Dear "men" on dating apps, If you're quoting "Eddie Izzard" to call yourself "a lesbian trapped in a man's body," then you really ought to know by now that she's Suzy, and she's not trapped anymore. It's never too late. Love, Kass

SLIGHTLY YOUNGER TRANS WOMAN — "Is it AGP to say I would fuck my clone?" 1. - "I don't think you should worry about that typology stuff." 2. - [Esprit de Corps - Medium] "I would also fuck my clone." 3. - [Electrochemistry - Heroic] "I would also fuck your clone."

We enjoyed reading your manuscript for the first modern novel. Unfortunately there are too many inconsistencies regarding Sancho Panza and his donkey, and we have reluctantly decided not to publish it at this time. We hope to consider more of your work in the future.

"The poet runs untrammelled across the meadow. The translator dances in shackles." - RF Kuang, BABEL

An entanglement for whom I never found occasion to come up with a cutesy nickname to refer here has ended the fling. Perhaps the fact that they had no nickname was a sign.

Apparently it's currently something called "Lesbian Week" right now, but Espose is sick. 😢

"A lie was not a lie if it was never uttered; questions that were never asked did not need answers. They would both remain perfectly content to linger in the liminal, endless space between truth and denial." - RF Kuang, BABEL

There's a newish person in my life whom I'll call Side Enby. Today at lunch, they told me they wrote a poem inspired by our first hookup, and showed it to me with visible trepidation. It was actually quite good!

A politician’s job is to convince the rich to give them money so they can con the non-rich into voting for them and then rule for the rich

Accomplishments so far today: - Showered and shaved - Brainstormed subtitles for my book - Hiding from my in-laws

was reminded of the card game War. it's sort of maddening in that there are no actual choices, just a random start and the whole game plays itself mechanically. the only way to get an advantage is to have a little or not-so-little something special about you under your clothes. not fair at all

I just sent my editor words and images to help guide her in selecting a book cover designer, and give that other human being with talents I can barely fathom ideas to guide their work. Why on earth someone would want to feed prompts to a plagiarism machine instead, I cannot understand.

"Percussion Discussion" by Max Roach and Charles Mingus is drum and bass.

Sports are for people with inadequate commitment to alcohol.

If all U.S. states had as stringent financial oversight of higher education as Massachusetts, a lot more colleges would be going out of business.

Batalla de chovinismos

Anyone hear anything about what the closing of Hampshire College will mean for the Yiddish Book Center?

7 year old: how long does it take people to convert to Judaism? Me: maybe 2-3 years? 7 year old: well it takes 10 years to become a sushi chef.

"She had done the usual trick—been nice. She would never know him. He would never know her. Human relations were all like that, she thought, and the worst (if it had not been for Mr. Bankes) were between men and women. Inevitably they were extremely insincere, she thought." - Virginia Woolf

It's amazing how many cis white male lawyers will insist I'm not a woman and then turn around and talk down to me, mansplain things, be ridiculously condescending, ask if I'm getting too emotional, and then ask if I want to grab drinks later. 🤔

"His own little light would shine, not very brightly, for a year or two, and would then be merged into some bigger light, and that in a bigger still." -Virginia Woolf, TO THE LIGHTHOUSE

New profile picture. Rolling out the headshots made by my uncle-in-law, photographer Peter Aaron.

Naturally, if one's days were passed in this seeing of angular essences, this reducing of lovely evenings, with all their flamingo clouds and blue and silver to a white deal four-legged table (and it was a mark of the finest minds so to do), naturally one could not be judged like an ordinary person.

Essay or story idea note to self: Transfeminine gender transition as a form of indentured servitude for white-collar workers

This is funny but America is so untrustworthy that the only way to ensure we don’t lie is to put us in a separate room and have everything we say to Iran certified and recorded by a third party.

Right after I posted this I had a cursed thought about meeting another Kassandra Tomaras... spending a lovely time with her... and only belatedly finding out that the reason she shares the surname is because she's a lovechild of my father's

This is actually one reason I didn't change my surname. Tomaras is not very common even in Greece, and is not held by many Americans. I got used to being the only [Deadname] Tomaras alive. If there's another Kassandra Tomaras, she'd better be a hot anarchist.

kermit and miss piggy are t4t

Me, last night in a dive bar, to two bi cis women: "What self-respecting woman doesn't have a dick?"

Can confirm & I'm really excited about itttt

- I am not Elizabeth Fall, but the way she was mistreated, around the same time I began coming out, reinforced my trend away from writing short science fiction. - "Attack Helicopter" was part of the trans lexicon before the story, which is part of why it worked and explains some of the reaction.

Things have finally calmed down enough that I feel comfortable sharing some good news. Despite what Publisher's Marketplace says here, @jeannethornton.bsky.social and I are actually aiming to get this out by May 2027.

I know we're all focused on today's catastrophe, but yesterday's never ended, and tomorrow's has already begun.

Answering my silly little emails Clickety clack Check the news Have a panic attack

Bluesky, early 2026 = Twitter, early 2023

Kid 2 is currently obsessed with bats, including one species with the scientific name Vampyressa Melissa. Surely a trans woman somewhere in the world has chosen that as her personal name as well.

In the "that story is too good for Bluesky, let me run it by my editor for feedback on whether to shoehorn it into the book" stage of things

bouncing on it using spooky action at a distance. bouncing on it by collapsing the waveform

I wish the hand of god would teleport me out of the US. 🙏

I've been reading the autobiography of Madame Satã, which reports that when he performed *transformista* drag in 1928 Brazil (as "Mulata de Balacochê") the audience shouted "Salve ela a boneca linda," translating literally to something like "Hail to the beautiful doll." We should bring that back

The good news is that June has moved into a larger apartment. But that means her rent has increased. She also has a hearing coming up in a little more than a week. But the case has been assigned to a new judge, which may mean more costly delays. You can help. www.gofundme.com/f/stand-with...

So far I have received zero invites. I have, however, received a note from a legal podcaster saying that I won't be on because being trans isn't a qualification to talk about this issue.

Trans Day of Helping My Girlfriend Afford Her Ridiculously Dragged Out Divorce www.gofundme.com/f/stand-with...

Trans Day of Abolish the Supreme Court Trans Day of Marbury v. Madison was Bullshit

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