...if there was any justice in the world, at least 50% of whatever "adoption support" adoptive parents negotiate with the state would be put into a education or trust fund *in the child's name* for use once they turn 18. But also obvi that's just my trauma talking.

Scrubs intern to another intern using a Bible to hide her phone: "I've read that book. He dies and comes back at the end."

Watching new Scrubs... who tf is Ollie?? I thought JD's kid's name was Sam!?

Can't say I expected "adoption support" to be the first fucking option under "income types" in this utility discount application but here we are I guess, 🫠

This was the wrong week to meet with GVD at 8am Thursday instead of our usual 4pm Friday, 😭 (If anyone needs me, no you don't, and anyway I've thrown myself into the Salish Sea)

Wtf

so I have given a lot of thought about how to express something I have noticed over the past 8 years of talking about #adoption online: The OVERWHELMING preponderance of non-adoptees who have shown receptivity to my views about adoption are people NOT like me: white, straight, cisgender.

Damn. Glad I'm longer in Bremerton these days!

If anyone wants to join me, it's free!

GVD and I are meeting at 8am tomorrow (and then I head straight into my own sessions!) so I can attend an Avgi Saketopoulou presentation on Friday and I... maybe have regrets about this choice, 😅

Yo, @notalegalrecord.net, I think you were posting the other day about maybe getting Apple's new budget laptop? If you end up doing so, I'd love to hear if you like it!

Thanks, I hate it 😭

‘One of the things I love about psychoanalysis is that it encourages an infinite pleating of meanings and motivations, compressed and expanding like an accordion.’  Akshi Singh on multiplicity, Lacan and Issey Miyake.  granta.com/issey-miyake/

There's a post on the r/therapists page from someone who feels it's "verbal abuse" and/or otherwise inappropriate for cts to "test" them with remarks about their age or experience level and like... damn. Glad GVD's always made space for whatever unc. fantasy I have about them! 😬

GVD: "If we end session next Monday or whenever &you're still too dissociated, your assignment is to go to PCC &eat a snack." Me: "Does it have to be PCC? I feel like the last place I want to be in that state is a supermarket!" Post-sesh realization: dude probs doesn't want me crossing streets!

If you haven't already, you need to read this book

happy 6 year anniversary of the day everything changed for most everybody in the world, and which we never really got any kind of national processing or closure on, but instead just tried to pretend like those few years didn't happen & went with denial, projection, splitting, and acting out instead

Ok but the only people I've ever heard say this are <checks notes> ✨ Christians ✨

but when WE say it—especially on a platform like threads—we are rewarded with dunks like “guess you wish you’d never been born” or “why can’t you see how lucky you are.” We are the fucking *experts* on the actuality of adoption. But you all need a Medical Influencer to deliver the message to you

She used *our* fucking slogan. we are the ones who have been saying for years—for generations—that #adoption is not an alternative to abortion. Instead of leading with “Here is what those affected by adoption have been saying,” she speaks our truth and reaps the praise.

...i misremembered what time the service is. It's at 6am, not 5am, so I can bus!!! 🙌🏼

Juan de Fuca and Georgia are important straits in the PNW!

Yeah. This is like 75+% of the 'fights' I have with GVD. :/

Still thinking about this, and to contextualize it– I was remembering this exchange I'd had on Twitter, which resulted in me being blocked by someone I thought respected me &the ~lived experience~ I bring to my clinical work. It wasn't the first time I was wrong in this way, it won't be the last.

Most people rejected his message. They hated Freud because he told them the truth.

TRUUUUUE

🔥 article, such that it was hard to find just one pull quote, lol

I fucking need this ferry

Someone yeet me to Palm Springs, *please* 😭

If the SAVE Act passes then the Republican party should be on the hook for any and all fees associated with "go[ing] through their state processes" to (re)register to vote. Otherwise, this is a poll tax.

The primary strategy conservatives use to convince white women to give up our rights is assuring us that we will be exempt from the oppression. This is “white women will always be able to access abortions and reproductive healthcare” but for the 19th amendment.

Ok, we're well into March now. Time for the temperatures to stay above 40°, even overnight! My achey, stiff ankles and tendency to forget to take my Plaquenil 1-3 days/wk would appreciate it!!! 😭

"Once you ditch needing to be believed, then you have a conversation on your hands. You don’t need to be right. You don’t need to persuade the other person." Therapists are made to "teach" these days. Sometimes I think it's terrible.

I have a weird headache (migraine?) and I am 100% blaming the stupid cold windy rainy weather, 😤

Sea otter!

A 60+ year old one-eyed pregnant rockfish

Guitarfish!

I'm quite obsessed with these chocolate chip sea stars

Y'all, I cannot with this sign near my place, 😂

Aquarium day with Former Housemate is the best post-therapy activity

I feel like the ferries are traveling slower than usual? Maybe orcas or grey whales in Elliott Bay today??

Me: When people like [redacted Twitter nemesis] say therapy schools no longer adequately screen out applicants, they never mean people like [someone we know as unboundaried, maybe predatory]. They mean people like me. I'm not supposed to be here. I was always only meant to be a patient. GVD: Yeahhh

GVD: "...I'm going to be a bitch about it. It's in my disclosure statement." Me: "Oh?" GVD: "Yeah, it's in with my modalities: relational psychoanalysis and general bitchiness."

our common life depends upon each other's toil

The social media demand that everyone pronounce their stance about every single horror and the suggestion that people are indifferent if they haven’t is one of the most annoying things of this era.

"Reproductive rights" includes **the right to raise one's own children**... or it's bullshit.

A toxic environment poisons people. We should make the environment less toxic so people don’t get poisoned. But just removing someone from the toxic environment doesn’t mean they will no longer be poisoned. We should make less toxic environments AND help people recover from being poisoned.

and I think it’s appropriate to point out on International Women’s Day that the often horrendous trauma that birth mothers suffer from being caught up in the #adoption industry is a moral stain on our society that no one wants to talk about.

~Apparently~ [redacted] institute will raise their tuition fees by $500 for the next cohort (so, $200 more than what I'd budgeted for CEs over the year!), which is fiiine but it also feels shady that this info isn't on the website, which ultimately doesn't help resolve my ambivalence re applying!

Tonight's our first 7pm sunset, not that you would even know 😭😭😭