Helen Jefferson Lenskyj, Ph.D., (@jeffersonlenskyj.bsky.social)

The moment I knew: He stepped out of the shower and into a robe – he looked pretty handsome Paul Heath knew the rice-cooking David McLean was his sort of guy. Then one humid morning, he reached for the camera to capture a post-shower moment * Find more stories from the moment I knew series * Get our weekend culture and lifestyle email We met in 1998, at a health and relationship course run back then by the Gay Men’s Health Centre in Melbourne. I saw David across the crowded room at a drinks session afterwards and slowly made my way around to talking with him. We were both in our mid-30s, and I’ve always gone for those tall skinny guys. We chatted easily and before he left I scribbled down my number. He rang a few weeks later on a Saturday night, apparently figuring I wouldn’t be home and that he’d just leave a message. When I picked up, I think he was a little thrown. He said something like: “Hi, um, hang on a sec, oh fuck, I’ve gotta turn the rice down!” And I thought, this is my sort of guy – Saturday night at home cooking rice, what’s not to love. Sign up for the fun stuff with our rundown of must-reads, pop culture and tips for the weekend, every Saturday morning Continue reading... https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2026/mar/07/moment-i-knew-shower-robe-handsome?CMP=aus_bsky