🔀Jennthropic (@jtsveigdalen.bsky.social)

«We call these people “strong” and “independent.” What we’re actually looking at, in many cases, is someone whose nervous system learned very early that help isn’t coming...» «...And it is devastatingly lonely.» siliconcanals.com/sc-a-childre...

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Children who were always told to figure it out themselves didn't become independent. They became adults who are terrifyingly capable but have no internal template for what it feels like to be helped. ... Children raised to "figure it out" became stunningly competent adults with no internal model for receiving help. The result isn't independence — it's self-reliance without an off switch. https://siliconcanals.com/sc-a-children-who-were-always-told-to-figure-it-out-themselves-didnt-become-independent-they-became-adults-who-are-terrifyingly-capable-but-have-no-internal-template-for-what-it-feels-like-to-be-helpe/