joining the war on autism on the side of autism

Being in a loving, sexually fulfilling marriage with a supportive partner who gets your weird is priceless. Seeing your partner light up when they *know* you think they are the most attractive person on the planet is worth it.

Me and my nsfw homies 🤝 @passionphantom.bsky.social

My mother, father, maternal grandparents, and maternal great grandmother were autistic. I also married an autistic person. The only way to stop autism is we need to stop being so damn hot. 😸

Could not come up with a reason to skip the gym. So here with a pile of grumbles. 😾 Body keeps waking up at 3:45 AM. Rested mind you, but it leads to earlier bed times the next day.

Yes! Also tagging your non-con makes you suddenly aware of how much non-con and dub con people take for granted. Instead of being permitted to be self aware and honest about your fiction you are supposed to go "sure, she kidnapped him, but they are in love, and she asked just before!" or similar.

This is my broader experience. Humans are hecking weird about anything with a hint of sexuality and then decide if existing is not only an invitation to participate, but is participating. This doesn't seem to matter about the politics of the individual.

It's cold enough I had to put a sweater on. This was delightful.

#FemdomLife Back from a swim in cozy red flannel and wool tights. Procrastination on getting started on the laundry mountain. The chilly air is great, and my tomatoes have one last harvest ahead of them.

I would sincerely rather you just say "look, we need money and XY & Z people told us we had to" and then we would be angrily yelling at *them*. Nobody with a bsky account who cares about this sort of thing is unfamiliar with this by now.

I can think of few more poisonous ideas people in libertine/oestensibly sex positive spaces take seriously than the idea of sex/porn addiction. Guys, it's not real. It's another face of sex negativity, anti queer bigotry and kink shaming.

I'm annoyed by the recent spate of censorship, because I want to do trivial media criticism. I want to quibble about representation in niche media and be allowed to loathe something, not be "rescued" from it by an army of bad faith ghouls. 😾

IDs and passports don't even need to have gender markers on them. you could remove them entirely and nothing of consequence would be lost

@bsky.app Are you very sure about the new content policy?

Curious to see if this famous painting is auto flagged as "Adult" in addition to Nudity. 🤔

@bsky.app I wrote you are nice concerned polite piece of feedback for your new content policy version 1. You doubled down. We know you didn't get a tidal wave of people asking you to ban BDSM. This sort of behavior breaks trust.

As the estate sale I *almost* bought a bag of small gnomes. Missed opportunity to start hiding them everywhere I go, like the doctor's office, work conference rooms or friends's houses.

This is a serious issue for writers too, to the point that markets like Amazon will pull your book for using the words for a content note BUT not the material itself. So there's a lot of things that say "for a list of trigger warnings go to author page URL blah blah blah"

Going on an errand to drop off a mutual aid donation to someone before off to an estate sale! #HausDomme #FemdomLife

Headed back from the farmer's market, my lap exploring with a bouquet of delphiniums and sunflowers.

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Make no mistake, fictional non-con bans will be used to create all sorts of figleafs and encourage people to reframe dub and non con situations with 0 honesty about what is going on. All of BDSM is based on fictional recreations of nonos. Power exchange. Bondage. Your kink is not different.

Every single platform of communication I can exist on hates sex, and eventually cracks down to appease payment processors, usually in the most arbitrary and opaque way. Or it is piecemeal, telling me to accept that group A is weird & icky enough we can sacrifice them. Then group By. Then C.

This is the larger point I'm constantly making about the misogyny slop ecosystem: they don't have to pay anybody to participate, they just have to set up a structure where they have created a narrative people can easily monetize. "Bitch is lying" is that narrative.

A community that doesn't have happy, healthy and safe sex workers, furries, BDSM folk and trans people is in danger. It's also going to be boring and uncreative, plus stuffed to the gills with various permutations of ads. Cruelty & anger will become the primary source of engagement in replacement

I wanted to get a video of this ghost crab but every time I got close to their hole they scuttled back in, so I tried getting clever with it. I made a little sandcastle and shoved my phone into it, hit record, and walked away. Crab was VERY suspicious of this addition to their environment.

We do not allow sexual content involving non-consensual activity **including synthetic, simulated, illustrated, or animated versions.** So basically fictional non-con is a nono (including depictions of CNC)? What the fuck? 🤨

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I am using a single crochet based ripple pattern and learned on row 5 I was supposed to start adding a decrease at the end too. I am at row 8 of 21. A lot of crochet is trusting the math. 😬🧶

Figured out most of a crochet ripple stitch. Next up, shells and changing colours.

Prepared lamb meatballs in a vaguely middle Eastern fashion. Writing sprint done, Emmaline vacuum and spot mopping. Dentist appointment at 2pm to get mild drilling in my wisdom teeth. Last day of unwanted summer warmth and then the temperature is going to plummet.

Been following a lot of fiber arts YouTube channels and my goodness is there a lot of drama reporting. Problems include: 1) you copied my sad beige box 2) poor taste, but yarn naming scheme probably didn't require death threats 3) someone is mean girling over low stakes 4) finance bros

Can I just say that the process of getting a learners permit in the state of Washington is textbook example of "protect the children" used to carve out the public space into something inaccessible?

I am continuing to reach myself to crochet, but my work is hampered by the fact that I don't want to own any of the typical beginners projects you can make when you are first starting out. I am therefore learning largely on making dish cloths.

Guess who just spent the last 8 minutes rescuing a hummingbird from her house. It flew in the balcony door. I guess it probably landed on the tomatoes and then got confused.

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We must protect this sweet and precious man. And go thrifting with him. It's not intentional ghosting the guy he is seeing, friend just went into a costuming related creative fugue for 3 days and forgot to check his texts, in a haze of glue and spray paint. 😤

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We've got a whole lot of land.

*Aggressively excited noises* Reviewer folks, this is on my auto buy. 😻 I am half tempted to sign up just to get my paws on it early since I am going to review it anyway.

About to run dungeons and dragons with an online group that originated from the fact that my type is oddly "Mage The Ascension" fans. The joke is my dating history is actually a very long con to get the elusive white whale of a Mage game.

My feed is full of the best artists alive telling us how much they are bad at this and regret their latest project.

Silver: "here are the designs. Should we size down again since you recently lost an inch around? Me: "No, do not bet on weight loss" Silver: "oh, but the purple is nice too, look. Which do you want?" Me: "no. Exactly that piece, exactly that color combo. An autistic demand for sameness.

Today in hair curling stupidity was reading an advice column ask from a library clerk upset their boss was taking out books about sex. Their theory was that other staff might accidentally stumble on it too, and feel sexually harassed. The asker was attempting to sexually harass their boss.

I honestly worry about the next batch of kinky youths. They are showing up at 18-25 wracked with the same religious guilt (but now pushed through secular vocabulary) and I am not sure there are the same structures to catch them.

Starting a Dead Dove Commission Sale called D.R.E.A.M!!! and yes it's a Wu-tang Clan ref LOL Personal Note: Im very low on cash and need to make something shake, so hit me up if you're interested in getting art of a favorite kink, All CWs Apply! #Proship #deaddove #MinorsDNI #problematicships

In a replication of this issue and solutions there to, I have started making lists and inventories if the massive amounts of projects that accumulate. 😅 My ADHD brain does not thrive buried in stuff.

Farmers market today and then an interview call with a volunteer org I am hoping to assist at 11. It's a group helping resettle red state refugees in Washington.

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