As you define & develop your trauma recovery identity & life, pay attention to people who benefit from you staying stuck in fight/flight/freeze/fawn/flop mode. The people who delight in or profit from keeping you in a disempowered, dependent state. Just notice. Start to see.

Because you're stuck in a toxic job, relationship, or situation-- it happens-- doesn't mean you're screwed w/ trauma recovery. Do what you can to lay the groundwork in your nervous system for making a change. Focus on emotional regulation & internal communication. Don't give up.

Yes, "hyper-independence" can be a sign of early trauma, but that doesn't mean we have to give up our commitment to self-reliance in recovery because it's a "symptom." The point of recovery is WE get to decide what defines us-- not a reflexive pattern in our nervous system.

Realistic trauma recovery involves guesswork. No need to deny it. You're not always going to definitely "KNOW" the next step you need to take-- & that's okay. Keep coming back to the vision of the life you're trying to create, & break it down again & again to the next baby step.

Our current situation is our current situation. We don't have to love it. We can acknowledge exactly how much it sucks & does not represent what we want-- while at the same time realistically defining (maybe even guessing at, at first) the baby steps possible today to change it.

I believe an underappreciated part of trauma recovery is learning what we need to learn & developing the skills & tools to understand & realistically take control of our personal finances, so we are progressively less dependent on others for necessities & living space.

next year i will become more evil than ever

Elegance [2021] For @swollenbabyfat.bsky.social 🎠

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today is my birthday!!! 🩵 🎉🎂💕✨ #pokemon #illustration

EVERYONE PLEASE GO AND ADMIRE THIS MARVELLOUS ART!!!! 🩵💕🩵💕🩵💕🩵💕

wishing you all a Fairy Merry Christmas from the Atom Palace 🩵🎀🎄💕✨ #pokemon #illustration #sylveon

having a sweet Christmas 🎂🎀🎄❤️✨ #pokemon #sylveon #illustration

🌈🩵 sugar 🍬 sylveon 🎀🍭✨ #illustration #pokemon #ポケモン #ニンフィア

for the last four years, I’ve put together a summary of art featuring a selected piece from each month- here is 2025! 🎉🎀✨ despite a few lulls, I still drew loads and created several works I’m super happy with 🥰 thank you everyone for all your support and encouragement this year!!! 💐🩵💕

Amandreo warm up drawings! He’s fluent in ✨✨madrazos👊🏽 uwu ((He’s studied martial arts like Muay Thai, Kickboxing, Wrestling, Boxing, Capoeira, and Taekwando! :>)) #ocsky #mariooc

My recap of the designs I made for the Paraferno Parade this year🫶

A Yoryk for @yoryk.bsky.social ✨ | #Art #Illustration #FurryArt #Furry #yeen |

♡~ vgen commission for @vampurrin.bsky.social 🩷 #VgenCommission ☆ #art

Trauma survivors in recovery are all rebels on some level. We're rebelling against what we were programmed to think; what we were conditioned to feel; what we were coerced into believing we "had" to do or be. Recovery levels up when we connect w/ our inner guerilla.

My 4 favorite pieces I drew this year. I didn't get to draw all that much this year, i hope I can be more productive next year. 🙏😭

💖Commissions OPEN💖 Now offering flat color/shaded options and chibis. 6 slots available for regular comms + 5 for chibis to my ongoing queue 🌈 Like & Share if you can! #art #artcommission #commissionsopen

As kids, we needed support in solving problems, not to be punished for having them. As adults working our trauma recovery, we need to break ourselves of that conditioned habit of shaming ourselves for struggling. We didn't deserve that shame then, & we don't deserve it now.

You should not have had to face what you did growing up alone. That didn't happen because there was something "wrong" w/ you. You didn't "deserve" to feel like it was you against a world full of bullies & abusers. That wasn't your fault. That wasn't about you.

Good morning. Here's Vivian to bring you happiness. #Mario #Vivian

It can be scary, confusing, & exhausting to begin recovering painful memories after not remembering or knowing about them for years. I promise, you're not going "crazy." Puzzle pieces are starting to fit together that will eventually allow you to integrate & move on w/ your life.

We do not grow & explore who we are & what we're all about when we're getting the sh*t kicked out of us. Even the strongest, toughest human beings need safety & connection to grow & evolve. Safe spaces are not touchy feely optional luxuries in recovery. They are bedrock tools.

One of my own obstacles in trauma & addiction recovery has been my defensiveness. I cannot count the number of recovery tools I used to turn my nose up at because I didn't want to feel like a beginner or that it was my "fault" for not having discovered them sooner. Baby steps.

Recovery supporting self talk is not stupidly "positive." Recovery supporting self-talk is realistically supportive, & emphasizes accountability as much as it does self compassion. Trauma survivors, myself included, do not respond well to bullsh*t "positivity." Give us realism.

𐙚˙⋆.˚ ᡣ𐭩 bromita, este es el verdadero art summary 2025 ✨️ #ArtSummary2025

hi artists!! 🎨 quote repost with an older piece you still like! 🩸

the software I use & the art i make!! #artsky #horrorart

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!! :>✨ #ocxcanon #mariooc #mario #ocsky

Quietness is a profusely blooming variety and one of Griffith Buck’s most lovely creations. Noted for her fully double, soft pink flowers with a rich center, she is reminiscent of the beautiful old Hybrid Tea rose 'Royal Highness.' By M Killen

Latkes (zucchini/squash/potato) with applesauce, goat cheese, and sour cream/lox :)

Teddy, you were banned from the server for spam posting links while we were trying to figure out how to best share what little information we have regarding this situation.

Clowning around! ✨ You can get this illustration as a sticker and print in my club to be sent next month! 🎈 ko-fi.com/swollenbabyfat

💓blissey💓

METALLIC MANIAC

In light of recent Ai related nonsense in the creative industry, I wanted to present some easy-to-digest facts about Generative Ai

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irish cream 🍀🌸🍏⊹ ࣪ ˖

Winter girl sketch :)

wip! remaking a piece of my oc, Florian (he/him) original is from ~5 years ago [ #kondart #kondaoc #wip ]

Hello! I'm Theo, a nonbinary digital artist & theologian :') I mostly draw original characters and TTRPG content ✨ 🍊 — konda.carrd.co

EVERYONE GET MORE INSANE ABOUT YOUR OWN OCS NEXT YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe your trauma conditioning is getting you to tell yourself a story about what's happening now that doesn't serve you all that well. Notice that happening; breathe; refuse to get or stay attached to that old story; & choose what you're going to say to yourself & do next.