Women are seen to exist in a kind of perpetual emotional and moral debt, owing care, attention, sexual access, or empathy to men who are not seen to owe this back to women in equal quantities.

The sense that women have excessive moral obligations to men—to care for their feelings, to defer to their interests—but can legitimately make only minor claims in such care from others is central to how misogyny actually perpetrates itself as an ideology.

RIP Tom Lehrer, one of the single most talented, prescient, hilarious, and underappreciated satirists this country ever produced. a man who actually called it like he saw it youtu.be/JPrAuF2f_oI

Just....fuck.

Though I cannot tell why it was exactly that those stage managers, the Fates, put me down for this shabby part of a whaling voyage

Ah fuck we got the Philip K Dick future 😞

Oh, horrible vultureism of earth! from which not the mightiest whale is free.

Can we nip this "Alligator Alcatraz" shit in the bud? We don't need to adopt their cutesy marketing when talking about the concentration camp in the Florida Everglades

Thinkinge of askinge Chat GPT a questioun about your plannes, thoughtes, ideas? Trye a tarot deck ynstead. Cheaper, bettir for the environment, bettir resultes, not evil.

lie abed

Wrote this piece for Harpers Bazaar about the life, legacy, and hate-induced murder of Jonathan Joss through the eyes of being a Two-Spirit Native person this Pride. I hope you take a read. For Him. For all of us. 🪶

Nice video and story about how to live with black bears in CT. My town has a black bear hanging out this summer, so these reminders are timely. The advice should be applicable to other states as well. today.uconn.edu/2025/05/livi...

eight years ago today we all watched the glory of zendaya falling madly in love with tom holland and the internet was never the same

The white whale is their demigorgon.

the skeleton of the whale furnishes but little clue to the shape of his fully invested body

Is it not curious, that so vast a being as the whale should see the world through so small an eye

Hey everybody, you may have seen me asking that question to RFK Jr. about increased autism diagnoses among nonwhite people. I wrote a whole book about autism, neurodiversity and why we need to move on from talking about vaccines. Buy it here. www.harpercollins.com/products/wer...

Just sent my annual "you gotta do a better job protecting LGBTQ+ kids" email to the principal at my kid's school. I'm tired.

On a recent flight my seatmates learned I was a writer and asked my opinion on AI. They didn't understand genAI is based on work stolen from authors, and they DEFINITELY didn't know about the energy costs. Both shocked them. People just don't know.

And lo, the trailer did drop: www.apple.com/tv-pr/news/2... #murderbot

I wrote about this a bit in my last book but it really shakes me that a defining feature of this catastrophic era is that we just keep going to work. We work through pandemics, we work through natural disasters, we work through economic calamity, we work through coups, we work, we work, we work.

On every day, of course. But for this day especially, also of course.

massively depressing that the big scandal is that the shithead guy from the atlantic got texted accidentally and not the part where they're raining more death on yemen

I’m in so many groupchats and not one of them has leaked our war plans.

straight guys will learn more about getting the girl of their dreams from this one video than from the entire output of the manosphere

ok today i'll be normal

Good answer to a completely inane question

The public comment period for changing passports to misgender trans people is open. Please take a moment to let them know that you do not support that change.

This is what they mean when they said they wanted to "run the United States like a business"--strip it of everything of value and make off with the money.

The "Gulf of America" thing is ridiculous, but if the press gives in on this, the administration will just keep pushing - maybe conditioning access on deadnaming people, saying Trump won the 2020 election, you name it. Draw a line in the sand now, while the stakes seem small.

mood: said "I hate everybody. Not you. Just everything" on a work call today.

I wonder if it's particularly American to have the Teams chat at work be essentially triage. Like, literally medical triage. "Do you think I need to go to the ER/urgent care for this?" is not an uncommon bit of morning chit chat.

If you're wondering why some of us seem more angry at Democrats than Republicans it's because Republicans loudly announced all the evil shit they planned to do, Democrats fund-raised off of it for months, then after losing the election just slunk away and pouted in a pile of feigned incompetence.

We might as well

To the guy watching a podcast without headphones in line at the store, fuck you

This is such a great thread. Let me add that there is nothing that you, an individual, can do, that will scale because you are one person. The people arguing that you should only do things that “scale” are justifying not doing anything.

Hell is empty, And all the devils are here.

A really good read. And as a rural Californian, thank you for volunteering, Mr Hahn.

I'm uncomfortable with the inevitable "his work was always crap" because it seems to say "you can tell who the predators are by how well they write" and ... no no you absolutely cannot, that's the whole point.

Look I'm no fan of any corp that collects user data. As they say, if the product is free, you're the product. So I have no great love of TikTok. But the only difference between TikTok and, say, Meta, is *who* is collecting that data. And that makes a TikTok ban nothing more than xenophobia.