I had a bit of this growing up, but everything started changing during mid to late teen years … everything became so cisnormative and heteronormative. It sucks how these systems affect relationships and bonds between people.

Sisterhood has proven to be and continues to be one of the best parts of transition/authenticity.

Be gentle with yourselves today 🫶🏾☺️

“Am I a toxic femme?” Is a question I just asked myself. I don’t know where it came from 😭… lol

A comic book won't harass you for 10 minutes to buy access to DLC, or flood you with ads that prevent you from enjoying the thing you actually bought. Neither will an older gaming system. This is bigger than a retro trend, it's at least in part a rejection of enshitification. Good.

I sometimes wonder if I'm just an auld fella shaking my fist at clouds when I back off from modern tech, but the truth is, most big tech products are no longer built to be useful, they're built to rinse you for a minimum standard service. And even children can see this.

I’m beginning to realize that like 90% of what I previously thought was trans misogyny or transphobia is just lesbophobia. It’s so rampant and unchecked 😭.

Gosh not being able to take up space in your body really sucks. Cisheteronormativity really did a number on me 😭.

The earlier we realise that most people use sex characteristics (and sexual orientation) to affirm gender (not necessarily define it), the better we’ll understand each other.

Language shapes the way we see the world, the way we see ourselves. Can we be free if we see ourselves through the lens of the coloniser?

Language shapes the way we see the world, the way we see ourselves.

We should not be prescriptive (in our use and construction of language), we should be descriptive so as to know the truth and to be indigenous. It’s also now clear to me why the language of the coloniser (and its use) is prescriptive: it’s all about control and distortion.

Individualism actually seems insane when you think about it.

The earth doesn’t belong to you. You belong to earth. Death makes this message so stark and clear, yet a lot of people spend/organise their entire lives around the idea that the earth belongs to them. Every indigenous culture I’ve come across seems to have this knowledge encoded somehow.

AI for passed loved ones is insulting to me on so many levels. Like how dare you?! People stay doing disrespectful stuff like this and wonder why things are the way they are. There are some things you don’t play with. (That you should instinctively be aware of if you have any humanity).

What are y’all reading? ☺️

On repeat tidal.com/track/110446...

I don’t know if it’s the HRT or me working on accepting myself (probably both), but I feel the sanest (and calmest) I’ve felt my entire life. Everything just makes sense now. There’s no way you can convince that denying trans healthcare to folks isn’t torture. The difference is too stark.

I’m supposed to be on a diet, but now I have a cinnamon roll craving 😑 And carrot cake 🤤. Decisions decisions 🤔

If there’s anything I’ve learned in 2025, it’s that liberation requires that we all start learning and speaking our indigenous languages again, and cultivating culture in our indigenous languages. I wanna learn like 3 African languages, if Olodumare and the ancestors would have it and guide me.

I’ll always be grateful for experiencing love in a romantic relationship with a black person. All those experiences taught me to love myself on a very DEEP and expansive level.

Actual footage of me 90% of the time I’m on this app . Y’all somehow manage to outdo yourselves every time 🤭😂.

Ooooh that’s why everyone’s talking about Hong Kong.

So I just noticed this … I’m not inclined to do any age verification stuff (especially given the way the authoritarians are moving), so if I haven’t responded to any of your dms, apologies.

my only issue with pole-dancing classes (in fact, most dance classes now that I think about it) is that most of the ones I know are during the week and after working hours, and I don't know why but after 27, I somehow lost the ability to go for events at such hours.

I think the pole-dancing propaganda is working on me 🤭... let's see what 2026 says.

It may not sound like much, but this is the first year in a while that I didn't have any relationship, breakup, or friendship drama. I like it here 😇

Actually, a couple of Fela’s songs make me feel this way. Gentleman made me feel this way tidal.com/track/403472...

Okay, I’m getting confusing things about BMI. Like I know it’s not accurate, but isn’t the “belly/visceral-fat increasing risk of certain diseases” thing legitimate? Or is that wrong?

The Journalist/Interviewer in “Interview with a Vampire” gives me life 😆 Always like “nope, you’re still a murderer”

Hey BlueSky. I really could use some help to continue to stay afloat since I'll be off for the Thanksgiving holiday without pay due to working a temp job. I need at least $230. Thank you.💕✨ CA: cash.app/$kweenkashtag Ko-Fi: ko-fi.com/lostfoundbla... V: venmo.com/u/thekutekween #BIPOCMA

A mom made a video about this years ago. She taught her daughter she can LEAVE! We are raised to believe that we have to sit and be uncomfortable because it’s unacceptable to leave. It’s insulting. It’s whatever tf. But she said no leave. Call me and I will get you. You can LEAVE.

Because when I don’t add the “-girl” suffix, people make assumptions about my character based on my biology, and that sucks! There’s a lot of erasure and distortion that happens. This is what respecting people’s identity is about. I hate cisnormativity.

I want to be loved in a gay way. I want to be loved in a black way. I want to love and express love in a gay way, in a black way. The phrase “In a gay way” means so much to me as a trans sapphic. www.instagram.com/reel/DR-gxAZ...

Humor is a type of pleasure. Seeing your partner or date smile and laugh and being the reason they are smiling and laughing, feels good. Most people like that feeling and want to keep it going. For me, humor is a huge part of the foundation for romance

It’s also sometimes scary to me how once a person can make me laugh, almost all bets are off. Smiling my way to letting all my walls down and ignoring potential red flags 😂😂.

What is it about humour? It’s such an attractive quality. Also things like inside-jokes with a partner sometimes feels like the most intimate thing in the world. But we don’t usually associate humour with romance.

The ending of S1 of The Morning Show had me crying, like. I feel like Mark Duplass had a hand the writing, because I remember watching something years ago he’s was involved in that unlocked this deep sadness/despair in me ... to the point that at some point I got wary of seeing his name in credits

“Sometimes love is not enough” That statement bothers me so much lol. Love is abundant in nature, it’s inherently abundant. Claiming it’s not enough reads like an oxymoron. I think we do ourselves a disservice when we conflate love with other things/capacities.

The way these women are unapologetic about their careers as well is just 😮‍💨 *chef’s kiss* #TheMorningShow

Also, Karen Pittman’s character (Mia) from the Morning Show? Absolute goals!!! So smart, sharp, and full-of-depth!!!

God I love a corporate drama 😫🤤

Dysphoria sucks 🫩

there needs to be press on nails for the trans girls with big ass hands

Show whose intro/title sequence I can’t skip: 1. White lotus s2 2. The boondocks 3. Proud family 4. The morning show (this is new for me)

This is love. I once had a partner who would always warm up my freezing hands/fingers using hers … sometimes without me even asking. Tasting that kind of love and then losing it does things to a person 😫

Cisnormativity is just laziness lol.

trying to see if mentioning my handle @oyiza.blacksky.app fixes my blacksky migration ...

Just another version of “boys will be boys”

“Nobody is immune to propaganda”, I don’t know, having basic empathy is pretty effective at making you immune to hateful propaganda. Hold people accountable for their beliefs, don’t infantilise them.