unexpectedly hearing from someone i still hold so dearly but could never fully trust again is so bittersweet 😕

I think we need to recognize how extraordinary it is for a modern day president to be THIS explicitly racist. It really is.

my hg keep talking about she wanna go see black santa so *she* can sit on his lap…girl!! 😭 all those black santas are somebody’s pawpaw and they each have an ole lady @ home who don’t play abt him or his pension. this holiday gig is coin for their lil cruise to the bahamas come january!!

the kid has had “remote learning”today. mind you, fridays are for intense admin/close the loop & finalizations esp when i’ve traveled. after dinner it’s just 🍷 and a good cry. will try again tomorrow.

She *WANTS* you there which is exactly why she said something in the first place so *LISTEN*! *HEAR* her! UNDERSTAND her. Stick with the program.

i love that black people rename things as we wish and that’s that. “…so i found these at trader joseph’s…”

i have a theory that many millennial parents are astounded by the mental drain of parenting and wondering “omg were *our* parents this tired?!” (A: no, baby) because the amt of emotional self-regulation it takes to consistently discipline vs *punish* …? a world of difference.

The music industry is wild because Shelea isn’t a household name and there is absolutely no reason why she shouldn’t be a household name. Truly an elite vocalist.

have yall ever encountered flight attendants who listen to their music/videos on full blast? no headphones? the entire flight…?! i can’t be trippin…

i forgot to tell yall how when i genuinely complimented an Unc on his coat this morning, he *immediately* responded with “MY WIFE bought me this coat…thank you…” he left the coffee shop before me & chose to leave me with, “good day, YOUNG LADY.” i have gray hairs, Unc! perfect Heisman, no notes 😭

the nurse on my elevator ride was carrying a large iced coffee, stanley cup, and apparently a lot of regret bless his heart. it’s definitely a monday.

yes but i took a late nap & now i’m sitting up here lookin like a 🤡

music.apple.com/us/album/no/... is it just me or is no one talking abt summer’s new project? i’m wild about it 😍

that late nap <<< 🤦🏽‍♀️

hasta luego, donuts

that cancelled show you’ll never stop thinking about

yes, she’s really this fahnnnn IRL 😍🥰

in other news, anybody have a non water-based edge control that they love? 💁🏽‍♀️

ok i’ve been looking at more photos of myself recently and i’ve accepted that if i have to buy my pants in “petite” so don’t drag the floor,ok cool yea maybe that descriptor fits — but can we just find a new word?! whooomst in the fashion world landed on “petite”?!?! 😣

😭😭😭

the way my mama was screwing up friendsgiving earlier this week still got me weak. “your brother is going to one of them…what do you call it? a friendaversary…? you know one of them friend parties…”

i haven’t socialized w straight women who center men in so long i didn’t realize what was happening until it was too late 😂

debating on dying my hair next year. this black-brown situation is completely my mother’s genes 😂black me out, pls!

@profanity.accountant me

Catalog?! This isn’t even close. Please stop playing with Mary.

gave the baby cousins a fresh pack of uno cards on wednesday night. the fact that we still have a full deck…?!?! now as for the box…RIP 😭

the hunters oughta be coming in

“ohhh i wanna dance w somebody! i wanna feel the HEAT w somebody!” — my 9 yo

my brother invited a new-ish friend to thanksgiving and he seems perfectly nice & all but he just shared that he likes this new girl he met bc she “doesn’t like a lot of attention and maybe has like 10 contacts in her phone…” 🙂🙃

Grief never calls ahead before it shows up. It’s just there and will show up during the best of times or the worst of times or both. It’s just how it works. So love on your people man. And give them the love they need not the one you think they need.

“i’m not cookin no breakfast on thursday morning nie” - my gma girl…! 😭 it’s already started smh

new claws. one of my fave sets this year.

Two Americas

feeling a little griefy this week and trying not to be irritated w myself about it. it’s only been 6 years w/o my brother and for us, thxgiving trumped christmas. yes, my natural baseline is cheerfulness but i don’t need to perform for me and god 💜

That’s why he in the car by himself talking to his phone.

the girls were screaming at my “southern dismissal” of this woman tonight but things were getting weiiiird. she explained that she had mistaken our friend for someone else — so why was she still standing there and rubbing her arm?! me, detached: “well alright don’t let us hold you up nie, baby.”

@lainalain.bsky.social said this was me tonight 😭

they trash talkin cross the table lawd

the girls really got me out here watching sportsball

wish i’d seen them cinnamon rolls before i put in my grocery order smh yall wrong for that

ok wait i just saw that creole lady in that sexy dale earnhardt, jr suit & aye yall gotta relax 😭

i saw that 8-pack of chicken thighs and said absolutely not 😂 taco soup for the win. i did have to brown the ground beef but that took no time.

[disgusted screaming]

The “start back at 1 with your kids” line was a BAR 😂😂

“you tryna be funny” when i haven’t done a thing but recount facts. can’t nobody show me the lie and i’m not a comedian so…?

how are ✨all✨ of your culinary takes just awful?!?! 😂

a reframe! may you only encounter green traffic lights henceforth and forever more 😇

my kid is in an era where he doesn’t really want any logos prints or graphics on his clothing like that. plain hoodies, plain joggers. y’all — he be looking like a runaway from a work camp 🤦🏽‍♀️ who just happens to have nice sneakers.

my brother’s (black, American, female) friend got grabbed in CLT by 🧊 after being seen leaving groceries @ a neighbor’s door. they yelled, drew guns, and threw her to the ground. no request for ID, etc. she called my brother so upset. she’s technically “ok” but terrified. fascist intimidation 101.

my boss (OG kappa) and i don’t agree on a ton of social issues but we just agreed on this. for every 50 beautiful women in the wild, you might see 1 basic kinda put-together man 🤦🏽‍♀️