So. While I waited for an adult to talk me out of it, I turned 10 years of blogging into a 50 minute Edinburgh Fringe show about a boarding school survivor who went exploring the kinky underworld and ended up finding himself. Now what???

"She had been captured by the secret police while checking a dead drop for messages from her spy." This time last year, a deliciously creative #kinky scene between @euclideanpoint.bsky.social and @bibulous1.bsky.social 😍 www.girlonthenet.com/blog/kinky-i...

NEW: I’ve been lucky enough to play the Dom to some wonderful submissives. @missksting.bsky.social let me Dom a Domme! painaspleasure.com/2025/09/13/d...

Malta, I am in you.

NEW: I’ve been lucky enough to play the Dom to some wonderful submissives. @missksting.bsky.social let me Dom a Domme! painaspleasure.com/2025/09/13/d...

How it started. How it’s going. This is me - a month or so after my heart op and now. Cardiac rehab is working. 💪🏻🏃‍♂️

I just looked up nipple clips on Amazon (left mine in a dungeon a few weeks ago). Reader, I have questions. * Why for men/for women? I thought nipples were nipples. * Beginner? Fair enough I guess. * Adult? Of course adult! Eww * Nipple clippers! WTAF? Dear God, Nooooo!!!

I just looked up nipple clips on Amazon (left mine in a dungeon a few weeks ago). Reader, I have questions. * Why for men/for women? I thought nipples were nipples. * Beginner? Fair enough I guess. * Adult? Of course adult! Eww * Nipple clippers! WTAF? Dear God, Nooooo!!!

Personal trainer (over video): I’m glad you got back from your lunch in time. Me: I managed to get an Uber Her: So you’ve just eaten! Feeling OK to exercise? Me: Sure. No problems! Her: What did you eat? Me: Errr. Lunch was more of a time for our meeting rather than what we were doing.

I am now “my alarm went off and I couldn’t think why I’d set it till 2 hours later so wasted my cinema ticket” years old. Not a welcome development.

Here’s a hot bit of audio for your Saturday morning.

Conversation overheard as I walked past 3 men sat having a beer outside my local: “When I got nicked for doing all those Bang & Olufsens….” Winchester may not be all it seems.

I was belted yesterday. For me the belt is a fast track, do-not-pass-GO, trip to a dreamy trance-like subspace. The pain of the impact is in perfect balance with the intimate connection with the Mistress. I didn’t want it to stop, and when it did I just wanted to stay still on the bench. Breathing

Apparently, if you’re trying to lose weight, as I am, Non Scale Victories is a thing. Are a thing. Cos pleural innit? To take a non-hypothetical example, if someone is spanking you and says “your trainer is doing a good job, you have a nice muscly bum,” that is a NSV! Who knew????

OK why did nobody tell me about this Nata shop in Camden high street?

Me??? I’m just trying to decide what to wear to a beating. As you do. Old post on this subject here. painaspleasure.com/2017/08/16/m...

Had a session with my occasional therapist today, hoping she would be the adult I’ve been looking for to talk me out of doing this show. Her: “Oh my God. That’s amazing. You must do it. All that validation for who you are and the journey you’ve been on. Fantastic!” 🙄 Hmmmm

Whenever I find myself in front of King’s Cross I give this colourful hotel a nod. A significant part of my blog took place in its rooms. I played out all sorts of kinky scenes here. Explored new things and new people, and gradually became comfortable with who I was. Sighs.

Thinking about turning the story that runs through my blog into a show for the Edinburgh fringe. I’ve written an outline and 2/3 sections. I think it’s quite good. I want to learn a section to perform it in front of others. Just to see if the idea has legs. I can’t do it. So maybe it’s a daft idea 😞

Something hot for you. I’m having a shoulder/back massage while I’m playing poker (so far so normal) Masseuse I don’t know. Near the end of my time she digs her fingernails into my back. I lean into it a bit so she does it again. How did she know???

Oof. This was special. Quite intense. It left me feeling renewed but also physically strong though emotionally fragile. I’m sensitive to everything; the chill in the morning air, the taste of the raspberries on my yoghurt, Jacinda Ardern’s emotion as she describes a family tragedy in my ears.

I am a bundle of nervous energy. On Hampstead Heath I feel everyone must sense it. I feel so alive, adrenaline humming. I think through what’s to come: The dungeon. The Mistress. The sensations. The emotional release of it all. God, I need this. @hellomisshunter.bsky.social

Thought for the day: it seems that these days we only get this kind of retail in the very wealthiest places (this is Hampstead) or in poor areas with ethnic minority communities who want to shop this way. I think that’s a shame.

I’m still doing the cardiac rehab fitness programme. I’ve recovered from the op and can do everything I could do before the heart problems started. Now it’s about winding the clock back further just for the joy of being fit. Also I want to go skiing in January.

Gulp. It’s today.

Have a session on Tuesday. One where I will both submit and be submitted to. I will both inflict pain and have it inflicted on me I expect it all to be rather intense. Bit nervous actually. About both aspects of it.

Love everything about this (yes, I enjoy impact play)

I was flogged yesterday with a heavy flogger. She kept checking in because I was new to her and it wasn’t her flogger. But by the end it felt like being hit with a cricket bat, making me thump into the cross. Her hug pulled me out of a dreamy subspace. Mmmm

So I’m in a London basement with five other men watching the cricket. As you do. The only difference is that every so often two of us get taken into the other room for a beating. It’s kinda weird and kinda normal at the same time

With the assisted dying bill in parliament today, I thought I’d repost a link to this. There’s a bit of distance now from my parents’ very different deaths, but this post still represents how I feel about the subject being voted on today. painaspleasure.com/2023/12/20/g...

NEW. I recently visit Lisbon and came back with 10 seconds of video and a memory…. painaspleasure.com/2025/06/17/f...

NEW. I recently visit Lisbon and came back with 10 seconds of video and a memory…. painaspleasure.com/2025/06/17/f...

When I’m 80 I’m gonna be this guy but with a rental Maserati.

Enjoying this wall art in the posh Mayfair flat where I’m playing poker.

I’ve just got back from Portugal. Have some Fado. I’ve been listening to it for years but now I’ve seen it live. Amazing. I mean really stunning.

I’ve just got back from Portugal. Have some Fado. I’ve been listening to it for years but now I’ve seen it live. Amazing. I mean really stunning.

Well that didn’t take long.

Lisbon, I am in you!

Prison? Young offenders institution? No It’s a primary school. When did we start having to do this to a primary school? Sad

NEW: I haven’t written a blog post for a while. but I needed to post-rationalise this rather intense session with @missksting.bsky.social painaspleasure.com/2025/06/05/u...

NEW: I haven’t written a blog post for a while. but I needed to post-rationalise this rather intense session with @missksting.bsky.social painaspleasure.com/2025/06/05/u...

Session with @missksting.bsky.social yesterday. So today I’m full of confidence and energy. I’m motivated and happy. Just did an interval session in the gym! So why did this guy offer me his seat on the tube? Can’t he see how vital and vigorous I am on the inside? Srsly, appreciate the gesture. 😊

Am I the only person who thinks this logo would be a good one for a BDSM club? I can’t not see two crossed canes. 🦯🦯

Was playing poker in Italy last weekend. They call people who play all the weird esoteric forms of poker the “variantisti.” I’m part of that group. I guess it’s not the only way in which I am part of the variantisti!

What a fun weekend.

From last weekend. Near Lake Como. Lovely.

Our waters produce some of the best fish in the world. We fight to protect it, but we don’t eat it. You can’t buy it in supermarkets and there’s nearly no fishmongers left. You want to know where it goes? Here! Just part of a Milan supermarket fish counter. It’s a damn shame.

Tell everyone my son, the chef, has returned home without telling everyone my son, the chef, has returned home…..

Loved my Bratislava trip. Great new place to explore. Lots of interesting new people. Plans for the next trip (Milan end of May). And I cashed in two different types of poker tournament. Nice.