i like bsky in many ways, but this site's culture around conflict is like. very deeply, insidiously toxic in a way that is tailor-made to seed paranoia and dismantle your self-worth and self-esteem, all while seeming like the Nice Friendly Alternative to Socmed Warzones, and i am Struggling with it

there needs to be a term for how ongoing exposure to people being Assholes and/or Incompetent about a certain thing can be deeply corrosive to your perception of whether you're in the failure mode of the role that thing plays in your own life, out of sheer repulsion at the idea of being That Guy

Sometimes it’s not “media literacy” it’s “Other people have interior lives and you have to talk to them like you think those lives matter”

Look all I’m saying is some people meditate and some people fantasize about hiding soon-to-be-rotting fish in someone else’s house. We all seek peace in our own way

alt: that's an undiagnosed anxiety condition. you're describing an anxiety condition

one of the tragic parts of being online in minority communities is you'll run into people who are like "i will never truly be safe unless i am surrounded by people just like me" and it's like honey ethnonationalism doesn't become woke just because it's for lesbians

I am fucking begging people to go to this website and do what it says and get rid of the AI summaries tenbluelinks.org

Remember! Petitions are worth signing and sharing around! They communicate our numbers and big numbers scare corpos!

You don't need to persuade them in the conventional sense. Have you tried reasoning with someone who is power tripping? It doesn't work. What you do is ruin their experience of trying to exert power over you. Make it an unbearable drag. Make it backfire. Make them prefer to just leave you be.

You have to defend the right for art and media to be "sexually gratifying" You have to defend "gratification" You have to defend the right for people to get off nasty style You need to be more disgusted with people who want to say what people can do with their own time and money than x or y kink

#tabletopmog how to roll any die in your head (if you don't mind Steps)!: -memorize the d2, d4, d6, d8, and d10 No Dice No Problem tables -use diedream as a d3 -> d9 positional table (1: A-I, 2: J-R, 3: S-Z, 27: reroll) -use d2 with d6 to roll d12, or with d10 to roll d20; roll d10 twice for d100

#tabletopmog life is a living nightmare but at least. there are dice mechanics

how in god's fucking name are my sister and her husband THIS consistently complete and total fucking morons. IT IS ONE OF THE HOTTEST DAYS OF THE YEAR AND OUR A/C IS ALREADY COMPLETELY FAILING TO KEEP UP WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU COOKING THINGS ON THE STOVE *AND* IN THE OVEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i consider it a gesture of goodwill to the chattering class that i'm willing to tolerate someone talking about "the austrian mustache man" "unaliving" himself if they sound like they'd be willing to kick a living creature to death about it every time the platform makes them do so. can't do more

look if you're gonna algo-censor yourself for a platform i think the least you can do is sound visibly disgusted by it

Brendan Fraser has famously talked about how this type of abuse derailed his life and career for decades people.com/movies/brend.... Assault and abuse aren't gender-specific issues, as you're saying.

This quote really struck me. “There is big portion of women in the world who think liberation is having the privilege to get away with committing the same wrongs as men do without impunity. This is what it all boils down to.“

NOBODY should be harassed or assaulted. Animus’s story makes ME feel panic just reading it. That shouldn’t have happened. And we need to think about every person as a person, first and foremost.

Women are not immune from committing sexual harassment and assault. We like to hope they wouldn’t do it, but they would and do.

One of the things I feel is really important is emphasizing that men can be sexually harassed and assaulted, and often when I emphasize this, some people get mad because they feel it’s a women’s issue. But men can be sexually harassed and assaulted, and I have seen it happen.

Women like women too, officer. Try not to fixate on this. Let's move on.

okay I'm sorry but this post pisses me off. whenever I use this emoji, it's not because I'm only trying to do the bare minimum to show support or anything like that it's because I want to let the person know that I'm there for them even if I can't find the words to be any more eloquent than that

lrp oh god this so much. i feel terrible that i probably come off as so unfriendly specifically because of how often my brain just completely short-circuits when it comes to replying to people on pretty much any platform these days. i promise a lack of reply from me is not disapproval or disinterest

yeah

#tabletopmog found a method for keeping the granularity spiral contained that i am Very much enjoying so far, will have to see later whether it adapts well to different systems 👀

i love you transfem butches. i love you transmasc butches. i love you nb butches. i love you cis butches who understand that you cannot self identify your way out of being affected by transphobia, and thus choose to be in community with trans people regardless. i love every way you can be butch.

i feel like i am experiencing the final boss of summer. please god just get the one more Bullshit Hot Day out of the way tomorrow and then let it stop, i've been on the edge of throwing up all day from the heat snd the fan running full blast 😣

Every day, I make sure to move just enough to avoid being mistaken for a corpse

SOMETHING BEAUTIFUL IS GOING TO HAPPEN

I am not the corpse of my old hopes. I am alive i am changing i am always new.

#tabletopmog thinking about the granularity/clarification spiral that happens Very easily if you're playing solo w/freeform questions, and how to work with/mitigate it w/o just going 'lol quit overthinking it,' bc people responding that way to my questions irl gave me a severe anxiety disorder lmao

I finished 7.3 and did the summer event right after so I wanted to draw Sphene in the maritime set 😍 #ffxivart #ffxiv

If someone clicked on you in an RTS, what would your voice lines be? '.....' '[silent wave/thumbs up]' '[comically exaggerated HOOARGH Noise of Mild Effort]' '[long unskippable rant about something tangentially related to the task at hand, ending in a Would You Like to Hear All That Again trap]'

It is toxic positivity. I firmly believe if you want to know what’s really going on in any organization, befriend the disgruntled: they’re likely that way because the forced jollity makes them want to barf. They’re the ones who can’t stand the dishonesty.

A mentor once reminded me that “nobody likes a Debbie Downer.” He was right, which irked me no end because I think the celebration of the perpetually upbeat and positive among us is an intentional means of control. It’s the reason elephants remain in rooms.

Daddy Flamingo checking on his baby… ❤️

sometimes in life, all you can do is give someone the choice to either demonstrate that they mean well and fucked up, or completely show their ass by going on the defensive or trying to pretend you didn't say anything. anyway if you think it's okay to misgender shitty trans people go fuck yourself 😐

zenos like actually

AUGUST 16, 2025

I really really really need people to get over this idea that DID is some mythical extremely super secret rare disorder that like a handful of people in the world "actually" have. Sure, 2% maximum is a very small proportion, but there are 8.2 *billion* people. 2% of 8.2B is 172 *million*.

imagine a pirate dies, and they gently put a 2nd eye patch on over his other eye.

You know in movies where they kinda wipe their hand gently over the face of a dead guy and it closes their eyes. It would be a good gag if they did that on a guy with glasses. Either his eyes close or the glasses turn into sunglasses.

I love this stock photo.

"It's cis men who invented that shame!" OK and. Why are you helping them

Micropenis is an intersex condition, but I guess because of the stigma around penises that literally everyone continues to perpetuate, how nonexistent intersex people are in the consciousness of people, its ok to be mocked and humiliated for the shame of Having A Body

i have a pet theory that most level-headed ways of thinking about urban fantasy premises tend to devolve down into issues of disability

Can't even count the amount of thanks I've received from anonymous women for drawing their exact fantasy lol. People can be deeply embarrassed or anxious of enjoying certain kinks so seeing them out there is a relief

stop writing. it's time to make your protagonist on the sims 4 and do a hundred baby challenge

eventually i need to talk in detail abt how i realized a huge thing that puts my back up so much about the 'cozy' label for fiction, which is that the way people talk about it is *full* of eating disorder language where 'low-calorie' is replaced with 'low-stress.' once you see it you can't unsee it.