I was just informed of the Kansas City Brew Festival near the time of my planned travel and it sounds so very tempting… would it be worth arriving early for the fun, froth and potential company?

I’m eyeing St. Louis and Kansas City for the last week of February... Cold air, warm evenings and perhaps someone clever enough to keep me company? 💌 [email protected] 💌

Apparently, the decision was made for me because X suspended my account yesterday...

I must confess that security envelopes have become my silly little collectable as of late - I'm in love with the geometric patterns, faint textures and subtle artistry of concealment - so you'll definitely earn bonus points if one's included when we meet. 📩

There’s a subtle maturation to dalliances in your mid-30s - I've become so comfortable within myself that it gives me an edge on connecting with my partners... and that just makes every encounter so much the sweeter.

I keep the best parts for the gentlemen who subscribe - travel plans whispered early, reflections shared honestly, the occasional delicious aside. Shouldn't you be one of them? 🔑 buff.ly/3MkjKMw 🔑

And, for the record, the crawdad newsletter photo was in fact a hit 🦞

I can’t quite tell - are we still lingering on X out of habit or have the clever ones quietly moved somewhere better? I'm uncomfortable with many of the changes but still a little hesitant to cut them off completely...

If you like the way I write when I'm here, just imagine it unhurried…a proper letter, written just for those who choose to stay close. ➡️ buff.ly/3MkjKMw

Indianapolis does early spring in a way that invites closeness...slush still cooling the streets countered by warm touches over dinner and the sort of night that begs not to end too early.

Trying to decide if sending out a half naked photo with a crawdad in my mouth in this month's newsletter is 🦞too much🦞 or the perfect encapsulation of my personality...

The downside of both day-job working in Chicago and knowing so many of the residents intimately is that when you're on layover in ORD and a face looks familiar it can be a real challenge to search the correct mental Rolodex...

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Innovation, networking, and maybe a little mischief…#RALLY2025 sounds like my kind of playground. Gentlemen, I hope you’re up for both the talking and the teasing… 💋

St. Louis, I’m eyeing you…but much like a vampire, I’d need a proper invite to come. Any charming suitors waiting for me in the Gateway City? #DateSTL

I’m thinking of putting more energy into IG but I hear such mixed stories…how has it been for you? (and if you'd share your profile link I'd love to connect!) #oursky

I've found that men are most satisfying when they're like my coffee… rich, dark, and meant to be savoured slowly. Who'd like to prove me right?

Men tell me they’re “not the submissive type” then spend 40 hours a week doing exactly what someone else says. Come over here and let me at least make it interesting...

Thinking of taking myself on a little Southern tour in October. Should I go where the cocktails are strong, where the art is strange… or where you are?

My under-30 suitors keep surprising me...every encounter feels like discovering a new favourite song and playing it on repeat.

Caught a man knuckle-deep in his nose mid-aisle at the pharmacy. Tilted my head, arched a brow and let silence do the scolding. He finally remembered to behave in public, but watching him squirm was quite satisfying.

It’s dangerous when I get restless...I start checking flights instead of texts. Which city should I accidentally-on-purpose end up in soon?

Slid a silk scarf through my fingers at the store and now I can’t stop thinking about how soft it would feel tied around someone else’s wrists...

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Someone in this café is loudly and very animatedly explaining D&D to a date who clearly thought they were just here for a relaxed coffee. I’m not sure who's side I'm on yet, honestly.

Pro tip: If you’re bringing me flowers, please make them dog-friendly. I’d rather have zinnias, dasies or sunflowers than lilies that could make my dear little pup sick.

Pandora charm bracelets - still cute or hopelessly passé? I unearthed mine while cleaning and can’t decide if it deserves a comeback on my wrist…

A suitor brought me a rosemary plant “for the kitchen,” but it’s living on my windowsill like a soft little secret. 🪴 I sometimes brush it with my fingers and think of other scents that lingered...

Chicagoooooo, I’ll be visiting 9/18-21 to celebrate my 40th birthday! 🥳🍾 Mainly a personal trip with friends + family and a fairly packed itinerary but I can sneak away and make time for a client or two on Saturday 😘

Every man follows someone’s orders. The smart ones pick someone in heels. 👠

The mid-makeout thigh grind is criminally underrated, imho

My calendar is a living, breathing thing...it can’t hold spots for weeks without confirmation. Wait until the day-of to commit and you might find that time you took for granted has already been claimed.

Sat in the park long enough for a rotund little squirrel to look personally offended that I hadn’t offered it snacks. My sincerest apologies, Your Majesty. 👑 🐿️

Men spend their lives following rules, schedules, bosses…but shudder at the thought of letting someone like me tell them what to do. Darling, you’ve been obedient all along - why not make it fun?

Plotting my next multi-day escape. 🛫 Who can recommend a city worth stealing a weekend in...and perhaps a heart or two while I’m there? 🏷️ #fmty #oursky #datein

Bought a ridiculous amount of peaches today. 🍑 Not sure if they’re meant for eating or just for making a mess with...but I'm tempted to test if the juice is as delicious on our skin.

That slow, satisfied exit from a hotel - satiated, compensated and more than a little smug - might just be subtle high that keeps me doing all this. 💋

They say youth is wasted on the young, but from what I’ve seen lately...not a drop is going to waste. 🩵

It’s not quite a secret society, but it is a little club... for the flexible, the impulsive, the ones who don’t need much time to make up their minds. If you're in Indy and open to night-before notifications, sign up here: 🛎️ www.yourgeekyginger.com/alerts.html

There’s a man desperately attempting to walk three dachshunds at once; they’ve unionised and are clearly in charge. I salute their leadership. 🫡 (and now I'm wondering how hard it'd be to try dog-walking professionally...)

Anyone else run into this lovely, fairly comprehensive guide to hashtags on bluesky - trystworthy.is/bluesky.html - by @redefine.luxury ? It makes the whole process of tagging for exposure much more understandable

I truly adore whenever I get the chance to meet newbies - they bring inexperience, true, but also a beautiful helping of curiosity...and I can do terrible, wonderful things with curiosity.

Meeting a fellow nerd is all about the subtle touches over board games, the shared pondering over decoding complex rules and the kind of laughter that shakes your chest and leaves you feeling warmer in the following days.

Escorted a gent to the Eiteljorg today and he read every placard aloud like it was scripture. I listened contently, curled against his side, letting his murmurs carry me into the stories...

I've spent ten minutes chasing a receipt around the damn parking lot... It’s still out there, living its best life. I’m clearly just the side character.

I used to turn my nose up at suitors under 25. Then one made me laugh, another made me blush and now I can’t seem to get enough...

Strict dress codes. Tighter calendars...but I know how to pencil in pleasure between sessions. If you’re already downtown, why not let your HR badge grant access to a very different kind of performance review? #HRIndiana #HRIndiana2025

I’ve seen it firsthand, and I am an example! This is why I require Covid testing. Wear a mask, vaccinate, test often. That is the way ✨

I hope when you think back to your trip to Indy, it’s our hidden pocket of time you remember most - perfume lingering in the air, your hands tangled in my hair, a secret pressed into the skyline...

The moral of the story for a suitor recently: reach out, set the date and confirm the when and where. Otherwise, you’re not on my calendar....you’re in the maybe pile and your last minute request will be treated as such.