This week’s caller is into his neighbor… but also worried it could get messy. He’s poly, she might not be, and he has some pretty dom-y fantasies about her. What to do? Listen at savage.love/lovecast (50min mark) or wherever you get your podcasts.

Happy trauma-informed Thanksgiving! We know you're struggling. So we brought in Therapy Jeff to offer tips on how to get through Thanksgiving with your nasty family. Find the new episode at buff.ly/SIiu4t3

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Not the obituary I wanted to read today. www.nytimes.com/2025/11/24/s...

This is brutal. (The subscription notice.)

Sometimes news breaks and you know immediately that @dansavage.bsky.social will use it for the intro to the next week’s Savage Lovecast.

This sounds like the country’s worst minor league team

You deserve great abortion care. carafem offers personalized abortion care to meet people where they are and in ways that matter most to them. Always compassionate. Always non judgemental. Always supportive. Learn more at carafem.org Big thanks to @dansavage.bsky.social for helping spread the word!

The caller dated her neighbor for a while, until it became clear that she couldn’t enjoy s*x with him because his giant p was too big for her. Now that she is starting to date other men, should she tell them the history of her friendly neighbor? Listen to answer at 9min mark: savage.love/lovecast

It's a Complicated Issue: A Qualitative Study Investigating the Decision to Enter Sex Work in the United States and the Meaning Behind It is the best title ever for a new study! Listen to our interview with the study author, marriage and family therapist Ashley Bloomberg. savage.love/lovecast.

They’re just making up pop stars to fuck with us, right?

Are we still arresting youth pastors for fucking 15 year olds? Huh. Looks like we are. www.joemygod.com/2025/11/miss...

I got an actual "Your silence on this subject is deafening" message this AM, so, super-quick: Nobody here owes anyone commentary about anything. This is a public park. It's full of interesting people. We hang out here, make friends, and chat, and then we leave to do whatever it is we do. That's it!

No more big city mayors who hate big cities.

This alone would've gotten a previous president laughed out of office so fast there wasn't time to impeach him. gettrumpfragrances.com

Sometimes on a sex advice podcast, you have to call a veterinarian. A man’s new girlfriend lets the cat hump her leg to completion. He thinks this is kind of gross. We bring on a veterinarian from Seattle’s Urban Animal to confirm if it is indeed “gross.” Listen at savage.love/lovecast

If kids got raped by clowns as often as they get raped by preachers it would be against the law to take your kids to the circus. www.joemygod.com/2025/11/colo...

I've been sitting on this and trying not to leak but... It's us. We were one of the 80+ :) financialpost.com/pmn/more-tha...

He would make history as our first gay-baiting member of Congress. (And our 11th or 12th Kennedy.)

I used "pegging" in a zoom marketing meeting today, thinking it meant targeting a donor group. I've never seen so many heads snap up at once at the use of a word.

But what about… girth? Sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick is on the Lovecast today to talk about the physiology of female pleasure and the continuing popularity of choking. Listen at savage.love/lovecast

Take that, coastal elites!

I hope someone, somewhere is writing on opera based on this story.

If kids got raped by clowns as often as they get raped by preachers it would be against the law to take your kids to the circus. joemygod.com/2025/11/mo-y...

Republicans are putting up monuments to him? www.joemygod.com/2025/11/news...

Are there any straight leather daddies out there who aren’t misogynistic creeps? This caller is NOT HAPPY. Hear the answer at savage.love/lovecast (33min mark).

I didn't know they made them this big

Why does Andrew Tate think that straight sex can be gay? I investigate on my Substack. laidbare.substack.com/p/is-sex-for...

Open relationship research with Dr. Justin Mogilski and the science behind ex-friendships, and “dark personality traits.” Plus, a newly out femme lesbian loves her long, detailed, luscious nails. But for obvious reasons, she thinks she should probably trim a couple of them. Will people notice?

Not the obituary I wanted to read today. edition.cnn.com/2025/11/04/p...

Taking an "all of the above" approach to solving the housing crisis in New York City — cut red tape, build more housing, free up existing housing. Win-win-win. www.joemygod.com/2025/11/poll...

Way to go, Dan.

A blog post inspired by @dansavage.bsky.social’s latest podcast episode. denyingthumper.com/2025/10/30/a...

Not the obituary I wanted to read today. variety.com/2025/tv/glob...

Hey everyone! Check out After Action Report: an all-new spicy 10-minute podcast with real stories from real people about their first time trying something new in their sex lives. Hear the good, the bad, the sexy, and the strange as people try out new things! Listen now! buff.ly/nVkXMHa

When a sitting president releases a video of himself defecating on the American people, that’s not “satire.” It’s a public humiliation fantasy and an erotic performance of dominance. open.substack.com/pub/drstacey...

Also: “De-gild the White House!”

Updating my LEGO White House

Inspecting all of Terry's tattoos just to be on the safe side.

The more aggressive form of MPOX (Clade 1) has shown up in 3 LA county gay/bi residents who did not travel to Africa as the first. This implies it has reached here so you need to make sure you have been vaccinated! Get the full update with me and @dansavage.bsky.social on IG LIVE . #mpox #gay #bi

Re-upping my call for a national youth pastor registry. www.joemygod.com/2025/10/ariz...

New episode alert! A man has a clever plan to stick it to the creepers who pester his wife. Learn about abortion medication from PlanCPills.org. And Dan welcomes Dr. Amy Muise, who studied satisfaction around scheduled vs. spontaneous sex. Her findings may shock you...Listen now at buff.ly/1cv0RKl

Re-mystify kink.

Millions of people marching is a sign that what trump is doing is wildly unpopular and authoritarians need some kind of public buy in, in order to completely dissolve all of our rights and freedoms. Republicans won’t act as the guard rail, the Supreme Court won’t act as the guard rail….

Bout sums it up--debuted my new protest shirt from @dansavage.bsky.social at the invigorating No Kings protest in Boston today. Fantastic turnout--the Common was full! #NoKings

Chicago gonna Chicago. #nokings and #noketchup @dansinker.com @dansavage.bsky.social @introvert.net @andshewasdonna.bsky.social someone please get Weiner’s Circle off Xitter and onto Bluesky, FTLOG.

Seattle No Kings from the monorail

Not the obituary I wanted to read today. variety.com/2025/music/n...

New episode out now! Is there a top shortage? IS THERE? On the Magnum, Amp from "Watt the Safeword" would like to wish you and all of yours a very happy Locktober. He and Dan talk about pup play, kinky hypnotherapy, and a demographic that is most unwelcome at Folsom. Listen now at buff.ly/7suKv78

Not the obituary I wanted to ready today. www.advocate.com/news/miss-ma...