“We are like if sharks had hyena social structure”

“BPDs are friends not food”

“Its probably a good marker that if you have to mask around them they aren’t worth investing in”

“I perform emotion for reasons of self preservation. Like say i hear about a disaster or something if i am around certain people i will fake being effected”

“With our, at least at first, tennous at-best connection to our sense-of-self *and* often being the result of trauma of having our agency deeply and fundamentally violated from an early age, influence from anybody feels like a possible immediate existential threat.”

“I think psychopaths are naturally intimacy starved We have emotional eating disorders”

“The monitoring and control mindset blunts your own sense of personhood in my opinion”

“Its good to have the fluency to not have to control”

“Our instinct when someone is emotional around us is to try to control it.”