The personal affairs of others are, in almost every single circumstance, none your damn business. Unless people are behind harmed and you stand to improve lives by issuing a take or intervening in some manner, shut the hell up and keep to yourself.

Hide Reply is a miracle of modern social media. Thanks BlueSky.

#horror #memes

Overstimulated

Ooooh is your internet broken. Did someone's immaterial web of financial speculation and surveillance turn out to have a failure point in material infrastructure

In the middle of all Trump’s distractions, pay attention to the fundamental issue: While the richest people are getting richer, tens of millions of people are struggling to pay for rent & groceries. Now 15 million Americans are going to be thrown off health care. Unacceptable.

Work was tedious today. I may take a short nap... ...and then curse myself three hours later for having taken a "short nap."

No Kings Day message to Trump: Other than your coterie of ass-kissers, nobody likes you.

Say goodbye to phones and hello to imagination! With Tarot For Kids, your child will discover a world of magic, creativity, and learning—without a screen in sight. www.thetarotlady.com/tarot-for-ki... #tarot #tarotforkids

Happy Ace Week! 🖤🩶🤍💜

So, so close. I'm working on doing modified pushups as a way to strengthen my shoulder. I'd like to get to 30, but right now I'm at 15. Still, though, progress is progress. And considering that I couldn't even use my shoulder this time last year, I'd say this is pretty good progress.

There is no such thing as redemption. You can't undo the past, wipe the slate clean. You can become a better person, or seek forgiveness or restoration, but you've done what you've done, and nothing can erase your mistakes or misdeeds. Anyone who says differently is selling something.

Here it is. The 8th Chapter of my #Thorki #fanfic that's now been posted on my #AO3. You can read "...are an interlude to..." here: archiveofourown.org/works/678600...

Been a while since I had a nightmare like this... Some spiteful spirit was trying to attack me via the reflection of a mirror. So I turned around and smacked it with my luggage while yelling that I was already having a bad enough day. Spirit left me alone after that. That was nice of them.

“These offences capture not physical violence but domination through monitoring, gaslighting, isolation and control over victims’ everyday lives.” How domestic abusers use emotional bonding to control their victims – new study theconversation.com/how-domestic...

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Fun fact: There were ZERO arrests of #NoKings protesters yesterday, however there were 22 MAGAs arrested for attempting to incite violence.

The NYTimes was not able to rule out the possibility that Donald Trump was actually filmed wearing a crown and flying a jet that doused Americans with diarrhea.

An astonishingly large crowd! Chicago

They call this tactical frivolity. It is -not- pointless and dumb. It's intentional and planned out. They're poisoning potential propaganda with silly, harmless antics that people love. This makes it much harder for the government to lie about what's happening on the streets. ✌️

Here it is. The 8th Chapter of my #Thorki #fanfic that's now been posted on my #AO3. You can read "...are an interlude to..." here: archiveofourown.org/works/678600...

In our country, the power is with the people. Tomorrow, October 18, I encourage you to join your neighbors in peaceful protest at a No Kings event.

Swearing in isn’t some ceremony. You aren’t a member of Congress until it happens. He knows that. No phones, no staff, nothing. I had to escort her into the Capitol on Wed bc Capitol police must treat her as a public visitor until she’s sworn in. And solo visitors aren’t allowed during shutdown!

Jesus Christ these people are so goddamn creepy

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This body is mine…

“Kids”

Don't think in terms of preventing trauma responses. Focus on how you engage w/ your trauma responses & reducing your vulnerably to trauma responses. Injuries hurt, & that's not our fault. It's our job to create a lifestyle that realistically facilitates healing.

It's a good day, a good minute, to remember that if we're not engaging w/ ourselves the way we'd engage w/ a friend or pet we love, including how we talk to ourselves & how we react to our missteps, we're probably still running old trauma programming. Scratch the record.

We didn't need "perfect" parenting. No trauma survivor is in pain because our parents weren't "perfect." We needed parents, teachers, & clergy who were visibly trying to understand us & keep us safe. That's not "too high" a bar or "entitled."

Physics Paths xkcd.com/3155/

My #cat, Aphrodite, really saved me this morning. I forgot to set an alarm and I would have slept right through the time for my medication if it hadn't been for my fur baby meowing and headbutting me and pawing at my face. Animals are so much smarter and sweeter than we ever give them credit for.

Holy macaroni, I am tired. My train of thought was more like a moped.

I was just going through a box of my old memorabilia, and I thought I’d share this concert ad from 1984 (just in case you thought my biopic was LYING about Howie Mandel opening for me!)

Why am I living in the shitty dystopian future where we can fuck shitty LLMs with no actual intelligence running off of plagiarism and the energy and water of a small nation, but not hot sentient robots who can wrap their entire metal hand around my skull.

The Voting Rights Act was passed in 1965 after protesters in Selma risked their lives for equal access to the ballot. Now the Supreme Court is weighing whether to gut one of its last working provisions. bit.ly/4qeZmz4

You're not "crazy" for being super reactive to a slight change in someone's tone of voice or energy toward you. That's your nervous system doing what it had to do for years. Recovery involves smoothing out that reactivity-- without invalidating the needs or pain driving it.

You're not a "nuisance" or a "burden." Trauma Brain, the internalized voice of your bullies & abusers, wants you to believe you do nothing but inconvenience & annoy everyone-- but it just isn't true. You contribute to your relationships. You bring positive things to the table.

We have hay donations from *almost* the entire United States - does anyone want to donate a bale or two from the grey states? Thank you! donorbox.org/mmfs-2025-ha...

According to a Flemish folktale, a man was walking his two dogs at night when all of a sudden he saw a cat. He threw a stick at the cat because he suspected the animal was a witch. Five minutes later, he found himself surrounded by hundreds of cats who threw mud at him. 🎨 Boris Groh #WyrdWednesday

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You know... I tried to listen to some calm, focusing music. It just hacked me off this evening. So I went with this #song from my #Spotify playlist instead. It sets the mood pretty well. spotify.link/oxnsTuibvXb

No trauma survivor who can't stop thinking about things we hate to think about is making a "choice" to stay "fixated" on them. "Quit thinking that" is like saying "you, reading this right now, don't think of a pink elephant." Shame doesn't redirect fixation. It reinforces it.

Humans of all ability levels need support. No living thing is designed to be wholly self sufficient. But trauma survivors often interpret our need for support or sustenance as "needy" & "burdensome"-- like OUR need for support is someone worse or different than everybody's ever.

Me: *has to get up and out of bed and ready for work* Also Me:

No. I will not vote to allow 15 million people to lose their health insurance and watch 50,000 Americans die each year unnecessarily. No. I will not vote to double premiums for 20 million. Republicans must come to the table and negotiate an end to the shutdown.

An underrated hack for choosing a quality therapist is to feel out their attitude toward continuing education. Quality therapists take it seriously & go out of their way to learn about topics they aren't specialists in. Mediocre therapists tend to be dismissive & avoidant of CEU’s.