This feels like the Bat Signal for dolls.

This feels like the Bat Signal for dolls.

"you'll be on medication the rest of your life!" the most pathetic argument from genitally-obsessed bigots.

Gentle reminder that EVERYONE shot by ICE or the police is innocent. Every single one. Cops aren't Judge Dredd. A person is innocent until proven guilty IN A COURT, so until a person is found guilty by a judge or jury, they're innocent. They're ALL innocent.

Fresno county farm workers are planting onion seeds for next years' harvest. They are basically bent over or on their knees on cold damp ground all day long. In this cold and weather that is hard on their body and they share their bones ache at the end of the day. #WeFeedYou

Got to spend some quality time with Google Sheets tonight, trying to get something sensible for managing beginning and ending odometer readings for the friendly mileage competition of my club. I think I've got it workable.

I'm reminded of the crap I got to deal with years ago about being involved in BDSM (even co-founded a playspace) while existing as a personally sex repulsed individual. I was endlessly told that I was destroying BDSM and kink shaming by having my own participation not be sexual.

Finally putting two and two together... As a kid/teen I had frequent migraines (easily daily) and nose bleeds (at least once a week.) It was always attributed to dietary and environmental factors (caffeine and humidity) but while those are aggravating factors I now see they were not the cause.

I don’t think mainstream feminism has ever really been comfortable with or done much to adjust for the fact that some women are sexually attracted to other women. This simple fact sends many off the rails, and it always gets ugly.

My first university sysadmin job had so much of that, including psych faculty who maintained that it was unreasonable for me to take vacation time during the semester and not respond to an on-call incident while I was on vacation. Also CS faculty who insisted we are running the servers wrong

I had a conversation last night with a friend who is dealing with the endless disposability that trans women face

just one more pile on against a trans woman bro. just one more. this one is totally harmless and even if it isn't, it's super justified bro. this time we found a trans woman it's totally cool to scream at over nothi-- over the heinous awful things she's done bro. she definitely did something bad bro

This goes extra if she's dealing with hard times in her life: if you make it about how it hurts despite having no actual impact on your life then you're the asshole in the situation. She needs support, not your imagined victimhood dumped onto her already overloaded plate.

The only difference I have observed has to do with the response by others to break-ups and that isn't at the T4T line but for being a trans woman dating anyone but other trans women. Only when I'm dating other trans women am I not automatically the villain in the breakup regardless of what happened.

I have an appointment with my new (after relocation in September) PCP on the 12th and I have just enough estradiol left to last until then.

Me: goes "Moo" Wifey: "Is that what you are?" Girlfriend: "She has the udders for it." Later... Girlfriend: "Every time I bite you I get flannel." Wifey: "That tracks."

A major entry is the fact that I was coerced by doctors and therapists into having vaginoplasty when it was clear that I had doubts that it was appropriate for me, a serious regret risk warning. They that surgery as mandatory, constituting "complete transition," and took away HRT to enforce it.

An understanding from therapy for PTSD last year is that there was never anything wrong with me saying that my vaginoplasty surgery went poorly, that I had reason to believe that it was botched, nor that I regretted having that. Political inconvenience of my individual experience isn't my problem.

Introduce yourself with what almost killed you. I'm hypothermia from a farm work incident when I was a preteen. Additional fun fact: under US law there are few to no workplace safeguards for the children of farmers, not even having to be 18 to operate dangerous equipment.

Waking up next to my girlfriend was the perfect way to start 2026.

I was planning to make a lengthy post about what 2025 meant to me but as the 11th hour approached I realized there's no need as the people who need to know know and I am spending the evening with friends around the fire pit. May the sunrise see you safely in 2026. Good night.

Hey RVA motorcycle fans! We have a full slate of socials for January. For each meet at Oregon Hill Overlook at 6, 6:30 KSU (FIRM) for the ride or meet us at the respective venue at 7. #RVA #motorcycle #queer

Hey all. Are you pissed about the Hampton inn anti homeless policy and wish you could do something to help someone avoid risking being homeless with no place to go? Juno really needs financial help before the new year kicks in to stay out of homelessness. Please share and spread the word.

My wifey woke up and chose violence this weekend in a group chat with my girlfriend: "Got a 20 year old in Gloucester hitting me up on grindr.. who does she think I am? My wife?" Background: I'm 51, she's 41 and my girlfriend is 31. That said, 30 was my lower limit after I divorced at 42.

Season's Greetings.

A lovely gift from my girlfriend: heated grips for my motorcycle. She said that is partially a gift for her so that my hands are warm after a cold ride across town to her house and I touch her sooner.

Good night.

Being on the other side of effective treatment for PTSD, this isn't as emotionally fraught as it used to be. Instead, it's much more feeling disconnected from part of my body, that is foreign and doesn't belong there. It's kind of like if my vulva were a facehugger.

Apparently it's a bottom dysphoria day. Woke up to the random memory of an ex who envied that I had vaginoplasty and ran right over me asking her to not express that to me because it's a part of my body that I dislike. Plus the "needle in my labia" pains are back so that doesn't help anything.

I started at 59k/year when I was at NYLAG as a staff attorney representing trans asylum seekers. This kind of money to target a community like this is unimaginable to me. It's infinitely more profitable to sow hate than it is to help people.

So I am sorry that it has come to this, but with my mother struggling with massive overtime to help us, I feel I must ask for help from others, to help us prepare to retreat back home to Sweden with our cats and without going homeless. www.gofundme.com/f/help-keep-...

Robot shaming: uneven surface. It's perfectly flat. This isn't the first time in this spot but it's also not every time.

Have your transition. Don't let yourself be pushed into anything you don't want. Pin-up model, diesel dyke, or anywhere between. Have only the surgeries you want, if any, and never feel that you have to have anything you don't. Not being true to yourself here is a good way to end up with regret.

I want a girl with a short skirt and a loooooooooooooooooooooooooong DX!

One of the worst Transfem Takes I hear is "there are rules to transition." My sister in HRT, kill the gatekeeper in your head. There are no rules. Make your transition be yours, high femme pin-up model, butch diesel mechanic, or anything in between. Do it because it's what you want for your life.

Today I graduated out of therapy for PTSD. Obviously it isn't cured in the sense that it's as if it never happened, but I'm on the other side of "it won't always be like this. It will always be there but it won't always hurt so bad."

This is one of the most variable things: sometimes driving vs public transit is roughly even. For me it's always been that public transit would involve significantly more time. When I lived in Raleigh, NC US, and worked in Cary the 7 mile commute was 15 minutes on my motorcycle and 75 or 105 by bus.

I know it's too much to read the words that many of us write, but what we are actually mad about are systems that force people into car dependency and policy choices that mean living somewhere walkable and bikeable with robust public transit is ridiculously expensive. We want to fix this!

A huge problem right now is the only thing our government agrees on is fascism.

Wifey: "Sorry about the weird taste of the soup." Me: "Well now that you said it. I wasn't going to say anything." Wifey: "Smart woman."

Let's get social this Thursday at The Veil Forrest Hill RVA!

I showed this skeet to my wife who after reading it looked at me and started batting her eyes at me. I then showed it to my girlfriend who had the same response.

I'm struggling to find work due to multiple disabilities including long covid, I'm broke, my fridge is empty, and I don't know how I'm going to pay my bills. If you feel like making an old trans lesbian's life a little better, my Paypal/cashapp/venmo info is in my bio.

I do so love v-neck halter tops. My neck, however, appreciates them a bit less

cannot stress this enough that if you’re NOT someone who saves posts from sex workers without consent, you CAN still make bsky a safer environment for sex workers by tipping & buying content to help offset the bad behavior of others, so that we still feel like posting (if you wanna see us, that is).