"It's not up to a child to prevent their own abuse." Read it again. And again. And again. The culture that allows abuse needs changing.

Great day yesterday filming for Ton Mazzone’s documentary #Traumality

Just read yet another AI written post, and then I went down a rabbit hole of reading AI generated replies and AI generated replies to the AI replies. Robots talking to each other. I’m not just 🤯… I’m 🤯🤯. And yes, that is a half-hearted attempt at an AI joke. I miss people’s voices.

@carolinederry.bsky.social and I have written about our research for @theconversation.com doi.org/10.64628/AB....

Also, telling a survivor that they have to forgive their abuser? Fuck right off into the sun with yourself:

Exactly. Especially these "no healing without forgiveness" people. I have never forgiven my abusers. I have worked hard to heal and helped some fellow survivors to do the same, simply by listening and honoring their feelings.

Blog about shame, from the perspective of a CSA survivor “By all means, tell me it’s an option not to carry that shame. That, I might need to hear. But don’t tell me I ‘shouldn’t’ or ‘mustn’t’ feel it, as that would be a bit, well…shaming.” www.theflyingchild.com/post/don-t-s...

New resources for adult survivors The CSA Centre has created this page with resources for adult survivors of CSA. It looks great!

The Flying Child are a cause very close to my heart. They deliver a CSA survivor and practitioner training programme to education, social care and healthcare. It's a survivor led organisation and they are struggling for funding. Do help if you can. www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding...

Thank you @patriciamwennell.bsky.social and @jomo14729.bsky.social for taking the time to read my manuscript. This feedback has made my heart sing ♥️ #SecondBook #middlegrade

Please see information and consent form to complete at the link below @ailise-bulfin.bsky.social @hazelklarkin.bsky.social @theflyingchild.bsky.social @johndbnldn.bsky.social @drcisme.bsky.social www.canva.com/design/DAHC4...

It’s like every word I never said is tumbling out of me. Today.

Not sure if I'm doing this right but I've joined #Substack. Come and join me! And please tell me how to join you... substack.com/@theflyingwr... #booksky @nicolecaroli.bsky.social @patriciadebney.com @csarepsprojectucd.bsky.social

Forgot my password for ages. Just found it again. #Perimenopause is no joke. Hello.

Overview and 1st findings on how general audiences engage with fiction which depicts CSA' To register and receive the link for the webinar, please email [email protected] @hazelklarkin.bsky.social @ailise-bulfin.bsky.social @drcisme.bsky.social @johndbnldn.bsky.social @theflyingchild.bsky.social

CSAReps Project is delighted to annouce we will present at the SCSMI conference in June in Amsterdam @ailise-bulfin.bsky.social @hazelklarkin.bsky.social @sophiefranklin.bsky.social @theflyingchild.bsky.social @drcisme.bsky.social @brenrooney.bsky.social www.scsmi-online.org/conference

The workshop includes flash-talk presentations followed by Q&A sessions, with a roundtable discussion on the connections between violence, health, and the (health) @sophiefranklin.bsky.social @ailise-bulfin.bsky.social @brenrooney.bsky.social @hazelklarkin.bsky.social @theflyingchild.bsky.social

CSAReps is also delighted to announce we will present at The Conference of the International Society for the Study of Narrative conferences.au.dk/narrative2026 @ailise-bulfin.bsky.social @hazelklarkin.bsky.social @sophiefranklin.bsky.social @theflyingchild.bsky.social @drcisme.bsky.social

CSAReps Project is delighted to annouce we will present at the SCSMI conference in June in Amsterdam @ailise-bulfin.bsky.social @hazelklarkin.bsky.social @sophiefranklin.bsky.social @theflyingchild.bsky.social @drcisme.bsky.social @brenrooney.bsky.social scsmi-online.org/conference

Next writing group for adult survivors of child sexual abuse starting in February! Date: 2nd Feb Day: Mondays Time: 12.30-2pm 6 week, online course. FREE! Please get in touch! [email protected] @TNLComFund

I just absentmindedly asked a colleague if they could ‘check for spelloes’ instead of typos or spellcheck. I think it’s my new favourite word.

A lovely letter to All Survivors....Wishing You much peace, support, and self-care this Christmas. 🌟😍🌟

Thank you to the survivor community for your support this year. Please take a moment to read our ‘Year in Review.’ We couldn’t do this work without this support. Thank you 🌸 theflyingchild.com/so/f2Pit776t?l…

Thank you Bear for this piece. I know it's difficult, but raising the facts about child sexual abuse within the family still appears taboo. @theflyingchild.bsky.social is worth following for insight into a whole swathe of violence against girls (in particular) .

“This is not a blog to debate whether or not survivors of #CSA within the family should cut off contact with their families. It’s a post to acknowledge that neither decision is easy. Both come with challenges - mainly a huge amount of sadness or grief” www.theflyingchild.com/post/dear-su... #csa

glad to be a speaker for this panel event about #boundaries - a topic I have LOTS of thoughts & feelings about! with @theflyingchild.bsky.social & Survivors' Voices www.theflyingchild.com/event-details/boundaries-or-barbed-wire-a-dangerous-tool #counselling #therapy #retraumatisation

I’m currently writing workshops for #midwives and #healthvisitors. The aim is to increase understanding of how CSA can shape pregnancy and early parenting experiences, supporting greater awareness and empathetic practice. They will take place in Jan as part of a wider programme #survivorparenting

Today it was our Beyond Labels workshop. Dr Lucy Johnstone & I worked with attendees to reframe the narrative - looking at an alternative approach to medicalising trauma. Everyone was very engaged, and discussion was valuable. #SideBySideCSA #16daysofactivism #csa @recovery-histories.bsky.social

#16DaysOfActivism Support for survivors of CSA isn’t solely about 50 minutes in therapy rooms, support groups and guilty verdicts. Therapy and groups end. Court cases re-traumatise. Regardless of verdict, the trauma still exists. 1/

The 2025 theme of #16DaysOfActivism against gender-based violence is online abuse. 1 in 3 women experience gender-based violence in their lifetime. 16-58 % of women and girls face digital violence. There is #NOexcuse for online abuse. There is NO excuse for ANY abuse.

Join this online workshop on creating narratives with survivors of abuse snd trauma, on Dec 4th at 2.00 pm. With @theflyingchild.bsky.social and Dr Lucy Johnstone. #PTMF #PTMFramework www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/beyond-lab...

In the context of #16DaysofActivism, the colour orange represents a future free from violence against women and girls. This year the campaign theme is #NoExcuse for online abuse. Violence shows up in many forms. I wrote a poem because of posts on LinkedIn that felt hypocritical. Orange Is Not 🍊

We won't run We're here to stay Howling ghosts they reappear Mountains that are stacked with fear But we have Lion hearts Though far away We are still the same Survivors are Lion Hearts ❤️❤️🦁 Be Lion-hearted With Love @theflyingchild.bsky.social King & Lionhearts youtu.be/A76a_LNIYwE?... Image

We are delighted to welcome our newest board member. John (Baker)Gregor. John has been a professional actor for over thirty years,working in theatre, television, short film @theflyingchild.bsky.social @drcisme.bsky.social @johndbnldn.bsky.social @ailise-bulfin.bsky.social @hazelklarkin.bsky.social

My two youngest have started watching @bbceastenders.bsky.social - and while the storylines can be intense, they open up important conversations that are harder to start. 🧵

Two keynotes. Two cities. Countless conversations about #CSA with MH & SW practitioners. I met with many who want to make a difference. Today I’m speaking at AD4E Festival. On Sunday Patricia Walsh (#TheFlyingChildStory) & I meet with UK Counselling Network Tired but grateful to be in these spaces 🌸

I couldn’t speak these words when I was nine. Now I can. I share as a reminder that the problem is not the survivor but a world that turned the other way. Latest blog about surviving childhood r*** and the aftermath. (A metaphorical take) #CSA www.theflyingchild.com/post/i-died-...

I’m sure most people would prefer to not work on a Sunday, so I’m really impressed that so many therapists from Child in Time turned up to a talk about my experience of surviving CSA and the impacts on my adult life. 1/

The final words in #TheFlyingChildStory are ‘Not The End’. I continue to write in the same style to put words to emotion hard to express. Overwhelm isn’t always negative. Sometimes it’s the result of being in the presence of those with the warmest of hearts ♥️ www.theflyingchild.com/post/the-lit...

CSAReps Project team members Victoria Pohls & Aleksandra Milenovic presenting at Everyday Reading of Literature (EROL) Symposium in the University of Zagreb last [email protected] @theflyingchild.bsky.social @hazelklarkin.bsky.social @drcisme.bsky.social

Tales from the Woods Tales of all cultures contain child protection messages. These stories have impact on children because they offer a "Language" to explain the experience of Living with a Predator #LanguageMatters #WordsMakeWorlds Follow @theflyingchild.bsky.social youtu.be/kFfhBX7ET-4?...

The presenters recordings of our CSAReps project launch are now available on our website @hazelklarkin.bsky.social @brenrooney.bsky.social @theflyingchild.bsky.social @drcisme.bsky.social and thank you again for your time and the wonderful presentations!👍 csa-in-fiction.com/recordings/

Some lovely feedback shared on LinkedIn by Sally Benson, Director of U.K. Counselling Network, following my talk to counsellors. ♥️🌸 #CSA #Survivor #counselling #therapy

Some lovely feedback shared on LinkedIn by Sally Benson, Director of U.K. Counselling Network, following my talk to counsellors. ♥️🌸 #CSA #Survivor #counselling #therapy

Last night I presented to U.K. Counselling Network. The aim of my talk was to explore systemic challenges in responding to victims and survivors of CSA - from my perspective as a survivor not adequately supported by the mental health system, to live alongside trauma. 1/

This word count feels like an important milestone. Thank you to those who have offered to read and feedback on my first draft. Few more chapters to write, but there is a clear direction now and I’m loving the process. Writing is the Best. Thing. Ever. #secondbook

Finally remembered my password to log back in to @bsky.app

A very moving read. Perfectly captures the Child trying to disclose the worst of horrors inflicted on their soul Listen to the Child's Voice To be read by every professional who comes into contact with child survivors of #CSA Children should be seen as #DomesticAbuse victims in their own right