"The "strong intention, light attachment" ethos is not about caring less; it’s about being flexible in how you dedicate yourself to what you care about." www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-... #TheTreeThatBends @qubelfastofficial.bsky.social

In Sept’s ‘5 to Thrive’: ✅ The concept of ‘strong intention, light attachment’ - finding purpose with ease💪🪽 ✅ ’America’s Team: The Gambler & His Cowboys’ - a documentary about the Dallas Cowboys 🏈 ✅ ‘The Next Conversation’ - a book by Jefferson Fisher📕 tinyurl.com/Thr5Sept25 #Thr5newsletter

It’s one year to the day that ‘The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind can help you thrive’ was released! 🌳 🎂 Using the anatomy and functioning of a tree as a central metaphor, it showcases the power of psychological flexibility and describes actionable steps you can take to develop it..

Interested to explore your sense of purpose? Try the ‘Day on Purpose’ exercise. Six questions to help you connect with what you’re passionate about. #Purpose #TheTreeThatBends #Psychology

A moan about PDFs - Persistently Denied Feelings. If you recognise that you’ve been struggling with difficult emotions, help is available. Seek support from an accredited practitioner, so you can thrive. #TheTreeThatBends #Thrive #Wellbeing #Emotions #talkingtherapies #psychologicalflexibility

50 years on from the release of Jaws & the struggles Steven Spielberg experienced in making it - I was inspired to write an article for Training Magazine about how we can shift our relationship with difficult thoughts to thrive. trainingmag.com/the-importan... #psychologicalflexibility #Thrive

In July’s ‘5 to Thrive’: ✅ The ‘Nature Pyramid’ & its impact on wellbeing 🌱🌲🌊 ✅ ’Titan’ the film about the loss of the submersible at the wreck of the RMS Titanic 🚢 ✅ ‘The Forest is The Path’ the book by Gary Lightbody of Snow Patrol 📕🌳 tinyurl.com/Thr5July25 #Thr5newsletter #Wellbeing #Thrive

In July’s ‘5 to Thrive’: ✅ The ‘Nature Pyramid’ and its impact on wellbeing 🌱🌲🌊 ✅ ’Titan’ the film about the loss of the submersible at the wreck of the RMS Titanic 🚢 ✅ ‘The Forest is The Path’ the book by Gary Lightbody of Snow Patrol 📕🌳 tinyurl.com/Thr5July25 #Thr5newsletter

‘The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind can help you thrive’ is out now in paperback! Amazon reviews: ‘A book full of wisdom that I will return to over and over’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ ‘Everyone would benefit from reading this book’ ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ amzn.to/44rtb5d #TheTreeThatBends

Do you want to excel and feel well? Discover the power of a Flexible Mind by checking out #TheTreeThatBends - it’s about breaking through without breaking ‘you’. Order the paperback version in the UK today and receive it on 3rd July. amzn.to/44xOiTL #wellbeing #thrive #performance #bemoretree

For centuries artists have helped us to ponder our emotions & how we respond to them. Deep gratitude to Julia Bakay for her artistic interpretation of themes discussed in #TheTreeThatBends book, which focuses on how we can navigate the emotional storms life can bring. #psychologicalflexibility

I enjoyed speaking with Gabe Howard about the strengths and weaknesses of ‘grit’ during our conversation for his Inside Mental Health podcast. Access the podcast here: psychcentral.com/blog/podcast... #grit #flexibility #psychologicalflexibility #TheTreeThatBends 🌳 #mentalhealth #wellbeing

A visual summary of key concepts from ‘The Tree That Bends’ 📕   amzn.to/40m2HBN #booksky

Too much mental time-travel is bad for your inner environment. #mindfulness #beherenow #thetreethatbends

Notice how you are perceiving time in your life. It makes a big difference to how you experience it. #Time #Notice #Mindfulness #TheTreeThatBends

“Knowing how your memories are created can help you create better memories” Check out my new blog post in @psychologytoday.com about the “peak-end rule” #memory #thrive #peakendrule #psychology www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-...

We're looking to speak with people in the UK who have experienced psychosis and worry about relapse. Could you help? Reposts/shares hugely appreciated! 🙏 #PsychSciSky #AcademicSky #psychsky #Psychosis #MentalHealth #MentalHealthResearch #schizophrenia

To mark #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek, I’m giving away a copy of #TheTreeThatBends as well as a free registration for the #OnlineLearning programme that compliments the book. To win, type the words ‘mental health’ into the comments below. #mentalhealth #wellbeing #thrive

In May’s ‘5 to Thrive’: ✅ The Hawthorne Effect - the idea that we work harder when people are watching. 👀 ✅ ‘Doubters to Believers: Liverpool FC - Klopp’s Era’ - about Jürgen Klopp 🔴 ✅ ‘Fight Right’ the book about relationships by Julie & John Gottman 🗣️ tinyurl.com/Thr5May25 #Thr5newsletter

In May’s ‘5 to Thrive’: ✅ The Hawthorne Effect - the idea that we work harder when people are watching. 👀 ✅ ‘Doubters to Believers’ - a documentary about the football coach Jürgen Klopp 🔴 ✅ ‘Fight Right’ - a book about relationships by Julie & John Gottman 🗣️ Click here: tinyurl.com/Thr5May25

#strangfordlough #birdsong #countydown #northernireland #cycling 🚲

Notice your tendency to devalue the present in anticipation of a better future. #TheTreeThatBends #BeingPresent #Savouring

The 4Ps - Purpose, Processes, Product and Personal Values 1) start with our ‘Why?’ (Purpose) 2) take care of the ‘How?’ (Processes) 3) focus on the ‘What?’ (Product) 4) clarify ‘Which?’ (Personal values) #TheTreeThatBends #FlexibleMind #Values #Purpose #process #values

#Cycling 🚴‍♀️ #Mournes ⛰️ 🌊

Being relentless all of the time is not a sustainable future for you or those you care about. #RelentMore #TheTreeThatBends Learn how to thrive - courses.strive2thrive.co.uk/courses/the-...

It’s easy to fall into the trap of seeing challenging emotions as something to be avoided or suppressed. But when we avoid emotions, we lose out on opportunities to grow. Emotions serve important functions. Don’t silence the messenger, respond to the message. #TheTreeThatBends

#LiveMore #TheTreeThatBends

There’s a lot of change and uncertainty at the current time. This can give rise to a range of challenging emotions. P.O.P.L.A.R. is an approach that can be helpful for exploring our emotional experience rather than be overcome by it. #TheTreeThatBends #emotions #values

In the April issue of ‘5 to Thrive’: ✅ The concept of ‘hormesis’ - when a bit of stress can be a good thing 📈 ✅ ‘The Devil’s Climb’ - a documentary about two climbers scaling a daunting mountain ⛰️ ✅ ‘Radical Candor’ the book by Kim Scott 🗣️ tinyurl.com/Thr5April25 #Thr5newsletter

Been thinking about this Zappa quote a lot lately.

In April’s ‘5 to Thrive’: ✅ The concept of ‘hormesis’: when a bit of stress can be a good thing. 📈 ✅ ‘The Devil’s Climb’: a documentary about two climbers scaling a daunting mountain ⛰️ ✅ ‘Radical Candor’: a book by Kim Scott 🗣️ tinyurl.com/Thr5April25 #Thr5newsletter

#purpose #motivation #inspiration #TheTreeThatBends

We can end up devaluing the present in anticipation of a hoped for better future #TheTreeThatBends

Be kind - especially to yourself.

The A.W.E. of a Flexible Mind: Anchored - fully situated in time & place, able to recognise that thoughts & emotions come & go Willing - to accept our mind’s story-generating ways, & turn towards the emotions accompanying those stories Empowered - to act in line with our purpose & personal values

Our values guide us in how we are in the world - how we relate to what we care about, other people & ourselves. They are standards we hold ourselves accountable to. We won’t get it right all of the time, but if our choices are aligned to our values we won’t go far wrong. #Values #TheTreeThatBends

The key to thriving is utilising strategies and techniques that help us to accommodate the emotions that arise when we are faced with circumstances beyond our control. Developing the A.W.E. of a Flexible Mind can help: Anchored x Willing x Empowered Learn how by checking out #TheTreeThatBends

Many thanks to Beri Meric & the team at IVY Connect for the opportunity to talk about how self-transcendent emotions can help us access our Reset mode Gratitude, wonder & compassion are pivotal for helping keep our Get & Threat modes in check View the extended clip: share.ivy.com/insights/how...

In a recent interview with Authority Magazine, I had the opportunity to critically reflect on the concept of the 'comfort zone'. Check out the full article here: medium.com/authority-ma... #ComfortZone #Transformation #TheTreeThatBends

Climate and the environment… A collection of articles, interviews and more from The Psychologist and Research Digest archive. www.bps.org.uk/collections/... Keen to hear more ideas around this topic, in particular the 'psychology in nature' angle…

Great to pay a visit again to Castle Ward #CountyDown

Check out my blog post for @psychologytoday.com about the ‘crystallisation of discontent’ - We all experience moments of insight that signal the crossing of a psychological rubicon - The "crystallisation of discontent" builds motivation to make changes www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-....

In the March issue of ‘5 to Thrive’: ✅ Pre-commitment Devices 🛟📲 ✅ ‘Boyzone: No Matter What’ - a documentary about the trials & tribulations of the Irish boyband 🎤☘️ ✅ ‘Greenlights’ the book by Matthew McConaughey 🚦📕 Access the newsletter here: tinyurl.com/Thr5March25 #Thr5newsletter #Thrive

Great chat with Emma & Chris on the ‘Life’s Dirty Little Secrets Podcast’. We discuss: 🌪️ Why a flexible mind is the real superpower in high-pressure settings 💡 The Get, Threat & Reset motivation modes & shifting from survival mode to thriving www.lifesdirtylittlesecretspodcast.com/episodes/sec...

Remember, you have thoughts, thoughts don’t have you. #TheTreeThatBends #mind #BookSky

I really enjoyed giving my ‘Be More Tree: How a Flexible Mind can help you thrive’ talk at the Northern Ireland Science Festival in #belfast A great opportunity to interact with the audience members. Thank you to all who attended. #TheTreeThatBends #BookSky

Check out the free preview of the audiobook format of ‘The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind can help you thrive’. Read by myself, the book will help you to develop the psychological flexibility to break through without breaking you. #TheTreeThatBends #booksky www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNWW...

Delighted to be delivering a talk at the NI Science Festival about strategies for developing a ‘Flexible Mind’ to do what matters even when difficult thoughts & emotions show up. The event is in Belfast on 7pm Wed 19th Feb 7pm at the Crescent arts centre nisciencefestival.com/events/the-t...

Check out my latest blog post in Psychology Today - 'Perfecting the Art of Psychological Ju-Jitsu'. It celebrates the quiet power that yielding to our thoughts and emotions can bring. #psychologicalflexibility #jujitsu #blog www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/th...