A system that trans people themselves have used against each other, which makes being a trans person trying to exist on social media as a trans person so rancid.

I've been (re) listening lately to a lot of 90's music I hadn't really listened to since then. Something about the music of the late 90's seems to capture what I'm feeling lately.

He is a scam artist. Nothing he "offers" will ever be anything but window dressing for a scheme to make money off of you.

The next time someone goes on a long rant about how if men could get pregnant, then it wouldn't be regulated and tampons would be free, Just say, "yes" "Yes. Men can get pregnant"

Trans people being designated as terrorism is not about making trans people afraid. Y'all, they don't think we are real. They are talking to cis people. Their project is to convince cis people that we are what is taking things away from them to turn them into enacting revenge on us.

Terfism is the 1,2 punch by the patriarchy to convince you to do it's dirty work for it. 1) trans women are taking away women's sports from cis women! 2) trans men are taking away sports from trans women!

"you know trans men are men" about a trans guy forbidden from taking T and only being able to play sports if it's with women. Why do you think that? It's almost as it--that is the point of it all-- to get angry at the TRANS guy instead of the CIS gatekeepers, y'know, including cis women.

When the Tom Holland video came out, it gave me hope of the possible future of being a man, because that's what I wanted to be. But transitioning also made me realize that no, despite the fact that this is transmascs everyday, WE don't count.

It is said that ADHD is distraction, the inability to focus, and those are the requirements put on me by society that I struggle with, but also as a trans person, I am not very well going to let society have the last word on what who I am means.

I just finished the newly released (as of a month ago) new mini series Something Very Bad is Going to Happen, and I am screaming because oh my god this is about transmasculinity although dollars to donuts no one will actually allow that to be said. www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMc_...

When is the last time you were excited about a new technology? Aside from advances in medicine, I can't remember the last time I got excited about a new technology. Instead I am increasingly angry and frustrated that product design is deteriorating at an increasing rate.

I want Andor GQ to happen

Because I transitioned in middle age, I have an understanding of gender that younger people transitioning in their 20's don't have. The very common trope of transmasculity is you are harassed as a girl, then transition in your twenties and suddenly everyone respects you.

Will Stancil is precisely the sort of person where the advice to ignore them is best. Ignoring doesn't always work, but it does when they are not overtly harmful and attention seeking. Taking away the attention takes away the oxygen that makes them so explosive.

What you need to understand about transmasculinity, is that we are hammered with a particular violent anti masculinity that is not directed at cis men. Because it's about social control of who can be a man.

The way to make transmascs de transition is to constantly barrage them with all the bad things about manhood and masculinity and also misogyny. It's there, in the culture, but not wielded against "real men", so people pretend that it doesn't exist when it does.

Always, people hit back at the misogyny of transmascs with the special flavor of misogyny that is in purpose to make them de transition.

What I am saying is that, you should rid yourself of that misogyny you got away with when people perceived you as a woman, but you also can stand up for yourself, these are not mutually exclusive.

So, stuff that was a-ok to say previous to transition, is no longer ok to say and gives social consequences. And that's not a bad thing to happen. But that's why I don't try to school transmascs, because people feel the need to school them already.

They did not become misogynistic suddenly, but the construction of gender means that they must be, because each "side" is pitted against the other.

..but suddenly that misogyny is visible to other people and then only a confirmation of their sense that this is the why for of transmasculity.

What often happens is that when a transmasculine person starts to be more outspoken instead of trying to please other people, is that they've learned misogyny from women as much as men,

Believing that being a woman means that there is no consequence to being misogynistic, is itself a consequence of misogyny and is how some women exert control over other women and non-men.

Somehow, the levels of misogyny that women (particularly cis) have and display aren't something you notice. Or to the degree you do, believe that it does not have consequence.

Transmasculinity does not "have a misogyny problem", at least not to a degree any more so than any other group of people. You just perceive it this way because you've internalized a misogynistic reason for transmasculinity.

The shift that is most striking to me, as a middle aged person who has worked customer service throughout my life--is how this sense of entitlement now exists towards customers.

Minneapolis celebrates spring with a parade of giant handmade socialist puppets and a festival where people row the sun across the lake. This year's Mayday festival was today, and I'm going to try to share some photos and videos (many taken by others) to try to explain it for my non-local friends.

I've been wanting to read books about the journey of people who flee authoritarianism, but it's tricky to find what I'm looking for exactly, but I found it in this book, which gets into deep details of the nitty gritty of what that is like. www.amazon.com/Wake-Madness...

MAGA women don't see their performance of femininity as under duress, that's how leftist women see them. They see it as a form of power, over leftist women, who are sissies in their mind, and marginalized people-including men.

I still don't know who Hasan Piker is, but I'm not sure that actually matters, since the people mad about him don't seem to know either.

The thing about a lot of "low information" voters, is that they are low information by their own choice.

The personal experience of the harms of transphobia is different--whether it is directed at one personally, at one's child or one's beloved.

I think this is one of the bigger impulses behind malgendering trans guys-- people (esp, but not solely, cis women) stabilize their own gender by insisting on a consistency of gendered violence along cis/binary lines

It's important to say that this is, more often than you would think, not a woopsie, but done intentionally. Not necessarily a logical plan to uphold norms, but an emotional reaction on the part of cis women even.

everyone sees the statements from the attorney general in the first image. only trans people and their families experience the silence from the attorney general in the second image.

it sounds & is bad, but a more accurate heuristic than trusting what elites say about their commitment to trans lives is: is there a risk that truly defending trans people could inconvenience a cis person or cost anyone money? if so, they won't do it. that will be right more often than promises.

parents and trans youth cannot be expected to know they are being lied to. your governor and attorney general and mayor all say they've got your back. your mainstream lgbtq orgs are silent. your cis friends repeat it to reassure you. the truth barely gets coverage, and rarely fully when it does.

"It just felt like the floor had fallen out. Like all the support that I thought we had was gone. Maybe this is naive, but I didn't think that would happen in Massachusetts." there is functionally a conspiracy to gaslight you into believing that, so it's understandable www.npr.org/2026/04/17/n...

one of the reasons inflation numbers have been artificially low over the last few decades is that, on paper, TV prices (for a given size/feature set) have fallen intensely. because that leaves out how we pay more for them through enshittification and our data being sold lol

Transphobia as accelerant is a more accurate way to put it. And that's because transphobia is based from fear of gender permeability. That fear has tendrils in any and every kind of hierarchical power scheme. Because gender is made up of all of them.

We're on to generation bs again. I always wanted to see a graph that broke the ages down further. Still, the way we break up generations is wrong.

Door dash grandma is dark. Ever notice that it's marginalized people where they celebrate this exploitation? The elderly, disabled, children, immigrants. Pay that is a drop in the bucket to the actual need, never could be enough. As if it's really about the subservience.

The thing that is really really obvious if you even stop to think for two seconds is that this is propaganda designed to convince men that this is what they want. It's so convincing that even people against this have been hoodwinked to believe that this is what men really want.

Saw The Testament of Anne Lee, a deeply spiritual experience. That is one of the most incredible movies ever made. It's like Sinners, like The Green Knight. www.youtube.com/watch?v=c82n...

Thinking for no real reason at all about how transmascs sneak thief our experiences out of womanhood. About how the more we strive towards in self actualization through feminism, the more we are socially pressured to disavow our kinship to manhood.

I finally got to see The Ugly Step Sister (2025) and hum. What to say. It is really good! But also, it's not just body horror, in fact, more of it is the horror funhouse of girl socialization punctuated by some of the best imo, body horror on film.

Blame the trans people day. It is now. Trans Day of it's all your fault we can't have nice things.

the old is dying and the new cannot be born; in this interregnum i am going to the store

Happy Trans Day of Visibility. May all my beautiful trans siblings continue your work to shape a world of gender liberation that others could not even dream of.

An elephant in the room here is that women very often don't think men have any interiority. I have heard, not infrequently, the criticism that something created by a man is shallow, because men are incapable of thinking as deeply as women do.