Really fun/depressing chat with @edeggans.bsky.social, @theashleyray.bsky.social and @elamin.bsky.social about the end of The Late Show. youtu.be/dZuJLQTTTAE?...

OMG Yes, run Paula, run!

theee FIRST your poly big sister column is UP! is this lady helping her partner cheat on their spouse? is it ok to break up if you want an abortion but he wants to raise the kid with his wife? my answer might surprise you! www.deeptrouble.net/p/am-i-helpi...

Mad Men rewatch pod continues with one of the best eps ever, “Tomorrowland,” with @theashleyray.bsky.social www.patreon.com/posts/mad-yo...

TONIGHT at CASA CHIDA in silver lake, it's your favorite weekly comedy show! 7pm. $10 margaritas. FREE. rsvp www.eventbrite.com/e/chida-hous...

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if you watched euphoria last night i have already reported you to the authorities for breaking the Ashley's Nieces Are Sweet Innocent Children Even As Adults law

this is it, this is the one cc @phoeberoi.bsky.social

same! i was so shocked by the vulture book gossip piece, i checked how it did on amazon/nytimes. it never made the ny times list and never went higher than #7000 on amazon non-fiction sales. truly niche discourse

adult braces only sold 3000 copies. not a damn one of you who was arguing with me about it actually read it

came to see if @netflix.com is here cuz they announced the show im on, but theyre not so ill do it for them: Funny AF with Kevin Hart, a new competition series where Kevin and a team of comedy legends are searching for the next comic star and YOUR vote will crown the winner. Starting April 20.

As someone else wrote, Ashley is imminently fair to Lindy. I've been glued to Ashley's perspective on ADULT BRACES because of her own background as a solo poly and comedian. The relationship sounded godawful to me (and I have a solo poly partner), so I wanted to hear someone cut through the noise.

we win <3

tune into comics unleashed this season to see if i convince byron allen to try polyamory

Ashley does it again!

I really appreciate this Lindy West deep dive from Ashley: dense, fair, empathetic to Lindy, and proportionate about the context of her work (seriously, it feels like every other write-up of her book was from some smarmy loser who never got over Jezebel calling them a TERF in 2015.)

lindy west can't kill millennial feminism but she can show us how little we gain from making the personal political when the personal is driven by social media engagement

now updated with my thoughts on Aham's film that Lindy co-wrote, Thin Skin

don't think i shared my full lindy west deep dive on here, so here ya go! www.deeptrouble.net/p/the-lindy-...

and remember we are NOT watching the new season of euphoria. why? because it is illegal to watch my niece play a stripper even if she is 25. i talked to the supreme court. she is on the lifetime cutie patootie baby registry and sam levinson is going to PRISON

after watching his movie, i can say this is true

I liked this.

can someone listen to this and see if we talked about polyamory, i gotta go to a meeting www.earwolf.com/episode/i-on...

i will keep talking about adult braces actually because i see the bigger picture now. we get this book to go viral, to sell. it makes so much money, she can afford to pay 4 years of alimony. it's a long way out but we can get her there.

in the nytimes interview lindy said she wanted to have a baby and grow old with aham and by the end of adult braces she is the baby to her husband and his gf as they all grow old together in her house, kinda beautiful if you don't think about it

and if they dont respond to my application by 4/15 theyre gonna have to do it for me too

can anyone tell me if idris elba ended up jackin' that train off the tracks

the best summary of adult braces is aham’s bday posts for them truly. it’s her bday if we’re gonna do a jokey joke can she at least be in focus

I finally read this, after bookmarking it. Getting a poly perspective on Lindy’s book is so necessary, given that poly relationships are still generally regarded as “fuckin’ around.” (I have been both monogamous and non-.) If you want a clear-eyed, no-nonsense, no-BS analysis, this is a good one.

OK I read this, which everybody seems to agree is the one good take on Lindy West, and now I’m done.

Love this tbh. I've known so many women that have beat themselves up because some MAN told them that being poly was progressive. That monogamy is ownership. That they're faking their identity (anarchist/queer/whatevs) unless they're poly. And that's why he should get to fuck with other women.

hey, look! the only good take!

This article is darkly fascinating as an example of how transphobia infects your entire ideology. The core argument is that we should not believe people when they say they are trans, were sexully abused or have a mental disorder.

wish i spoke british so i could watch snl uk <3

SING IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS

For instance, I thought this one was interesting and insightful. bsky.app/profile/thea...

OH YEAH well when i told my mom someone said "ashley is fat and poly, she wrote about adult braces" and someone else said "ashley is formerly fat" she went "i think you're still big enough to do it"

"If she saw a relationship like hers but they were all wearing Trump shirts, would she be disgusted that those women could probably offer her some advice on sharing a man?" I assure you, the number of libertarian or even religious conservative swingers is higher than many of you think

There is *a lot* of discourse about Lindy West's new memoir and the fact that Lindy's husband is sending hate mail to journalists covering the book is bananas. But I think this is the definitive piece on the book and the broader story.

Oh, this is actually good! Also, it embodies the spectacle of *some* nonbinary folks who use *a lot* of male privilege including in their relationships.

I WISH I'D KNOWN ABOUT THE EMAILS WHEN I WROTE IT!! Haha, I feel like every piece about the book needs an addendum about the email

I really appreciated this point in the review, because it's something that a lot of the "polyamory/ENM is having a MOMENT" articles and books have missed: polyamory is literally just having a style of relationship. It is not less than that; but it certainly isn't more.

I really appreciate this perspective, especially coming from an author who herself has practiced polyamory for over a decade

As a longtime reader/appreciator of both Ashley Ray and Lindy West, I found this piece to be the most thoughtful, most honest — and therefore most kind — take on West’s new memoir. Lots to consider, thanks to Ray’s ever astute attention, experiential wisdom, and graceful assessment.

most level headed take so far. West frames her poly marriage as some empowering progressive statement when in reality it’s just her life and polyamory isn’t inherently progressive or aspirational 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is great and captures a lot of the issues I've had with this and other nonmonogamy memoirs. Over and over it's mistakes and red flags presented as positive decisions without the distance and reflection to really understand.

all my thoughts on adults braces/lindy west are up www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/art-...