I loved s.e.’s writing on death before I knew them, and I was lucky enough to be able to lean on them this year when people (and yes, cats) started dropping dead around me. Do not miss this.

So uh. I've spent the last five years working on a book about grief, mourning, who is allowed to grieve and how, and where we go from here, and... you can now preorder it!

you can win without billionaires supporting you you can win without party leadership endorsing you you can win unapologetically standing with every persecuted minority pundits say are too politically toxic to touch we could do everything about this process differently if we wanted to

If you are tempted to put out nonperishables on Halloween, send your money to a food bank and call your reps instead. There is money to fund SNAP during the shutdown. The government is quite literally just deciding not to use it.

Take the money you would've spent on that thing of beans and ramen and donate it to your local food pantry. They know what their clients need, and can stretch that dollar better than the average consumer.

Well, it’s 9:47pm, the only natural thing my six year old could do is ask a series of questions about tectonic plates.

all the worst people are sad tonight and i just think thats neat

So the administration wants to replace boxes of pantry staples with fresh food. It sounds nice, but it falls apart if you think about ANY part of this scheme. www.pressdemocrat.com/article/news...

Kiddo is twirling while I play Lucy Dacus, and I keep thinking about how one of the arguments we used for marriage equality in the mid-aughts was that queer couples mostly raise straight kids. Not if this music has anything to say about it.

Pope Pizzaballa is the LEAST the Catholic Church could do for us, all things considered. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pierbat...

My grandpa keeps asking if Trump “got to me” yet, and honestly it’s the most understood I’ve felt in a long time.

It is time: Fuck you, Strom Thurmond.

Say what you will, but it has been a long time since I felt like a politician was fighting for me.

Given the state of things, I will be discontinuing all work and instead spending my days imagining a world where Anne Shirley and Jo March met each other and learned that queer people exist.

But what about her emails? www.theatlantic.com/politics/arc...

This is not how our food system works. This is not how anything works. We’ve spent decades building mega farms that export tons of product, and we import most of what we eat. Farmers can’t just “plant something else” — they don’t have the seed, equipment, or funding this late in the season.

Sneaking suspicion that “personal liberties” aren’t going to include things like the freedom to protest or to access health care.

if you’re not trans & don’t know about the cass review, when this report comes out, it will look very much like the cass review. the NYT will treat it as legitimate. i know this because they already did it with the cass review & said it should be the new model for america. tap the thread to learn.

Objectively funny to watch the admin try to legislate gender only to REALLY struggle with biology. Anyhow they whiffed hard enough that we’re all trans now, congrats.

Even on a deeply weird day, this stands out as a tough loss. 19thnews.org/2025/01/ceci...

Here's how to cover things that are illegal: (i) this is illegal (ii) they say it's legal (iii) It's not Truth sandwich, extra mustard

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a company be THIS blatant about replacing relationships with purchases?

In a town that’s pretty fixated on “30 under 30” and “40 under 40” lists, it feels worth noting that most of the things that cemented Carter’s legacy didn’t start until his 60s.

Wait wait wait. The Onion didn’t just buy Infowars. They worked with the families who lost kids at Sandy Hook to buy Infowars. apnews.com/article/onio...

The reason Elie Weisel said "no one is illegal" is because declaring people as "illegal" is an early step to creating a permission structure for mass dehumanization and genocide. That's why it matters. We are in the business of words. Accuracy matters in the word business. Intent and context matter

I once got myself ratioed into the ground by asking people to send me pictures of their dog’s nose. Honestly, I think it’s one of the most wholesome virality stories.

In a couple weeks you're all going to meet the 16-year-old trans girl who's challenge to a ban on gender-affirming medical care is being heard at SCOTUS and I'm going to need you all to 1) be loud and thankful for how badass she's being and 2) fight for her like your life depends on it

There is no better introduction to Bluesky’s culture than a feed that’s exactly 50% people earnestly explaining not to feed trolls and 50% sexy Alf.

Bluesky is officially “open” now (no more invites). So just a reminder to not engage with trolls and bad actors, there is no algorithm here to promote or spread them, replying to them is what puts them on everybody’s timelines. So block and give no oxygen.

Turns out this is what happens when you let the program that cut child poverty in half lapse. Congress fucked around and now they’re finding out. www.nytimes.com/2023/09/12/b...

I will put my pronouns in my bio once there are pronouns that accurately capture my gender identity better than the phrase “Cate Blanchett in a suit,” thank you very much.

We don’t spend enough time, as a country, talking about how cute the Justice for Janitors logo is.

I could write an entire book on the gender/class/political dynamics of Buy Nothing groups, but I just picked up a plate of sheet cake from a stranger in my town at the end of a very long day, and that’s beautiful.

Unexpected side effect of Trump’s mugshot being released is that I now have a pretty comprehensive list of which friends: 1. Think fat bodies are disgusting. 2. Think being fat is worth more derision than trying to overthrow the government.

If you share Trump’s mugshot today please share that the Fulton County Jail where it was taken, is at 3x it’s capacity, infested with bugs, holding 87% Black people, most of whom haven’t even been convicted of a crime. 6 people have died in custody this year alone. Fuck cops, shut down jails.

I kept a list of kid mispronunciations that I refuse to correct over on Twitter, so I’m restarting with a new entry: Apple spider

Every six months or so, I remember an old boss going on a rant about how the student debt crisis is because college students were living “high on the hog.” We worked at a legal aid organization.

Kid just came home from school smelling like fried chicken and meowing the melody to “Let It Go,” so at least one of us had a productive day.

The fact that even the RV he would point to as evidence he was a simple man of the people was, itself, a gift from a wealthy friend is almost poetic. https://www.propublica.org/article/clarence-thomas-other-billionaires-sokol-huizenga-novelly-supreme-court

I am two months into trying to find a new living room rug, and at this point I’m less interested in my obsessive need to find exactly the right thing than I am in why millennials do this before making any purchases. Would read 5,000 words on the generational urge to do Google research.