - you're a newcomer! introduce yourself and make conversation - don't assume because the people around you are being familiar with each other that you can be too - check consent before touching anyone if you think that might be welcomed cont.

too often i get people telling me i am really good about checking consent and every time i am flabbergasted because im sitting here like 'this feels like the bare minimum do people really not do this?'

other people who say true things like "you need XYZ to live well" are not the manager of XYZ and can't control the fact that you, personally, currently lack access to XYZ. they can, however, help keep you and others motivated to fix that for yourself and others. this is called "not being a doomer."

the trick to not getting kicked out of communities is really easy by the way all you have to do is: - be normal - be respectful - ask for consent before involving yourself in things

learned helplessness is a rot and you must purge it if you want to learn how to live.

shit doesn't have to be perfect. especially if you're new at this. communities form and collapse and reform. you learn something each time and hopefully are able to build stronger foundations and better practices that keep it going for longer. that is how you keep community alive.

crying again because baby came to lay on me as we were all cuddling just before i left New York

i swear to god every discourse here is fucking stupid

also if you are unhappy with where you live it's not impossible to move somewhere that fits what you want to do and what you want to be better. it's fucking difficult. it's terrifying, even, and you might need help, but you can make that happen. it takes a lot of work and bravery but you can do it

fun fact if you don't have a local community that fits your niche you can just make one. that is a thing you can do. if you don't have enough locals for that then you can branch out to an online community. you can hold meetings where you all get in a central location every often too.

fact #1: logging off and going outside and making friends and finding community os objectively good and healthy for you. fact #2: people have differing situations and needs be that social, medical, whatever the fuck else. fact #3: not having access to these does not invalidate them as facts.

being a trans woman online is so cool. people either jerk off to how hot you are or they jerk off to how much they hate you, but either way they don't tip

FACT: you should be sappier with your friends and loved ones. there is no reason not to be.

Be nice and the universe nice is back And if it ever gets a bit much Just go outside and smile at a stranger Catch their eye and spread some happiness You'll get it back tenfold Because if you want to make your world better You make it better for the others around you.

on the internet you can say something true like 'it is healthy to go outside and make friends and find community' and the someone will kick off discourse about how this oppresses ppl who live in rural areas or have disabilities that make it difficult as if the latter prevents the former being true.