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mediummanlive on Instagram: "Timing, choices, and honesty.Reference video: “Marry the Nerd” Back Up Plan Exposed! | Black Men Are Finally Waking Up!https://yout…" Timing, choices, and honesty.Reference video: “Marry the Nerd” Back Up Plan Exposed! | Black Men Are Finally Waking Up!https://youtu.be/5i_Vmyx-cpEA viral moment showed a woman proudly saying she “married the nerd,” and many people didn’t understand why Black men responded the way that they did.Here’s why:According to CDC data, 54% of Black men ages 15–49 have never fathered a child, as opposed to 39% of Black women have never mothered a child.Among younger Black men:• ~94% (ages 15–24) have no children• ~70% (ages 25–29) have no childrenAt the same time, among those who do become parents:• 89.4% of Black mothers have their first child before age 30So what does that mean? It means many young Black men are not fathers, while many Black women who become mothers do so earlier.So the question isn’t just who is chosen, it’s when those choices are made.A lot of men are asking:Why do some Black men get chosen during the “h0e phase”, but then you target the “nerd” when it’s time to settle down?That’s where the frustration comes from.If Black women prefer a certain type early on, just be honest about it, but I instruct Black men over here to MAKE HER MAKE IT WORK WITH HER TYPE!Don’t expect a Black man to accept a role he wasn’t considered for earlier.And for the Black men who are considered the “nerds”: vet properly and choose wisely.Sources: CDC/NCHS National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG) 2015–2019; National Health Statistics Reports No. 179 (2023); CDC Births: Final Data 2023. https://www.instagram.com/p/DWrEP3NFl62/?img_index=1