A year into transition, I showed up for my aunt's funeral in a modest skirt and top and my mother yanked me aside and spat at me "not to make today all about you". It made zero sense then, but I get it now: to her, I wasn't a niece showing up as myself, I was a nephew showing up in drag.

This. A fundamental component of the grey rock technique is the acceptance that you DO NOT need to change this person's mind, that what they're saying doesn't warrant a response. It's used against abusers and others where you'd be in the right to go no contact, but that's not possible or feasible.

Most people would have sacrificed writing a genuine Clark reaction for the sake of leaning into the joke, but this one chose to do something authentic, human. He doesn't think of people by their subgroups, so he had missed the pattern. He doesn't change his position, but he recognizes the friction.

you know you want to buy and read my queer magical girl books you want to so bad

found this guy on Tiktok who has discovered carpenter's speed squares make an insanely satisfying noise when you bounce them off tires or wood, called @lostcoastedc on there

For the most part, I'm carefully cultivating the lingo on my Tomodachi Life island so my video game characters talk about video game things, both to stay on theme and because I have kids who watch me play. But I had forgotten what I initially named my avatar's group home, until my eldest asked.

This had better be the safe starter title that a new development crew ships to get their team and tools in place before they buckle down and actually make something new and interesting. And the price better reflect that.

I found a metaphor for my current "I'm truly okay but I'm also very much not okay" mental health. The bandwidth is flooded. The swap file is grinding like crazy. Things are extremely slow to execute. It's too much load. But the new OS isn't crashing constantly under the load like the old one did.

Side note: I love when an actor's performance changes over the course of the work to reflect the character's growth. Lazeal's actress' tone drift as she acclimated to the character makes her soften to Tav through the story. Helmsworth glides from bright Orion Pax into Cullen's Optimus Prime.

Should I be horrified or bemused that I still know the fix for this is to put Himem.sys Device=emm386.exe Dos=high,umb into my config.sys, reboot the computer, and then install the game?

After almost two years of negative growth, last quarter was up +30% year-to-year. On the plus side, corporate seems to have figured out that they can't outprice Walmart and can't outspeed Amazon, the only thing they were offering was a nice shopping experience, and recent policies had ruined that.

It still floors me when I mention divorce to people who don't know me well, and they assume my ex was a man. It doesn't feel weird to be perceived as cis, but it does feel weird to be perceived as straight.

I don't get thrown controllers with my boys, unfortunately. Instead, I have a pile of destroyed 3DS systems. The look of regret afterwards, coupled with us not replacing them after the third one (I initially had spares), did a lot to resolve that particular anger outlet.

loose lips sink ships!💋 (1/2)

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I thought at first this was related to Zelda, the character, and was like, "yes, we need a version of her like in BOTW who is just delightfully strange in so many ways. she likes making link eat frogs. she loves infodumping about any flowers they may see. she has an unapologetically weird laugh."

Remember when they drove the migrant workers from the fields? Remember when they thought killing DEI would remove all Black people from workplaces? Guess who they intended to work in those fields because they couldn't be hired anywhere else? They really are as cartoonishly vile as they seem.

My eldest child outright *thanked* me for making my glammed-up character "so accurate" to my real life appearance. He greatly prefers it to the one on my Switch profile, which I would consider "more accurate".

bizarre new scam showed up in my professional email where some fake-ass company called exosyphen is trying to scoop up the rights to a bunch of other random devs' steam games to do some bullshit with them

Hot take: if you're not currently centering the question "in what ways will fascism abuse this database of documented members of a marginalized population" as a fundamental design decision, then you have zero business even attempting to build a platform for a marginalized community right now.

ikea has this new storage chest for kid's rooms that looks like a mimic, and I applaud this kind of thinking. it's good to teach children about the dangers of mimics early, so they don't fall prey to one the first time they go adventuring

You can tell we've utterly failed to teach a huge swath of the population where morality and value come from, because instead of pursuing self-growth and encouraging the same of others, they treat morality as a zero-sum game, where you acquire virtue by finding ways to strip it from everyone else.

Been quiet lately for an odd quirk of mental health. Fear had been my executive functioning scaffolding my entire life. I only ever got things done because I thought I didn't deserve to exist if I failed. I got over that fear this year, and it's been amazing. But I need to switch scaffolding. 1/

I found my stylus, and finally gave a makeover to a few of the Tomodachi avatars that needed some critical art tweaks in order to really feel like the characters.

Diana finds a cartridge #Pragmata

[louder, as if that'll improve reception] THE BLUESKY DEVS WOULD BE VERY UPSET BY YOUR JOKES ABOUT VIBE CODING IF THEY COULD LOAD YOUR POSTS

Tomodachi Life LTD: a game where a character who crushed on your av literally at first sight, moved in with you, shared the same hobbies, and almost never left your side, can decide "You spoke too long about your hyperfixation exactly one time, and because of that, I've lost *all* interest in you."

Just be kind to people. Is that not too hard thanks

Scott's been leaning into the bit for a few years now (more than I'd prefer, yet probably the correct amount for the algorithm), but the fact that his Rosalina hijacked his love confession and *did it for him* e.g. "it's obvious you're in love with me" means that even RNG respects the bit.

Seeing everyone respond to Nintendo blocking the upload of tomodachi life screenshots by posting semi blurry phone camera shots of their screen instead like we’re in 2010 again legitimately warms my heart in ways I can barely explain

It was a big, heavy unpack to realize that a huge chunk of my hyperfixation on video games was because they present scenarios where the "you are different and therefore wrong" social radiation of my life was shut off completely. NPCs don't care that I'm different; they appreciate what I accomplish.

Begrudgingly coming back to social media because I got laid off this week. If anyone needs a game designer with 14 years of experience, I'm available for either full remote anywhere or hybrid/on-site in Stockholm. Hit me up.

Day 2 and 3 on the sapphic Nintendo gal Tomodachi island: I was ready for a Rosalina x Pauline ship. I was not prepared for Rosalina to fawn over Urbosa. I don't think anyone's ever tried shipping those two. But damn if the two amazons don't vibe together. It was the first romance I let happen.

It’s inaccurate to say Mario is brave and Luigi is cowardly Luigi is afraid of death, so he runs away from danger. Mario is afraid of living, so he runs towards death. Both brothers are cowards in their own way

what they don't tell you about game development is a shocking amount of video games is just faking things in a way that looks convincing

You win D&D when everyone wants to come back for the next game.

The last time I heard "you need to get on board" in the context of technology, a man was trying to convince his soon-to-be-ex-wife that mortgaging their house for NFTs was a brilliant idea. It's the language of pyramid schemes. It's a blatant admission that this grift is on the verge of collapse.

Day 1 on my Nintendo-ladies-themed Tomodachi Life LTD island: Princess Peach has become the Hugh Morris of my island. The first nine romantic crushes were 1) my avatar to literally everyone or 2) literally everyone to Peach. The combo breaker was Purah falling for my avatar AT FIRST SIGHT.

> "Trust me bro, this new tech startup isn't a pyramid scheme" > Looks at codebase:

i wish i had the bravery of Gooseworx to just post whatever crazy shit she wants even knowing that a good chunk of her fanbase lack critical thinking skills

One of my big boundaries for my personal LLM usage is to never let the LLM author any prose or code for me. I always type it out myself Hell, even in the pre-LLM era I never used IDE tools for code generation. Typing/writing things out or saying something in my own words is very important to me

We've already seen the internal reports and the real-world execution of DPA, and it's the opposite of what you might think. The lowest prices will go to those with the *most* ability to pay higher prices, to build loyalty from them while extracting maximum value from every cash-strapped customer.

Platinum through Scarlet and Violet, all versions except Let's Go Pikachu.

My favorite corollary to this is the glitched extra-long 1-up sound that occurs when you spin Mario's tail right as you pick up the 1-up mushroom. It's the tail end of the power-up sound's note data bytes (which are normally played quite fast) prepended to the front of the 1-up jingle.

Spent the evening modding my Lego Gameboy set into a functioning portable.

To my non tech normies, PSA: when you share a link, everything after the ? is tracking. Those “query parameters” tell companies exactly how you arrived, what app you clicked, which ad or email sent you, sometimes a unique identifier tied to you. You can delete everything after the question mark.

That went as well as it possibly could have. The lead interviewer knows me from job fairs, the vibes were immaculate, and all of the "have you done X in the last year" questions were "yes" specifically because of my capstone class. I've reaffirmed that I interview from a place of confidence now.

Interview time.

Trans art deserves to be as big and popular and beloved as any other