ME/CFS is a devastating condition that has long been denied, dismissed, psychologised and underdiagnosed. Research is at last starting to catch up with it, with glimmers of hope for those who have been left untreated for so long. There's a huge BUT coming ...🧵 www.theguardian.com/society/2025...

Here's Why A Victim-Survivor Would Send Loving Texts To Their Abuser I went on NewsNation Live to help make sense of Cassie Ventura’s brave witness testimony at the trial of Sean "Diddy" Combs I explained how #coercivecontrol invalidates consent Read/watch here: open.substack.com/pub/dremmaka...

Did you know that the partner and family of a person applying for assisted suicide under Kim Leadbeater’s new law will never be told about the person's intentions and will have no way whatsover to intervene, even if they know the person is making a bad or impulsive decision? 1/2

Indeed, partners or family members could be guilty of a criminal offence if they try to persuade a person not to go ahead with a medically-assisted suicide. This isn't compassion for dying people, it's a ruthlessly imposed ideological death regime. Tell your MP to say no. 2/2

Read my new FREE article "She Didn't 'Pick Wrong'. Society Failed By Creating Millions of Abusive Men. Link: open.substack.com/pub/dremmaka... It's time to stop blaming women for their "bad choices" in "picking abusive men". #domesticviolence

Victims-survivors are often disbelieved for seeming happy during a time when they later say their partner was abusive. These disbelieving reactions would be different if people more fully understood what coercive control is and how it works. Read my new article: dremmakatz.substack.com/p/9-r…

Victim-survivor mothers are often told to 'get over' the abuse post-separation, 'move on', and 'be nice' when, in fact, the perpetrator is still actively abusing them and their children. It is deeply unfair and unjust. Read my new article: dremmakatz.substack.com/p/how…

Blackmail is a powerful tool for abusers. They may threaten to expose private photos, secrets, or personal info to force you back. Their goal is to instill fear & coerce compliance, keeping you trapped. #CoerciveControl

In my Sociology of Childhood class, we talk about how kids become pawns in political projects. And I hate that I now have so many new examples to add to my syllabus--if I'm even allowed to teach these topics next year.

A case of coercive control, plain as day

Inquiry findings of 'missed opportunities' on the BBC’s tackling of alleged sexual misconduct and predatory behaviour by Tim Westwood over two decades affirms a worrying pattern of the trivialisation of VAWG and the prevailing culture of victim disbelief. 1/3 www.theguardian.com/media/2025/f...

🗣️This is your weekly reminder that Project 2025 and JD Vance want to end No-Fault Divorce, in addition to taking away your right to vote. Please get your things in order and leave while you still can. This is not hyperbole. You’ve witnessed the last month…

If you've never been part of a world that demands women submission this will seem alarmist to you. Those who have, will recognize the systematic devaluing, disempowering, sidelining, abuse documented here. Each piece alone is sickening, together it's deeply alarming www.salon.com/2025/02/26/a...

#CalltheMidwife is becoming such a disappointment. The left leaning show has adopted right wing stances that attack disabled people. The 2024 Christmas special's Turner family storyline made a thinly veiled attack on the C0VID-careful community and people who wear masks. 1/2

Check out my article 👇 on coercive control and family courts.

I'm watching this happen in real time. In Canada. I had trusted our systems and they are utterly destructive. Children pay the price for lawyers to harm them for profit. They know mothers will fight and pay any price. #domesticviolence #VAWG

Family courts may expect victims-survivors of #domesticviolence and abuse to engage in family therapy with their abuser with the aim of creating friendlier relationships with them Find out why and the harms this can cause in my new free article #coercivecontrol open.substack.com/pub/dremmaka...

If you’re opposed to fascism, please make sure you’re working on internalized ableism. The link between fascism, eugenics and ableism is well documented. Fight for disability rights. Make resistance efforts accessible. Wear a mask & stay home when sick. Don’t leave us behind.

People who know about bird flu: I have a question. In the UK eggs are not washed. We have a different process than the USA. Does this mean bird flu could be on UK egg shells? Should we use a lot of caution touching uncooked eggs still in their shells? Thanks.

February is National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month (TDVAM). 16% of teen girls with older boyfriends experience severe physical violence from their boyfriend, compared to 6% of teen girls with a same age boyfriend.

Why has the multimillion death lobbyist, Dignity in Dying, suddenly removed all its Annual Reports from its website? Is it because the contents, detailing their relentless lobbying of MPs for assisted suicide, make embarrassing reading as the Leadbeater bill runs into trouble?

"It's a sustained attack on another human life." #coercivecontrol @dremmakatz.bsky.social @custodypeace.bsky.social

We know that abusive fathers attack and undermine mother-child relationships. But what influences the amount of damage caused to mother-child relationships when the father is a coercive controller? And what does #domesticviolence have to do with this? dremmakatz.substack.com/p/how…

I've visited six hospitals this week. I've actually seen more people in masks than I have in 18 months. But most of the masks have been ones that aren't designed to protect against spread of airborne disease. They're not the solution. We need to use the right tools for the job.

Thank you to everyone who has campaigned tirelessly for greater transparency in the family courts. Survivors and their children deserve to feel heard and protected, not retraumatised by the systems meant to keep them safe.

Regular reminder about how ableist it is to make spaces inaccessible for Covid informed & disabled folks & then chastise them for not being able to go to those spaces

If I could help non disabled people understand one thing about being disabled, it would be how important maintaining a baseline is. When you’re chronically ill, your baseline is everything. Even minor setbacks can be catastrophic, so we have to do a risk analysis before literally ANY activity 🧵

JD Vance spearheaded a federal ban on mask mandates. He said it was “a massive victory for personal freedom in this country.” So wear a mask because JD doesn’t want you to. Wear a mask to make them harder to ban. Wear a mask as a form of community care, solidarity and resistance.

Opportunity to contribute to domestic abuse research

Kiena Dawes, who tragically took her own life in 2022 after enduring abuse from her ex, now faces another injustice as her abuser seeks custody of their 3-year-old daughter. Kiena’s mum, Angela, says, ‘She would be heartbroken to know he’s trying to take her child.’ The family vows to fight.

Despite patriarchy's persistence, growing numbers of men believe they have it worse off than women. And, new research shows this "male victimhood" ideology is most common among men who aren't facing hardship. Which means what they're really feeling is status loss. 1/ www.psypost.org/male-victimh...

Someone has written that zero C19 advocates want it to be “deadly” to kids. Erm. No. I have a kid out there in unmitigated classrooms. I really do not want C19 to be any worse than it is. Also, I’m not an evil person, so I don’t want anyone else’s kids dropping dead either.

You should also be aware that UKHSA has not been following the WHO guidance from August 2024! This is for everyone to mask around others. So it’s no surprise we are in this so called ‘quademic’ there are no mitigations for airborne transmission of COVID.

And the more you do the work of spotting your abuser strategies for what they are, the less impact they have, because the less personal they become. This was never about you. You could be replaced with any other victim. The tactics remain the same.

Choices are power. That is why no abuser will ever give you decisions or choices to make, not really. Even victim-survivor knows that when their abuser "gives" them a choice, it's not a choice, it's a trap. What you can't do is fall for it where you try to find the "right" one, because let me+

When I do access training, I say 'find out the venue's emergency plan for disabled attendees/performers. Then make your own bc it's likely "leave them in stairwell and hope they're still alive when the fire is done"'. People assume disabled people are accounted for in emergency planning. We're not.

I just went to a pharmacy (in England) to get a vaccine. The pharmacist, a young man, was wearing a blue surgical mask. It kept slipping off his nose. I watched him pull it up about 5 times while I was waiting. I was in a fit tested FFP3 mask, stoggles & pointing a small HEPA at myself. I said-

Do you get migraines? Are you considered at all overweight? Have asthma? Arthritis? Allergies? Slightly high blood pressure or cholesterol? Well-managed thyroid condition? Psoriasis or eczema? Sleep apnea? Acid reflux? ...Depression? Congratulations, you have an "underlying health condition."

www.cidrap.umn.edu/antimicrobia... New study finds that every infection a child has (e.g. a cold) from age 0-3 is linked with worse health for that child when they are aged 3-13. Measures like clean indoor air are badly needed to protect infants from infections.

Abusers often intensify their harmful behavior when their partner starts gaining strength, independence, and social connections. 🚩

I do notice how few of those who post about 'grooming gangs' show any evidence of caring about children abused by family members, faith leaders, teachers, coaches etc. It is a red flag for me, they are not really committed to protecting children

Sometimes rich abusers isolate victims from family and friends in an unusual way, a way not open to less wealthy abusers. They charm the victim's friends and family, shower them with gifts, and make them dependent on him (letting them live in his properties, getting them jobs, etc.). 1/2

The number of women gleefully participating in MeToo backlash campaigns without even realizing they’re a part of a larger movement to undermine their safety and equality makes me depressed beyond words

There’s no sense of satisfaction that comes from seeing people put themselves in harm’s way for me, either. They’ve been misled, rewarded for their worst behavior, and disadvantaged in ways they may never fully understand. And they bring us all down with them

"Moving to an isolated area" my dad moved us up to the countryside when we were between 3-9 years old by telling my mum he was moving and she and us could come if she wanted but he was moving no matter what. She did so because she thought we were too young to be separated.

‘She's Not Innocent Either.’ Actually, Yes She Is Innocent. Why we need to develop a better understanding of domestic violence and coercive control victims-survivors who fight back against their abusers, writes @dremmakatz.bsky.social dremmakatz.substack.com/p/shes-not-i...

“She’s Not Innocent Either.” Actually, Yes She Is Innocent. My new, free article is perfect for educating people who say "they both sound abusive" in response to situations of domestic violence & abuse. Post it far & wide. Let's resist victim blaming. dremmakatz.substack.com/p/shes-not-i...

Writing about Errol Graham - who starved to death in 2018 - always stayed with me. That the Tories spent £50,000 trying to stop the release of a review into his death is sickening. There’s money to hide the truth but none to help a disabled man eat. www.theguardian.com/politics/202...