For me one of the hardest parts of real world trauma & addiction recovery has been managing the anger at myself for not "getting my sh*t together" sooner. Getting up in your head about all the years you "wasted" is a recovery sabotaging trap. Don't bite. Grace over guilt.

It's Motor City time!! Come see @hollowmo0n.bsky.social for my wares at artist alley table i7 for all your LaDs and FFXIV needs! 📣 REMINDER: bring cash, please! This show is NOTORIOUS for the bad cell service. Plan ahead! [ #lads #loveanddeepspace #ffxiv #motorcitycomiccon #MC3 ]

Happy 10th, you magnificent freakshow. #TheFinalPam

This is so sweet!!! I love getting to hear about everyone's wols and why they like the job stone they chose 😭❤️❤️❤️ my heart

Unfortunately, this. Genre fiction makes the most sense to my backwards brain. Forever livid that whatever compassion OSC tapped into when he wrote the Ender saga never actually got through to the author himself and his work has to live with the legacy of his bigotry.

Turns out that being your own worst bully is not good for you, yo. Recognizing how I'd treat someone else I love in any given situation and then applying that to myself has had huge benefits.

If we're going to develop the kind of durable, realistic self esteem trauma recovery requires, we need to quit repeating to ourselves sh*t our abusers said to us or about us. It's a poisonous habit we were tricked into. Hear a loud record scratch sound whenever you notice it.

She's a part of a WOL Trio! Her boys are absolutely terrible influences and I love them to death ♥️💕🥰

This is Vilyette/Vilya! She was a Lady of Ishgard who abandoned her titles & ran away to Gridania to become an adventurer. People weren't pronouncing her name (Veel-y-eht) so over time she made the change to Vilya (Veel-yha). It was easier & helped her distance herself from her Ishgardian heritage.

I have an Elezen formed man named Lorelai. He's actually a descendant of Siren and only pretending to be an elf, but hey, it still counts right? He's the angelic half to Aydan's darker themes. Alledged "terrible influence" on our trio's azem shard, Vilya. He would deny the claim 😏

Elezen time! This is Aydan. He's an elf from the First, dragged over to the Source via void magic during the Shadowkeeper's rebellion. He is here to cause problems on purpose, especially once he learns everything he cared about was destroyed by the Flood of Light. 😘

SHOP UPDATE IS LIVE!!! 🎉✨ Please use my direct link to shop, it helps me save on Etsy fees! zhelly.etsy.com

My shop update goes live in 45 minutes! 🥳 Here's a reminder that my leftover Gateway shopping bags will also be available! [ #FFXIV #CrystalExarch #G'raha ]

My Pillow Preorder Bash will go live tomorrow 11/11 at 5PM EST! Here's a thread with all the options I'll have available! Starting with FFXIV ♥️ [ #FFXIV #FF14 #FFXIVArt #FFXIVMerch ]

wifey 🥰🥰🥰

MONDAY 11/10!!! My shop will be back with my pillow preorder bash that will run until Cyber Monday 11/24 as well as a ton of other goodies! Please look forward to it ♥️‼️

It is not "entitled" to acknowledge what we needed & didn't get growing up. We're not suffering now because we weren't parented "perfectly." Figuring out what we lacked isn't even necessarily about "blame:" we're just trying to understand our wound so we can design our recovery.

Smaller min height for male elezen i just want him to be a little shorter ty

I love this con and I want it to keep going!! All of this sounds like a solid plan for moving forward without overextending. Looking forward to this shows future!

Finding out you’re autistic isn’t a personality update. It has potential for a full nervous-system rewrite. Your past starts making sense in real time. Your future suddenly feels negotiable. And you finally stop apologising for being built differently. And this makes HUGE changes to YOU.

Queen of Swords

Aydan thinks of it as Etheirys, but conversationally has always defaulted to "this star" or "the star", sometimes he will slip and call it "your star" and hope nobody notices

The lovely @hollowmo0n.bsky.social is helping me this weekend!!! We accidentally matched today 🦇🐈‍⬛️🖤

Happy All Saint's Wake!!! 👻🎃⚡ [ #FFXIV #FF14 #XIVArt ]

Hello Youmacon! Come see me at table H14 in artist alley!

Reaper feature! kinda fits the Halloween mood, right? 🎃 Headed to Youmacon for the weekend, find me in artist alley with leftover jobstones from GWF and, finally, a rare appearance from all my prints and other art #jobstones #ffxiv #resinart #ff14

What does autistic safety look like to you?

noooo, he seeks them out, theyre his friends :c Really, though. Souls that cant rest are kind of his wheelhouse-- it was the primary work of his ancient, Thanatos

[ #ffxiv ] bite the hand that feeds you

"I will revenge my injuries; if I cannot inspire love, I will cause fear." - Mary Shelley, Frankenstein Remembering the incredible work of the late great Bernie Wrightson on his birthday 🖤

Aydan is very attractive, but the aura he gives off is too umbral and it creeps people out if they spend too long near him. He also doesn't carry himself like someone who wants to be noticed, either, so its not something that often gets talked about, at least to his face.

"Working our recovery" does not mean that trauma survivors are obsessed w/ our past or pain all day. It's very much the opposite: it means we are obsessed-- & I mean that quite literally-- w/ creating a quality of life that is in no way limited by or tied to our trauma.

Getting to hear about so many wols and their lore this weekend made me wanna dive back into the brainrot depths, maybe ill be brave enough to share some

Explain your OCs power with a gif

Customs jail kept them from Gateway Fate but oh gosh they're so cute 😭 so stylish in their little matching outfits,,

me, a corpse: i have to lay eyes on aydan, lorelai, vilyette and their son sebastian today or i'll die

Someone lose a list #FFXIV

To see a brighter tomorrow.

I was so happy with how this display turned out! I'll really only need such a jobstone focused layout for GWF but it was exciting to plan it all. Can't wait for next year!

Thank you GWF for an amazing weekend! I ended up with a migraine today but it blessedly held off until the moment the hall closed, then I was on the floor, oops 🫠 no wonder I was having trouble putting keychains (and sentences) together today. I'm gonna rest now ilu all

My family all came to Gateway and if I think too much about it I'll get emotional all over again 🥹 My mom and dad helped me so much with my booth, and my sister helped my wife run theirs all weekend too!! Baby me going to ASTL back in the 2000s could never, ever imagine this, it was so special ❤️❤️❤️

It's art party time!! @kaijujungle.bsky.social and I are hosting until 9pm in the executive board room! We have drawing supplies, stickers for decorating top loaders, fun games, and we're raffling off two ita bags!! #GatewayFate

I failed to get a booth photo this morning before the madness started, and by the time I didn't have a line, everything was cleaned tf out 😅 oops! I'm EXHAUSTED yall aaaaaaaaaaaaa it's been great. Looking forward to tomorrow!

We ( @zhelly.bsky.social and @roguecorvid.bsky.social ) have a WoL stamp rally going today and tomorrow at GATEway fate! Come get art of our dumb babies ✨️

I love you so much 🥰❤️❤️❤️

Warriors with a purple theme, a Gateway Fate sneak peek requested by @lizzkitt3h.bsky.social 🟣🔮🍇😈💜 #ffxiv #ff14 #jobstones #resinart

A few pink and teal highlights that @lumariushearse.bsky.social wanted a peek at ✨️ 💕🌸🟢 #ffxiv #ff14 #jobstones #resinart

Everything is finally cast....... 🥲 Any last close ups you wanna see before it all gets packed? #ffxiv #gatewayfate #jobstones

No spoilers but if the big deep dungeon boss is Lelfrey I'm gonna die. Plz it's my lore

Blue dragoons, and a few more colors for fun, requested by @demoniofleurs.bsky.social 🔹️🐲🔹️ last stretch of gateway fate prep, let's goooo #ffxiv #ff14 #jobstones #soulcrystals #resinart