"Would you sell your dirty panties? I'd be interested if you would." Why the hell would anyone ask this of me? I think I've made it clear I don't sell things. I've been asked before if I have an O.F. I don't know what's sparking these questions. Because I'm an SW client? A woman FULL TEXT IN ALT.

Haven't had many doubles, but here's what to know: They're quite chatty (in my FS doubles experience - all femmes), so it feels quite social & fun. SWer memes that portray doubles as SWers using a client's money to basically ignore him are the kind of thing that put civs off FULL TEXT IN ALT.

Disability Day is on December 3rd. This Wednesday. Celebrate by not posting or sharing anything with strobing/flashing graphics. And make sure captions/subtitles are turned on for all videos.

ngl.link/tezmilleroz I may answer on Bsky, or on Instagram Stories (TezMillerOz), so I recommend checking in on both my platforms.

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To answer the NGL: Do not ask about my finances. They're none of your business. They are legal. That's all you need to know. You may be anonymous, but that doesn't mean it's OK to be rude. I'm well-mannered, and I expect the same from others.

Advice for NEWBIES 🖤Create your brand language/ Develop your voice 🖤Get your audience off platform 🖤Have fun! 🖤STOP using CHAT/AI for your content #SexTech #Brand #Business

"cannot do anything about my overwhelming charisma" Relatable 😉

This job has deepened my appreciation for human complexity. Also my appreciation for clients who actually read the booking information. I love you guys. 😂🤍

Today we commemorate World AIDS Day and acknowledge those among our community we have lost and those living with HIV. We also reiterate our calls for the full decriminalisation of sex work and recognise its impact as a tool of HIV prevention.

If a video has no captions, I don't watch If a video has no captions I don't watch I don't wanna have to listen It's hard work but have you considered That if your video has no captions I won't watch.

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5 years ago today, Pandemic Year. It had been a month since I opened my "side project" (lol) cat rescue in the spare room of my flat in London. I saw an ad for a male kitten with "balance & walking problems" who urgently needed a home. And so it began. HAPPY SMOL PAUL DAY!

Smol ginger boi update. I actually think he’s really a blonde

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Basically there should be public interaction between SWers & clients. (No, not sx.) Whether it's a deep interview or a light chat. Roundtable talks with different parts of the indutry together. SWers interacting with only other pros doesn't really give insight into how SWers would go with clients.

I'm all for SWers speaking up & speaking out, advocating & giving voice to a community marginalised by society. SWers can influence each other to consider their current audiences & potential audiences. SWers can invite clients onto their platforms, to speak to both SWers & potential clientele.

So what can be done to normalise clienting? Clients can speak out all we can, but the fact is we don't have big enough platforms, and aren't influential enough. This is where those who actually do have a good-sized platform can be the change. Podcasts, TikToks. Interviews, photo shoots.

Clients are stereotypically represented as extravagantly wealthy (the FMTY clients who "spoil" you) or time-wasting, boundary-pushing misogynists. If people don't see themselves as either, they'll figure they can't be clients. So they won't just be turned off by you, but also by SWers in general.

Tez, what are the best resources you have come across that will support women becoming clients? “Good luck to you Leo Grande” and Cpt Fanny Majeure‘s blog are two of my favourites. With thanks. B. BTW Love you work. Thank you for being on Blue Sky.

Doing my monthly backup of files to a usb drive a couple of days early. Better than forgetting! I also save to the cloud. Yes, paranoid. Worth it.

I don't want providers to miss out on having good clients because they've been scared off by reading that providers already hate them before they've even contacted them. I know there are so many terrible clients. But if decent people don't become clients, you'll only have the terrible ones.

I don't want providers to miss out on having clients that actually are polite & respectful, who abide by all your boundaries & guidelines. Who aren't just using you for sx, but who appreciate who you are as a person. Who don't minimise, reduce, objectify, or dehumanise. Who want the best for you.

This means that potential clients will miss out on knowing that there are providers there who actually do recognise us as people. Who make us feel welcome, and included, and valued for who we are & how we treat people - and not just the money we pay.

When I researched becoming a client, I didn't feel welcome. Because all of the marketing & language was geared towards men. If potential clients read that providers think a client's only value is their money, and otherwise we are nothing... This could put off more people from becoming clients.

In the way I view providers in terms of "and", I'd like to be treated similarly. You may look at me & only see dollar signs. But I hope you see me as money AND a human who doesn't want to be objectified as a cash dispenser or dehumanised. A human who cares. A human who doesn't want to be minimised.

I treat others how I want to be treated. I don't objectify SWers. I always consider them as people (because they are!), and never reduce them to just their appearance & sxual prowess. They're multifaceted people who aren't just hot - they're hot AND smart AND funny AND creative AND kind, etc.

Is this "dark academia"?

New to Substack! New blog! Xx open.substack.com/pub/sinandsu...

Key quotes from this post by @pawsandpetra.bsky.social : sinandsunflowers.substack.com/p/existence: "You have moments where you do feel sorry for yourself, when all you need is a hug to bring you back to your body - and it can't be found." "You might be interested to hear that FULL TEXT IN ALT.

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"Australia's highest paid esc*rt." Not gonna lie, I'm kind of disappointed that a podcast I follow here on Instagram has announced their next guest via Patreon this way. Maybe because I've already reseached the person, and her method is to aim for a high-paying clientele - thus FULL TEXT IN ALT.

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"I never know where to put my tongue." Accidentally sus-sounding thing I said at the dentist. (Got away with just a clean this year. Well done, teeth!)

I see clients & so-called #submissives as an extension of Me. If I approve them, they reflect My brand of who I am & My ethos. I find it interesting when subs display bad behaviour &/or entitlement & I hear about who they regularly session with. It's really telling...

Would be interested to try "couples" adult toys. But don't want to ask my reg in case they don't have any. (They don't need another expense, and I don't own any.)

Teary-eyed suddenly thinking of how fortunate I am and the wonderful people I've met this year.

I think I've turned a little corner for now. In recent weeks I've got upset - knowing I'll have to spend less in 2026, and agonising over what to do about the "I crave compliments" (I'm not calling it a praise k!nk) situation. But this week I've made decisions & taken action regarding those.

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Ugh, feel like a spoiled diva. Basically told my reg to speed up the fan acquisition or we'll have to go back to places with air-con. I said it more nicely than that, I swear! I have no problem with going back to the other places. But this particular incall means they get to keep more of the money.

Fair warning: I definitely require air-con or a fan during bookings on sweaty days. Warm weather is not kind to me. Celtic blood is not made to survive Australian conditions 😉

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Saw a meme about how next year is going to be their "insane year." Mate, that was this year for me, with my antidepressant not working efficiently for most of it. I'd like 2026 to very much be a sane year for me. A safe, sane, and consensual year.

"What's your favourite song?" Normally I don't answer questions from "Team NGL." But lately I've had two songs in my head: "Fly Me Away" by Goldfrapp "Strange" by Tori Amos Look them up on your favourite music streaming service.

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"people with ADHD are [...] about 50% more likely to develop a drug or alcohol use disorder compared with people without ADHD." Article goes on to mention that generally speaking boys go for MJ & girls go for booze. I already knew as a teen I'd be high-risk due to mental illness FULL TEXT IN ALT.

Even if I was a person who'd go out at night to events... Dress codes like "no effort = no entry" would mean I wouldn't be able to attend.

Noticed someone new (to me) listed on Realb*bes. Clicked her Twitter link...and saw a lot of ReTweeted anti-immigration posts made by people in the UK. And I didn't even have to scroll down to see them hidden in the depths of her account - they were literally the first Tweets I saw FULL TEXT IN ALT

Love when they lead me by the hand. I should tell them that. Why am I so shy?