When you’re dealing with divorce and an abusive ex, it’s no wonder your brain feels overloaded. It’s not because you’re failing — it’s because you’re doing too much with too little support. This post is a reminder that even if you’re stuck in the mental fog, you’re not broken. 👇🏼

This is your regular reminder that JD Vance & Project 2025 want to end No-Fault Divorce. Take care of it before they take it away - several states already have it in the works And change back to your maiden name in case they shove through the SAVE Act & try to take away your right to vote as well.

Missing an ex after a breakup is normal, but it’s important to remember the negative experiences. If there’s concern for safety, working with a domestic violence advocate to create a plan—including legal protections—can help ensure a safe and clean break. buff.ly/HYGdwYa #DomesticViolence

Feeling drained after court? Use these simple art practices to regroup. Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained & dysregulated. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm divorcealchemycollective.com/feeling-drai...

Feeling drained after court? Use these simple art practices to regroup. Court hearings can leave you emotionally drained & dysregulated. These simple, no-pressure art practices can help you reset, release stress, and reclaim a sense of calm divorcealchemycollective.com/feeling-drai...

When both parties are issued protective orders, the true victim faces increased risks, including harassment, false accusations and legal consequences. This can also endanger involved children and lead to severe emotional and practical repercussions. buff.ly/L2d7w6c #DomesticViolence

“I loathe the idea that, if they are abused, an already dismissive justice system will be an even less reliable ally, especially as Trump will appoint more judges over the next four years.” Great piece by @jessgrose.bsky.social

Abuse doesn’t usually start with yelling or obvious aggression. It more often than not starts quietly: *You stop texting your best friend because it “upsets” the abuser. *You start avoiding family because the abuser claims they’re “too dramatic” or “disrespectful.” #coercivecontrol ⬇️

Art has a long history as a form of resistance. When words don’t feel safe, are hard to find, or aren’t enough, creativity can be a quiet but powerful response to difficult times - a way to reclaim space and your voice, even when the world feels out of control. #artasresistance

Verbal abuse can be harder to recognize than you may think. buff.ly/5qY6LVD #DomesticViolence #Abuse #DomesticAbuse

And while there, be sure to grab your cheat sheet of the practices to keep handy divorcealchemycollective.com/five-art-for...

Art has been a big part of my healing from trauma and abuse. I think everyone can benefit from an art practice, but I know it can feel intimidating or inaccessible for many. So I put together 5 art practices for healing that are helpful whether you feel creative or not. Link below 👇🏼

🗣️This is your weekly reminder that Project 2025 and JD Vance want to end No-Fault Divorce, in addition to taking away your right to vote. Please get your things in order and leave while you still can. This is not hyperbole. You’ve witnessed the last month…

This article is alarming but not surprising given the entire MAGA/Project 2025 is based on their perceived victimization. Hatred of DEI is as much abt male supremacy as it is about white supremacy.

Art has been a big part of my healing from trauma and abuse. I think everyone can benefit from an art practice, but I know it can feel intimidating or inaccessible for many. So I put together 5 art practices for healing that are helpful whether you feel creative or not. Link below 👇🏼

I’ll continue to highlight these connections because advocating against abuse means addressing systems that uphold it. If that makes some people uncomfortable, or say I’m being divisive so be it - this work isn’t about making anyone comfortable. It’s about confronting abuse, wherever it lives.

Right now, politicians with credible allegations (and even convictions) of sexual abuse and coercive control are being elevated to power. This is a direct threat to women and children, and ignoring it only perpetuates harm. ⬇️

But I also want to be clear: we can’t tackle these issues on a personal level without calling out the systems that enable them. That includes churches, governments, and other institutions. ⬇️

Everything is political. If you’re here, you’re familiar with the abuse and coercive control I highlight in marriages/post-separation & divorce. ⬇️

This admin and its enablers lie when they tell you they are all about protecting children.

An attack on women’s access to paid work.

If you are in domestic abuse awareness and advocacy circles and support this admin, I have questions.

Trump and his cronies are waging a full-scale attack on our freedoms, rights, and humanity. We need members of Congress—in both parties—to fight back. Tell your representatives: don't be complicit in Trump's tyranny. act.nwlc.org/a/project202...

There are resources and organizations who can help you safely plan and leave. In the meantime, this might help you get started divorcealchemycollective.com/how-to-plan-...

Hey US ladies: Remember that Project 2025 and JD Vance want to end no-fault divorce. That doesn’t sound like hyperbole anymore, does it? Make plans to get out while you can. *Ending it will be dangerous and disastrous for women in abusive marriages. #coercivercontrol #domesticabuse

I joined the brilliant Sally Kenney on Deconstructing Rape to talk about how American universities have resisted gender equality--even as they convinced the general public to see them as beacons of liberalism leading the way. deconstructingrape.com/podcast/nico...

🙌🏻 I still say “coerced rape” but only to specific HOW it happened. The qualifier is a clarifier, just to drive home the exact behavior. So many people think certain types of rape don’t count. But at the end of the day the victim had the same experience however it happened.

Rape is rape. It doesn’t need a qualifier. Marital rape = rape Intimate partner rape = rape Sexual coercion = rape (ht @natlajune.bsky.social) If someone forces or coerces you into sex, that’s rape. Period. Relationship status doesn’t change that.

We were told we were overreacting and fear-mongering saying this. 10 days in, this doesn’t seem like hyperbole does it?

Hey US ladies: Remember that Project 2025 and JD Vance want to end no-fault divorce. That doesn’t sound like hyperbole anymore, does it? Make plans to get out while you can. *Ending it will be dangerous and disastrous for women in abusive marriages. #coercivercontrol #domesticabuse

Don’t let shame keep you stuck. And don’t let the trolls, misogynists, and abuse enablers convince you otherwise. It’s not your fault.

You ended up in one because abusers are master deceivers & manipulators. They don’t let their masks slip until you’re too deep in to easily get out (it’s why moving fast in a relationship is a common tactic they use) 👇🏼

You didn’t end up in an abusive relationship w/ a coercive controller because you ‘picked wrong.’ 👇🏼

Zuck and his cronies make clear how easy it is for privileged men to cosplay as feminists while promoting patriarchy and harboring sexist views.

Everything is political. If you’re here, you’re familiar with the abuse and coercive control I highlight in marriages/post-separation & divorce. ⬇️

38 states have ratified the Equal Rights Amendment. As President Biden said, the will of the people should be respected—and the will of the people is to protect our right to gender equality and bodily autonomy. apnews.com/article/joe-...

“James said she is especially concerned about the potential for domestic abusers to ‘weaponize’ the law.”

Susan Faludi talks about this in "Backlash" too: In the '80s tons of men were told 'we can't hire you because we have to hire a woman' even though companies weren't hiring very many women. Managers were just too chickenshit to tell men they weren't qualified.

If confirmed, Russ Vought would seek to radically reshape our government and reinterpret the Constitution to concentrate power in the hands of President Trump. The Senate must not allow his extreme nomination to continue. www.nytimes.com/2025/01/15/b...

This is what I want you to know & understand though: Isolation isn’t proof you’re unworthy of love or connection. It’s proof that someone is using control as a weapon against you. Recognize that. Then begin to figure out the next step you need to take so you can regain connections & your power.

*You give up hobbies because they take “too much time away” from the relationship. Slowly your world grows smaller. Isolation doesn’t scream - it whispers. And before you realize it, you’re alone. ⬇️

Abusers love-bomb you, isolate you, & make you fearful of “others.” And then promise things will get better if you just stay. Sound familiar? America isn’t immune to abuse. Leaders who dismantle your rights & then sell themselves as your savior aren’t protecting you. They’re keeping you trapped.

“Without me, you’d lose everything.” “Only I can fix it!” “They’re all against you, but I’ll protect you.” Abusers and authoritarian leaders use the same tactic. They isolate & create fear to sell control. But freedom doesn’t come from fear and isolation - it comes from breaking their hold.

Abused women get asked: “Why didn’t you leave?” The question assumes that leaving is simple, as if love, fear, finances, children, & survival aren’t tangled into every decision. Instead of asking women why they stayed, ask men why they abused. That’s where real accountability belongs.

Writing letters you’ll never send can be a powerful way to process divorce emotions and things we cannot, or should at least be careful about, saying out loud. These unsent words create a safe space for healing and self-discovery. divorcealchemycollective.com/writing-lett...

You can’t claim to advocate for protecting women while also enabling and elevating those who actively harm them.

If you think you may be dating an abuser, keeping it a secret could put you in more danger. https://buff.ly/3C3uoWq #DomesticViolence #Abuse #DomesticAbuse

Abused women get asked: “Why didn’t you leave?” The question assumes that leaving is simple, as if love, fear, finances, children, & survival aren’t tangled into every decision. Instead of asking women why they stayed, ask men why they abused. That’s where real accountability belongs.

Need to destress or regulate your emotions? This stained glass style is one of the simplest mindful art practices you can play around with when you need a breather. #artheals #mindfulart #destresswithart

The fact that children have little to no rights in family court already has devastating outcomes and consequences. Defining them as property will be so much worse for them.