Heads up. He is/was in a lot of starter packs, too, so check yours if you've made one so you're no longer recommending a rapist.

it finally happened. I tried to go but sneakers in Soho, they made me wait in a line, and I snapped. I asked the salesperson how long the line would take and he didn't know. I was like, it's just me, I live here, I'm not a tourist. It's just a shoe store!!! Needless to say, I did not get shoes.

I broke my twice-a-day meditation streak last night, and today I'm struggling to get back in the groove.

Good deal alert. AMC+ includes Shudder, crucially www.amcplus.com

I blew Mykel's mind by telling him that menstrual blood porn is a whole thing, then bummed him out by explaining the way credit card processors make it impossible to share/monetize. and he's no naïf; he watched Annie Sprinkle's directorial debut from a seat of honor -- her lap.

I loved this book—very excited about this new press as well.

get you a partner who, when you're in a super bad mood and you want to self-isolate, coaxes you to be social, and it actually DOES cheer you up. Here's Mykel and Rufus showing off different martial arts moves.

I've never worked with Ross, but there are a few bylines that make my eyes pop, because I've seen raw copy from those writers. whoever commissioned them has a fetish for completely fucking rewriting terrible copy on an ongoing basis. no idea why these guys (always guys) keep getting hired.

someone in Michigan needs to adopt this guy!

it's that time of year when I weigh the sensory experience of putting on sunscreen with whether or not I really need to leave the apt for coffee.

some fabulous human wrote a "swords and smut" book about an elf with a massive hog, and tbqh I need to read it. www.instagram.com/p/DURGFlalDp...

doing some spring cleaning and found this truly ancient VHS tape of Der Todesking given to me by a friend who was like, I don't want this in my house any more. I don't want it either!

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I have meditated a total of 11 hours so far this month.

I mostly like bluesky but for some reason it's got the most pervasive "is this milk rotten? smell it" impulse when it comes to sharing the worst shit. I shouldn't have to know what these shitty journalists trying to launch podcasts look or sound like!

I have Canadian friends in my Signal group chats and I don’t want to lose them, please Canadians, help

getting anxious about leaving the apt to purchase a battery-operated yarzheit candle? sure, why not!!!

I found a website that sells the '90s-style broomstick skirts that were a crucial part of my wardrobe in college. the website looks like it was programmed by hand in 1998 (spoken from experience). I bought 2 skirts. will they arrive? stay tuned.

there is an entire cottage industry devoted to electric yarzheit candles. traditionsjewishgifts.com/shabbat-gift...

I had one client flag every single em dash as an "AI hyphen." that is not a thing! do not make it a thing!

if i have to upgrade to ios 26 because of the fuckshit Door app the venture capitalist vultures who own my building require us to use i am gonna pop a gasket.

speaking of disability and kink there is an all-day Bob Flanagan memorial going on this saturday. it's in LA but you can register to get a link to the livestream

In this week's Scratch, @maggiemertens.bsky.social asks why writers remain on Substack—as a user of Substack herself—and interviews three writers who've left the platform for Beehiiv and Ghost. We know how hard Substack makes it to leave; we also think writers should still try do so.

this has been an adventure in making me super glad I didn't go to NYU undergrad despite the $$ they offered me. I lowkey regret ever signing up for these classes and eventually had to dispute the first charge with my bank b/c NYU couldn't "find" it.

i am radically pro-transgender.

This is actually why he scares the shit out of GOP & establishment Dems. It’s proof taxing the ultra wealthy does good and Democrats can balance a budget.

reformatting my brain with attachment-focused EMDR so I can think of my mom with regular, garden-variety sadness instead of poisonous, lacerating self-hate has been major. I am so glad my longtime therapist decided to expand her practice in this way. it feels like a clean breeze in the old noggin!

Kelly is the very best, and please read this wonderful thread of book recommendations! #booksky

I think I've figured out the best way to manage my migraines, but unfortunately it requires weekly acupuncture.

I have spent Mother's Day weekend mostly being stoney baloney, and honestly, I have no complaints. it was extremely nice!

A classic Rufus-ism. almost as perfect as the time I asked Rufus what he thought of Dallas during our trip, and without missing a beat, he said it was like the Bardo crossed with a golf course. (we were in a weird condo with huge windows overlooking a golf course in Dallas.)

I don't believe in guilty pleasures in general but this definitely counts as one

I have spent way too much time thinking about whether or not I should eat the second coffee cake muffin the nice lady at Dunkin's gave me to not think that the high-CBD edible worked at least a little.

:)

when you live in a place for so long, you accumulate a lot of tarot decks and beanie babies.

trying to delete the largest emails in my gmail archive but like, i NEED the 10mb inspector's reports from the various deeply cursed cabins i have obsessed over through the years.

just need to emphasize this today, for pals and colleagues who have reached out to work with me or recommended me <3 I am so lucky!

we are just trying to watch some true crime trash on Hulu before bed. We don't deserve unskippable Dan Goldman ads where he's just super duper disappointed in Netanyahu. get the fuck outta here.

Sometimes I still think about the terrific Polish horror movie "Demon" and its director, Marcin Wrona, who killed himself before it came out. I just found this great interview by @aprilwolfe.bsky.social with his writer/producer/widow. Such a fucking bummer. www.villagevoice.com/demons-direc...

I expected to hate "Wuthering Heights" and so was pleased to enjoy it for what it was, scare quotes and all, though the ending didn't go hard enough -- either they're childhood sweeties and Nelly ruined everything or they're depraved lunatics who deserve each other. not both!

GASP.

I am not above putting on my dusty Texan accent to smooth-talk a customer service person, I'll tell you whut.

I now have 2 friends who have left nyc and with whom I have regular video chats, and I cannot recommend it enough. you know sharing memes and cute animal pics are my love language, but that's not actually keeping in touch!

oh no, I just spoiled the plot of "The Mysteries of Udolpho" for myself by googling too promiscuously! I'll never learn!

being diagnosed with OCD as a child in the '80s and finding there was a way to boost my treatment with medicine was truly a godsend.

I am pretty sure I am also connected to the moon.

brain so very smooth today after first EMDR session so here's a cat

Talking to a good friend who was in public planning years ago about when they tried to make 42nd street pedestrian-only all the way from W-E in the 80s. What killed it? Shop owners worried about "too many" Black pedestrians. Why can't Americans have good things? The answer is *always* racism.

free-floating panic after a truly wonderful afternoon — sure, why not?