You're not bad at relationships. You've just been measured against a script that was never written for you. Join me for a 2-hour virtual seminar on autistic relationships: love languages, boundaries, unmasking with the people closest to you - plus Q&A. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...

A meltdown isn't a tantrum. It's the alarm, not the crash - your nervous system saying your needs went unmet. Learn more at my online seminar on autistic meltdowns, shutdowns & burnout. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...

You weren’t “high functioning.” You were surviving. People confused the absence of visible distress with the absence of distress. Autistic folx learn very early that suffering quietly gets “rewarded” by keeping us safe.

Do you deal with “executive function” issues? What kind?

Your thoughts don’t cause your dysregulation. They indicate it. The 4am spiral isn’t why you’re not okay. It’s the smoke, not the fire. For autistic folx, rumination is the nervous system waving a flag - your needs aren’t being met, and it’s trying to tell you.

I'm hosting a virtual seminar on navigating relationships as autistic adults on August 31. we're going to look at how they look different for us and how to build ones that affirm our lived experience www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...

People who say autism is a superpower don’t understand superheroes The whole point of a superpower is that it’s also the thing that makes you vulnerable Autistic strengths & struggles aren’t two separate lists They’re the same trait, seen in different light You don’t get one without the other

Masking doesn’t only hide autism. Eventually it hides you from yourself.

AuDHD brains don't run on neurotypical energy rules - and most advice assumes you're fighting one system, not two. 6 weeks on energy, inertia, masking, and burnout, built by someone who lives it, not someone who read about it. www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...

Autistic humans aren’t asking for the bar to be lowered. We’re asking why the bar was designed around one kind of person in the first place.

There's a version of me that lowers my voice for my loved ones because I love them and they have a headache. There's a version of me that used to shrink for anyone who might get angry. From the outside, they look identical.

Martin Buber had a phrase for turning a person into a problem to manage - I-It. And another for meeting someone fully while staying fully yourself - I-Thou. Most of what gets called "good communication" is actually I-It.

You're not bad at relationships. You've just been measured against a script that was never written for you. Join me for a 2-hour virtual seminar on autistic relationships: love languages, boundaries, unmasking with the people closest to you - plus Q&A. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...

Most rooms ask you to lead with one identity and leave the rest at the door. This one doesn't. Free monthly circle for autistic trans, nonbinary, and autigender adults - no translating, no picking a lane. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...

let's learn together!

Se connaître quand on est autiste, c'est compliqué. Pas parce qu'on manque d'intelligence. Parce qu'on a passé des années à se voir à travers les yeux de gens qui nous comprenaient pas.

Autism gets sold to us two ways Tragedy - a life of deficits and suffering Or superpower & gift, if you just reframe it right Both are missing the full picture It's a disability And the world isn't built for us, and that fucking hurts The grey space is where autistic humans actually live

no, being a shmuck isn't unmasking

They call it obsessive. Restricted. A symptom. For autistic folx, a special interest is what regulates us. The one place the noise stops. The one thing with which we get to be fully, unmistakably ourselves. Stop pathologising things that keep us afloat.

Masking and religious performance ask for the same thing - look like you belong, don't ask why it's hard. This free circle's for autistic Jews to talk about that overlap without explaining either half of it. We meet 3x a month - come join us. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...

We're told our inner lives are either too literal for mysticism or too rigid for faith. Neither's true. Free circle for what autistic spiritual experience actually looks like — whatever tradition, practice, or none, you bring. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...

Most autism support teaches you to survive a world that wasn't built for you. My workshop asks a different question - what happens when you stop fitting yourself to a life that doesn't work, and start building one that does? www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...

The most radical thing an autistic person can hear isn’t “you’re brilliant.” It’s “I don’t need you to pretend to be someone else around me.”

Most rooms ask you to lead with one identity and leave the rest at the door. This one doesn't. Free monthly circle for autistic trans, nonbinary, and autigender adults - no translating, no picking a lane. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...

Allyship isn't a feeling. It's a practice. Most advice given to the families of autistic adults doesn't work - because it was never built by autistic people. Autistic-led, for partners, parents, colleagues who want to support us. www.theautisticcoach.com/allies-autis...

no, being a shmuck isn't unmasking

You've spent your career holding space for everyone else. Autistic doctors, nurses, therapists, clergy, coaches - trained to support others, rarely given space to be supported themselves. That's what I'm here for - supporting my peers theautisticcoach.com/

Autism gets sold to us two ways Tragedy - a life of deficits and suffering Or superpower & gift, if you just reframe it right Both are missing the full picture It's a disability And the world isn't built for us, and that fucking hurts The grey space is where autistic humans actually live

AuDHD brains don't run on neurotypical energy rules - and most advice assumes you're fighting one system, not two. 6 weeks on energy, inertia, masking, and burnout, built by someone who lives it, not someone who read about it. www.theautisticcoach.com/audhd-group-...

We're told our inner lives are either too literal for mysticism or too rigid for faith. Neither's true. Free circle for what autistic spiritual experience actually looks like — whatever tradition, practice, or none, you bring. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...

Masking and religious performance ask for the same thing - look like you belong, don't ask why it's hard. This free circle's for autistic Jews to talk about that overlap without explaining either half of it. We meet 3x a month - come join us. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...

You've spent your career holding space for everyone else. Autistic doctors, nurses, therapists, clergy, coaches - trained to support others, rarely given space to be supported themselves. That's what I'm here for - supporting my peers theautisticcoach.com/

Not a group for parents of autistic kids. A group for autistic people who ahve kids, doing it without a script anyone wrote for us. Free monthly circle on zoom. Come have a space for you. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...

Most autism support teaches you to survive a world that wasn't built for you. My workshop asks a different question - what happens when you stop fitting yourself to a life that doesn't work, and start building one that does? www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...

#Autism and the Menstrual Cycle Free Discussion Group this Saturday! Sign up here: www.patriceriley.com/autistic-pre... It’s a great chance to connect, learn, and be in community.

Allyship isn't a feeling. It's a practice. Most advice given to the families of autistic adults doesn't work - because it was never built by autistic people. Autistic-led, for partners, parents, colleagues who want to support us. www.theautisticcoach.com/allies-autis...

People who say autism is a superpower don’t understand superheroes The whole point of a superpower is that it’s also the thing that makes you vulnerable Autistic strengths & struggles aren’t two separate lists They’re the same trait, seen in different light You don’t get one without the other

I’m a multi-disabled autistic human running free support & discussion groups every month for hundreds of people. I also offer all of my paid workshops on a pay-as-you-can basis. I do this because autistic humans deserve real support, not just whatever they can afford.

Most rooms ask you to lead with one identity and leave the rest at the door. This one doesn't. Free monthly circle for autistic trans, nonbinary, and autigender adults - no translating, no picking a lane. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...

La Régulation et la Résilience, c’est pas la même chose. La Régulation, c’est ce que tu fais maintenant, dans ce moment, pour gérer ton système nerveux. La Résilience, c’est la capacité que tu construis au fil du temps à revenir à l’équilibre.

Using the toilet can be a huge demand trigger for autistic adults. We don’t talk about it enough.

Your meltdown isn't the whole story. The trigger - the loud noise, the cancelled plan, the unclear text - that's just the final drop in the bucket. The bucket was already full.

that moment when you forget that the world is dark because your needs are being met

The most radical thing an autistic person can hear isn’t “you’re brilliant.” It’s “I don’t need you to pretend to be someone else around me.”

I'm hosting a virtual seminar on navigating relationships as autistic adults on August 31. we're going to look at how they look different for us and how to build ones that affirm our lived experience www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-educa...

Using the toilet can be a huge demand trigger for autistic adults. We don’t talk about it enough.

I’m a multi-disabled autistic human running free support & discussion groups every month for hundreds of people. I also offer all of my paid workshops on a pay-as-you-can basis. I do this because autistic humans deserve real support, not just whatever they can afford.

Masking and religious performance ask for the same thing - look like you belong, don't ask why it's hard. This free circle's for autistic Jews to talk about that overlap without explaining either half of it. We meet 3x a month - come join us. www.theautisticcoach.com/autism-discu...

Most autism support teaches you to survive a world that wasn't built for you. My workshop asks a different question - what happens when you stop fitting yourself to a life that doesn't work, and start building one that does? www.theautisticcoach.com/newly-diagno...