My parenting philosophy boiled down: Under respond to the little stuff. It's just a problem to solve - If we over-respond to the little mistakes kids make when they're little, they'll be less likely to tell us about the big problems they encounter when they get older and we won't be able to help.

There are different kids of bandwidth. Cognitive, Social, Emotional, Physical - Emotional bandwidth bleeds into everything. How do you build and spend your various bandwidths?

This isn’t good.

My job got easier when I decided that I didn't get paid for the stuff I enjoyed doing, I got paid for the stuff that was hard for me to do. It made the struggle feel more worthwhile.

Outstanding! I can’t wait for mine to arrive!

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It's important to root out the subtext of the messages being delivered to us - "Tylenol taken during pregnancy causes autism." The subtext is gross - "Folks with autism are less than, and it's mom's fault." That's bullshit.

ADHD Cleaning Tip: Look at the area you're in through your phone's camera. You'll be surprised by what you notice!

Have you ever asked a kid to stop doing something, only yo have them do it a couple more times before actually stopping? That's not defiance. It's regulation.

Saturday is one of the most soul affirming days of my year. www.calmercon.org

WORK FROM HOME PEEPS! Do you keep falling into "productive procrastination" traps where you do chores rather than whatever work-related task he should be doing? Try picking only one chore that you can use that way. That boundary might just make you more intentional about what you're doing.

Calmer Con is pleased to welcome the Massachusetts Association for Gifted Education to our Professional Resource Fair. MAGE supports and advocates for the understanding of gifted students and their educational needs. Learn more about them on 9/6 at Calmer Con: www.calmercon.org/events/calme...

There might be more interest in film remakes if we call them covers: Wes Anderson covers "The Three Amigos" Ryan Coogler covers "Night of the Living Dead" Kevin Smith covers "My Dinner with Andre" Taika Waititi covers "Smokey and the Bandit" Tim Burton covers "A Clock Work Orange"

Doing an ADDitude Webinar on Teenage boys at the end of the month. They opened it up to readers for questions and sent me the file. There's 840 of them. 😳 I guess it's a topic people care about! Now I just have to consolidate as many of them as I can. 🤪

Talking to a client who had lost their job, I advised them to register a "Doing Business As" as a consultant to avoid a resume gap(s) in case it takes them a while to get a new job.

“Superman is too woke!” Literally the first page of the first ever appearance of Superman:

To celebrate the book deal, I got myself a PS5 to play Baldur's Gate 3. But I left it in a room without a screen. So I have to move my computer screen to play it and bring the screen back to my office to do my work. That friction keeps me from getting too caught up in video game nonsense.

America cannot long remain free, nor first among nations, if it becomes the kind of place where universities are dismantled because they don't align politically with the current head of the government.

I'm honored to be on the "Parenting Your ADHD Kid Summit"! 28+ ADHD/Parenting experts! ✅ Creating support at home ✅ Managing screen time ✅ Diet & nutrition support for focus & behavior ✅ ADHD sleep solutions ✅ Compassionate discipline …& more! speakers.parentingyouradhdkidsummit.com/Brendan

For the record, I am deeply troubled by RFK Jr's approach to Autism. I'm just fried out on social media at the moment. So I'm working to make the world a better place in ways that aren't online at the moment.

I never trust an automated system to do something that would be problematic if it goes wrong (like filling prescription.) I will always talk to a person. And if it's REALLY important (like filling a prescription), I'll go there in person.

I think this almost daily.

What seems bigger? 1 in 31 or 3%

Managed to work a Rumplestilskin joke into the Wall of Awful book. Too deep go a cut?

Calmer Con is one of the most soul-affirming things I do each year. Please support them if you're into comics and neurodiversity.

Setting myself up to get allergy (peanut, tree nuts, pork, cottonseed oil) shots because the FDA is a mess, and I'm not sure how much longer I'll be able to trust my food.

Positive gossip serves the good of the group rather than the gossiper's goals. Talking about a co-worker's dishonesty or an unsafe individual is beneficial. Negative gossip (spreading rumors, false accusations, or dissing someone) harms our collective well-being. www.health.com/healthy-goss...

An issue I have with chunk of the mental health/self-help stuff I see online is that much of it seems to encourage narcissism. Some of it is overt, and some is just about setting healthy boundaries, but it's easy to overcompensate, and there's usually little to no nuance provided by the creator. 🤔

We often look at the gap between where we are and where we want to be rather than the growth between where we were and where we are. We should look at both. They both matter.

It's tempting to run away from our problems. I used to do it all the time when I was younger. Over the years, I've learned something - If you're going to run away from our problems, make sure you're running toward solutions to those problems.

Random thought: How far away are we from "The Algorithm" being worshipped as a god? Is there a cult yet?

Working with Alex has not only ensured that the book is as good as it can possibly be, it's also helped me to understand my model at a much deeper level. If you're looking to write a book, I highly recommend talking to her.

That part of you that's hard? The thing that gets in the way? The ADHD, chronic fatigue, anxiety, autism, migraines, etc... It is hard. You are allowed to struggle with it. You are allowed to resent it. And you still have to do the thing. It sucks, but it's true. You can do it. I believe in you.

THIS IS HUGE! Researchers at Cornell University have developed a new thermostable, MULTI-TARGET vaccine platform that offers stronger, longer-lasting protection against SARS-CoV-2 AND influenza while providing broader immunity against VARIOUS flu strains. 🧪🧵⬇️

Ways to Put a Door in Your Wall of Awful© #1: Satisfy Biological Needs. Unmet biological needs increase our anxiety. It can be surprising how much easier getting started becomes after eating a snack, drinking some water, or going to the bathroom.

We often make progress and improvement without noticing. We spend so much time looking at the gap between where we are and where we want to be (and moving the goalposts), that we forget to look at our growth. But seeing that growth is the most important part!

I just wandered over to "X", checked out a news post, and thought "Since when are there so many jerks on BlueSky" as I read the comments. The I realized my mistake.

If you have ADHD, fifteen minutes is a trap.So much so, that I would advise you to pretend that it doesn't exist as a measure of time. Five minutes exists. Ten minutes exists. Fifteen minutes? Not so much. Twenty minutes? Probably exists. It's a case by case. What do I mean? 1/7

Respecting the needs and wants of others doesn't mean that we cannot advocate for our own.

My fellow Americans, you're not in trouble at work. No one is mad at you. You're just anxious about the future of the nation.

A step we often skim over what trying to start is determining why the task matters to us. It usually obvious for the tasks we choose, but might not be when tasks are given to us by others. In which case, it's often worthwhile to take the time for figure it out.

After playing a fictional member of the Resistance a long time ago, I never could have imagined it ever happening in real life, but here we are.

People pleasing means feeling like you're only as good as the last time you did something for someone else, while simultaneously worrying that whatever you did wasn't enough.

"Overcoming the Wall of Awful" would not be what it is going to be without @alexhughescapell.bsky.social. She I are crafting an outstanding book that will make the world a brighter, more hopeful place. If you're looking for a writing partner, start with her.

Folks: I am NOT affiliated with the group that is using my name to support an economic boycott. Please spread this post, if you would.

I have accepted an offer with Hachette for “Overcoming the Wall of Awful©” and will be signing with them in the coming days. Book to be published in 2026.

In today’s (overdue) episode, I talk to my friend Tamara Rosier about her new book, "You, Me, and Our ADHD" Family. We discuss family communication patterns, over-functioning and under-functioning, triangles, and ways to mend relationships. www.podbean.com/eas/pb-gg5gp...

One of the things I do to train my focus and attention is reading. I'm not picky about the kind of book that I use for this, I just make sure I schedule 20-30 minutes to read and then settle in. My current book is an autobiography. "The Gamemaster: Almost Famous in the Geek '80s" by Flint Dille

I keep seeing stuff about doing things before you're "ready". But they don't provide context on how to decide what to do before you're ready and what to make sure you're ready for before doing it. And little is said about risk. What do you think about being "ready" to do things?

An idea I'm playing with: "Our values are a guide to help us see how we can meet our unmet needs."