You know two kinds of people. The ones you can be honest with, and the ones you’re afraid to be honest with. Both of them are a mirror for you.

Asking ChatGPT to solve all your relationship problems before you go to bed will only feed your thought spirals. But being witnessed and seen by others? AND being guided by someone who’s been there?

My latest memoir review: “Negative Space” by Lilly Dancyger. A new favorite! nisha.substack.com/p/negative-s...

Half of breaking codependent patterns is cultivating safety around people not liking you. The other half is learning to love tf out of yourself. If you long for one or both of the above, today's the LAST DAY to get on the waitlist of Meet Yourself an get an nishamody.myflodesk.com/meetyourself...

Your "nice" era is officially expiring. On 7/9, I'm hosting a free workshop: You’re Not Being ‘Nice,’ You’re Being Invisible: A Workshop for People-Pleasers Who Are Ready to Be Seen. If you shrink to keep the peace (or fear not being liked) register here: nishamody.myflodesk.com/invisible

Vulnerable share…and also I’m so effin proud of this writing CW: weight loss open.substack.com/pub/nisha/p/...

I've got 8 pay-what-you-can spots for my Trauma-Informed and Relational Care for Libraries course. If you're feeling the strain of budget cuts, community trauma, or just the daily weight of this world, I'd love to have you at next week's info session. nishamody.myflodesk.com/tirclapril25/ (1/3)

Wealth really fucks you up in the head.

You don’t steal something you think is worthless.

And here’s my response :) open.substack.com/pub/nisha/p/...

I exercised my writing yesterday: nisha.substack.com/p/im-not-eno...

This is in less than 2 weeks! Get the details for my course Trauma-Informed and Relational Care for Libraries on 4/29: nishamody.myflodesk.com/tirclapril25/

💻 REGISTER: Info session for Trauma-Informed and Relational Care for Libraries course: 4/29 @ 9am PT/12pm ET If you want to learn about trauma-informed care so you can move through these times in a way that doesn't retraumatize others (& urself), register: nishamody.myflodesk.com/tirclapril25/ (1/)

Happy National Library Week! If you don't have a library card, go get one. If you have one, use it! Public goods thrive when everybody uses them. That's why they push kids to charter, home, and private schools, why they sow doubt and fear of libraries and our collections. Use it or lose it!

I love this. A woman of circumference 🥹🩷. I’ma start using that

Attending #AWP25 for the first time, and I’m just so so inspired 🥹 Perfect timing before my memoir writing retreat in a couple of weeks. AND @roxanegay.bsky.social’s keynote was amazing 🤩 I was so tuned into what she said that I only got this photo of her walking off stage.

I honestly get so sad thinking about the rad liberatory people out there who don’t start the writing project or podcast or community garden or side biz they wanna start. We need anticapitalist, relational, and liberatory people doing the cool shit! DO THE COOL SHIT!

Capitalism sells us convenience and certainty for the cost of humanity.

How much time do you spend ruminating over someone or something? This was after ONE session. So grateful and honestly PROUD I get to give people the gift of clarity and TIME back in their lives. Come to my free workshop Sunday to get a taste: nishamody.myflodesk.com/gethonest (1/2)

Activists, advocates, and abolitionists are tired AF - and they need people to help them tend to the deep wounds from state violence brought to you by patriarchy, capitalism, colonization, classism, and ableism. Is this you? I get you resourced to do your thing! (1/2)

I’m scared but ready to confess some things to you over the next 4 days! Sign up to receive my darkest secrets only shared via email 🤪 bit.ly/3XC2IPN

I’m sacred af that I’m talking too much after I share something about myself, even though I literally help people who keep themselves small live out loud. I do this work because I know this feeling, and being honest about this feeling makes me better. (1/2)

Just what we need, AI summaries of seized electronic devices so the cops can be even more useless.

If your definition of a good guy is someone who does something any of your girlfriends would do in a heartbeat, raise your bar.

I ended up married because I’m a master as convincing myself of things to protect myself. And I ended up divorced by awakening to some big truths. That was over 10 years ago, but that doesn’t mean I never lie to myself anymore! So I’m gonna get honest with you and confess 4 truths… 👇🏾

Gahhhh! I’m so proud of this course. If you’re tired of being tired and carrying the emotional load of your library, and you also want to learn ways to reduce retraumatization, this course will do that. Message me because there’s only one orientation in June this year.

Free webinar " Trauma-Informed and Relational Care for Libraries - Part 1" from @nishamody.bsky.social , MLIS, MA, CCC-SLP www.nnlm.gov/training/cla...

So excited for this! It filled fast and I’m so humbled 🙏🏾🥹

If you're looking for a trauma-informed approach in libraries, check out this course from Nisha ! #skybrarians #publibs #medlibs

#Earthquake Update: A magnitude 3.92 earthquake took place 2 km ESE of North Hollywood, CA at 10:13:45 PM. #minor For details from the USGS and to report shaking:

The next orientation for my course Trauma-Informed and Relational Care for Libraries is in June. The next one won’t be til June 2026! This course is incredibly foundational and applicable for yourself and your team. I dare say you need it now more than ever. (1/2) www.traumainformedlibraries.com

No social justice movement can be effective until people shift how systems of supremacy show up in their behaviors. Equity isn’t just strategy. It requires healing, for you to unlearn codependency, to know your triggers and tend to them, and to not just know that you're worthy but to FEEL it. (1/3)

What do you *think* you’d tolerate vs what do you *actually* tolerate? Junot Díaz calls these your “redlines”, and he invited me into this question as I write my memoir. What about you? nisha.substack.com/p/what-were-...

I’m not here to change hearts and minds, but I am here to facilitate opening them up so those new pathways create the connections and relationships your Earthly body desires. If they end up changing, that’s on you 🩷

TIL you can speed up iPhone voices messages by holding down the play button 🤦🏾‍♀️ I’ve been so annoyed about this, and I have been able to do it since iOS 17 lol So not intuitive though! (in my defense 🤣)

Trump's CFPB has set up a "tip line" where you can rat out any CFPB staff who tries to work

If your library hasn't found a way to purchase self-published, small press, or otherwise outside of major company distribution titles yet... that should be a priority for you in 2025.

You're invited to a Grief Party!There are so many feels coming up these days and it can feel so lonely. Join my Earthworm Slumber Party podcast co-host, Opulence Abundance, and I on Thurs, 2/27 at 4pm PT/7pm ET so you can digest that big grief in a communal space. RSVP here: bit.ly/griefpizzapa...

I don’t relate, but I totally relate. That’s the magic of Sloane Crosley’s memoir “Grief Is for People.” open.substack.com/pub/nisha/p/...

January was a doozy...here's my take on the chaos. “As much as I appreciate the loads of information and the incredible connections I’ve made and the way alternative media has emerged via social media, what is the cost? How is my brain?" nisha.substack.com/p/i-dont-kno...

*this is illegal* FYI 🧪 🔭 ⚛️

Israeli forces conducted an unprecedented escalation in the West Bank over the weekend by detonating 20 apartment buildings in the Jenin refugee camp in the northern West Bank. The move constituted the largest single demolition operation in the West Bank since 1967.

The entire archive of CDC datasets can be found here. HUGE shoutout to data archivists- this work is important 👏🙌🏻 archive.org/details/2025...

"They found the underlying rate of warming was about 0.06 °C back in the 80s, but that's now increased to 0.27 °C per decade. The team notes this is not a linear increase but an accelerating one." www.sciencealert.com/the-ocean-su...

Punishment builds pain that is rarely expressed or integrated in colonial cultures. We learn that these consequences are somehow required, but we don’t learn how pain causes punishment too.

Some Know Your Rights Workshops + Webinar happening THIS WEEK 🗓️ 1/29 | @nipnlg.bsky.social | Community Defender Training RSVP: secure.nationalimmigrationproject.org/np/clients/n... 🗓️ 1/30 | @aclu.org | KYRs Webinar RSVP: act.aclu.org/a/2025-kyr-t... 🗓️ 1/31 | Van Buren Branch Library (Newark, NJ)

How did I become a life coach and library facilitator after 5 other careers? 😅😅😅 Find out here 👇🏾 How I Became a Life Coach youtu.be/X9gHzEALtWQ

After my dad died and I got divorced, writing saved me. As a coach, I get even deeper! I’ll be sharing how at my free workshop “Writing as your Healing Practice: A Workshop to Rewrite Your Relationships in a Dystopian World” on 1/21 at 4pm PT/7pm ET. Sign up!: nishamody.myflodesk.com/writingheali...

Did you sign up for the Trauma-Informed and Relational Care for Libraries information session? You can still get the recording, slides, and additional information! Sign up here to receive all the information you need: nishamody.myflodesk.com/hjc7vb9506

I absolutely love this initiative birthed by Toi Smith to support Black single mothers during the holiday season. If you have $125-$500 to donate over a 4-month period, please consider joining as a financial partner. www.lovingblacksinglemothers.com/holiday-love