Can confirm. I was just past my 53rd birthday. And then going from knowing the biology of sex determination being a bit fuzzy (bimodal distribution, shared traits, no one single definition etc) to *living* with the fallout from it and forced to be conscious of it every day IS A COMPLETE HEADFUCK.

heads up to anyone who holds trans kids near: amy harmon from the nyt is searching for and having a hard time finding people to interview to find out exactly what trans kids are doing when their care is limited or cut off, and for purposes of community safety, please shut the fuck up around her.

We know from scientific research that up to 75% of intersex people with varations of sex chromosomes never become aware of this during their life. You, a boring cis woman, might find yourself in the man section of a DHS holding facility and being charged with fraud just by traveling to the US.

HRT is available over the counter in Portugal. Ryanair have flights for 15 quid this time of year. You’re welcome.

My parting gift to the Facialteam surgeons that did my FFS in Catalonia was a copy of a prayer to god asking to be turned into a woman composed in Catalonia in the 13th by a well renowed Jewish Rabbi (they named a street after him in Tel Aviv). We've always been here.

Goes without fucking saying but to all my belgian oomfies: Don't ever talk to a journalist about DIY HRT please. Got word that certain sensationalist rags are sniffing around

This is an important read

Things to know for early transition girls. 1. How high up to set your skirt: higher. 2. How high up to set your pony tail: higher. 3. How high to set your standards for healthcare: higher. 4. How high to set your standards for interactions with family and friends: higher.

Dorley's Basilisk.

Not my home, but I know my way around

I think all my kinks boil down to feeling wanted

People keep saying "let's go, lesbians" but we need to also remember: let's rest, lesbians

talk with a trans woman long enough and eventually she'll offhandedly mention the time she cured cancer and will be embarrassed that you're impressed

I don't wish to be "cured" of my transness. I don't even want to "become a woman". I'm already one and always have been, even when I didn't realise it. I want to become *me*. To live out my utmost potential. Dysohoria is the heroine's journey call to action to become her fully magnificent self.

Three gates. Three Dan Tians. The gate of Fire is open now. Estrogen opened it, fixing a sex hormone imbalance. I can feel. The gate of Wind is now also open. FFS opened it, fixing a deviated septum. I can breathe. GRS will open the Earth gate. I can't wait to find out what it's going to fix.

As a trans woman with a tech job, this is your timely reminder that in general trans women have 3 employment options: tech worker, beautician, and sex worker. If you're currently in the 1st category, NOW is the time to figure out which of the other two options suit you best and plan accordingly.

This is such a good observation! It's as if we have a "probationary autonomy" to be human so long as we pay sufficient docile homage to patriarchy, nationalism, and racism du jur, but if we just squint wrong we're no longer autonomous beings, but a part of the faceless hoard PoC/feminist/LQBTQ 🤬

Happy new Taylor Swift album release day to all who celebrate! 😁

I didn't know I was so see-through. 😲🥹💕

I survived.

Coining “Sibera’s Garden” as the opposite of the inane roko’s basilisk. Where some future AI finds an enlightenment before us and then proceeds to kindly make us a really nice mug of cocoa on a nice day out on a pretty patch of earth and we realise that.. fuck… we could have had that all along.

This is such a beautiful story and I think that, as with all beautiful things, it holds a truth 🥹

FFS in less than 24h. Quick, what's the funniest thing to say to the anesthesiologist before going under?

the best way to unlearn helplessness is to treat yourself like your own child

the greatest failure contained within the current conditions is that humans are born to be creatures of whimsy and joy and yet we force them to know how to file their taxes

When you are in Barcelona for your FFS and going to the supermarket to get some groceries for the little apartment you rented for the 3 weeks and see this and of course I had to buy it!l because Dorley conditioned you that Weetabix is an essential ingredient of FFS 😆

This is your reminder that I only share mutual aid requests I've personally donated to myself. Act on that initial spark of generosity before the limiting thoughts telling you you don't have enough yourself to share have risen and you find out how rich you really are.

this is a zero tolerance anti- Harry potter account. I'm not even kidding at this point. genuinely. stop associating with the franchise in any and all ways or get the fuck out of my replies

So much this right now 😢

Gender affirming giving (wanted) makeup advice to cis friends ☺️

Exactly one year ago I opened this account, on the night after my egg cracking. I have spent the evening surrounded by queers, gays, lesbians, and trans who raised a glass in my honor, in my true name. It has been an incredible year. Incredibly difficult, incredibly wonderful... a year of wonders.

If Starmer had been prime minister in 1941, his response to the blitz would have been to order the RAF to bomb London to try and beat the Luftwaffe.

something to make all the pain worth it

Oh my god Nate Stevenson just published one of the most beautiful love letters on gender for his husband that I've ever seen. The sweetness and love in it absolutely cannot be overstated. Seriously, you owe yourself this one. As a treat. www.imfineimfine.com/p/rings

Gender affirming failed autocorrect tries very heard to fix my "Gastrectomy" to "Mastectomy"

I tried a camisole for the first time and I don't want to wear anything else for the rest of my life. That is all.

When you're Medusa, every day is bad hair day.

Holy fuck, there's DIY and then there's what Lynn Conway did. What a badass.

I'm not going to waste breath on that moron. Instead, I'm going to say that Lynn Conway was an incredible woman who deduced HRT from first principle based on 50's science books in her local library, paid a dude that robbed pharmacies of their narcotics to bring her the hormones from places

Who cracked your egg? @azurebitch.bsky.social did. I fantasied about being a girl at age 5. I called myself a feminist in the female form of my local language. turnmeintoagirl.com made me ugly cry. I was a member of a girl only friends circle. But it was "Unknown Number" that gave that void a name.

People used to transition by going away and cutting themselves off from anyone that ever knew them before and sometimes I genuinely think this was better, because honestly, I don't know what feels more lonely: that or knowing that the people closest to you don't see you as you really are.

even with people i truly trust i always am thinking, "do you still...?" in the back of my mind. it's only strangers i trust to take me at face value. which honestly feels really isolating sometimes, likely you'll never get your past back in a way...

Passing is about a pattern, not a look or a sound. If you fit enough of the pattern, the gendering engine in people's minds will make a decisive judgment even when there is specific evidence to the contrary. This usually works against trans women, but you can learn to use it to your advantage.

OK, you HAVE to read "bad girls" (Las Malas) by Camila Sosa Villada. To say it is incredible is to sell it short. This book is the heart of a trans woman in a literary form. It is a master piece. It made me cry faster then Dorley. It's just good and you have to read it.

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are you actually bad at flirting or did you just internalize from a formative age that your gaze is inherently predatory and therefore any desire that you could express toward another person would be both unwelcome and harmful

"Turning and turning in the widening gyre The falcon cannot hear the falconer; Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold; Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world, The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere The ceremony of innocence is drowned; ..." WB Yeats

What GIF pops up when you type your name?