I really try not to have regrets because I think they're unhelpful and a waste of time, but lately I have been really wishing I could turn the clock back and put a lot less time into a few relationships that ended up being quite harmful to me and a lot more time into literally anything else

my brain is soup, how are we expected to know so many things

it also looks like shorter work weeks, universal free/low-cost childcare, rent caps, walkable cities/accessible and reliable public transport, free education and healthcare...essentially, eliminating the conditions that keep people exhausted, in debt, financially insecure and time-poor.

TCC was the first magic content channel I found when I was first getting into the game, and I'm really glad it was, because even little things like seeing players on shuffle up and play introduced with their pronouns made me feel instantly safer and more welcome in this community 💜

y'all are so hard on people who use generative AI and I think that's really unfair. it's not their fault that artificial intelligence is the only kind they have!

I think people are put off because they think they have to write long, dense descriptions, but that's not the case! the most useful advice I ever read was to describe the details that are relevant to the reason you're posting the picture, because that's what you'd expect sighted people to focus on.

I could listen to david raya doing interviews in his beautiful, bizarre hybrid spanish/northern english accent all day. if this man narrated an audiobook of the yellow pages I would listen to it on loop

pain is worse today but I'm feeling better mentally/emotionally after some productive PhD work last night and a positive supervision meeting this morning. will it last? who knows! but I'm slightly more okay with the idea of being alive, at least for now.

having already tried doing nothing, democrats embark upon a quest to find out if it's possible to do even less

A major analysis published in the British Journal of Sports Medicine found that, after one to three years of hormone therapy, trans and cis women have comparable levels of athletic fitness.

wrote some motherfucking thesis words tonight!!! faith in my ability to occasionally function restored 🎉🎉🎉 take that, chronic illness ✨

this post brought to you by the sound of my electric hair trimmer's motor audibly choking upon first contact with the dense prehistoric growth spanning my inner thigh

anyway, on a positive note, because I really do not want to think that I've tried everything and nothing will help, they're booking me in to see an occupational therapist (possibly the one allied health professional I haven't seen yet), so I'm cautiously optimistic about that!

(I'm venting out loud, please do not offer me medical advice) so my GP referred me to a pain management specialist clinic to assist with my various Agonies™, and one of the things they make you do at the clinic is attend these skills sessions, which are held in groups. my first one was today.

STRIKE FIRST, STRIKE HARD, NO MERCY COBRA KAI HAVERTZ

having a cluster b personality disorder is great fun because people will treat you like you're less than human and then tell you that you started it by refusing to stop existing in your less-than-human state

I hadn't asked myself the question "what if chotiner got to interview leni riefenstahl?" before now, but I guess it's nice to have an answer regardless

once again, a series of cartoon supervillain behaviours that even the hackiest b-grade sci-fi schlock writer would consider over-the-top

my favourite yes all men moment is when I told a (former) friend that I felt safe with him because I trusted that his friendship wasn't motivated by sexual attraction to me, and less than 12 hours later he was like "I didn't want to say it at the time, but I am very much sexually attracted to you"

YOU - I don't think anyone's being promiscuous with me. I wish they were, though.

I'm sorry, is "pam bondi" not the name of the barbie doll ripoff from the simpsons

(dril voice) you do not, under any circumstances, "gotta say something"

I'm going to be $450 short on rent due to missing work to covid earlier this month. I have until 2/4 to raise it or take a $100 late fee. Shares are a huge help, thank you

February 1st is Sunday. I have to put something down on an apartment ASAP. I'm looking at a place tomorrow. I have to move out on the 28th. Please.

Assumption of the Virgin, by Guido Reno, 1598-99, 📸 by Jose Manuel Alvarez Rey

thinking about this passage I read today in a kirby dissent from 2007 about the rule of law and why (and when) it matters:

(john mulaney voice)

it's like if your worst uncle who never figured out that facebook comments aren't private messages were running the country

we're doing father/son activities (watching the football and not talking)

walked into our newly-renovated office and the paint smell immediately worsened my existing migraine, so it's back to WFH with all the blinds drawn 🫠

can't prescribe puberty blockers to [trans] children because we need more clinical data, but can't run clinical trials with [trans] children to get that data. hmmm, it's almost as if the goal was never to make gender-affirming care safer, but rather to stop it altogether.

as someone writing a PhD about the limitations of justice (and human rights, and equity, etc etc), I really enjoyed this response to my thread, which articulates a lot of the issues with "rights" as a framework for social progress

anyway, something something sin is treating people as things

there's another thing I think about a lot, which is that any right that can be revoked from someone as punishment (whether for wrongdoing on their part or simply because you don't like them) isn't a right but rather a privilege

the thing is, universal human rights are only universal if they include everyone, even the groups of people society has decided are less important (children, prisoners, people with names you can't pronounce, homeless people, the unemployed, disabled people who don't make good inspiration porn, etc)

gosh, I wonder if there's a clear and obvious progression from "fascists targeting 6th graders playing volleyball" to "fascists putting people in camps and killing them in the streets" that we have witnessed over and over again, making pushback back on the former essential to preventing the latter

hey google, what is healthcare tourism

People imagine picking up and finding *something better* is an easy solution. But how is that supposed to work, when all your time and energy goes to staying alive? You have almost nothing to set aside to actually fight your way out.

unsurprising to anyone who has ever seen a brexiter drunkenly abuse a kebab shop worker, but still

killmonger_is_this_your_king.mp4

microwaved scrambled eggs in a mug really is the depression meal of champions

why is he giving NYT readers bedroom eyes though

one nice thing about having a nephew is getting confirmation that the same goofy shit I used to do to make my baby sister stop fussing also works on her kid

switching from testosterone gel to injections for various reasons, and as I got the first injection today, I was immediately reminded why I asked for the gel back when I started this process

I'm vaguely considering growing my hair out (not all the way down to my waist again, more of a 90s italian footballer vibe), the downside of which is that it currently looks like this:

"abolish ICE" is a COMPROMISE POSITION. if dems can't even get behind the very mildest reforms, there's absolutely no way they'll ever truly hold any of these fascists or their hired thugs accountable.

ICE shot out a young trans man's eyes for the crime of caring about his neighbors.

very briefly stopped petting my cat to have a coughing fit and he gave me the DIRTIEST look about it

if I didn't already have a calendar reminder for the next dose of my migraine medication, the absolute nightmare scenes inside my eyeballs right now would have ensured I didn't forget 🙃

the absolute mask-off hatred on display here is staggering. "we didn't actually think anyone would side with a palestinian!" god grant this racist the day he fucking deserves.