Her friend only dates much younger women. He claims he's being careful and mindful of power issues. It's legal, but is it ethical? Is it inherently unethical? This is the hot-button topic of our times. Weigh in!

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Stories like this one will only become more common if we turn back the clock on gay marriage. No one wins when gay people get shoved back into closets. For my fuil remarks on this topic, listen to this weeks Savage.Love/Lovecast

Science Journalist and professional bullshit detector Sadie Dingfelder helps us answer the age-old question: is hypnotism bullshit? To hear this whole discussion listen to the Magnum Edition of this weeks Savage.Love/Lovecast, out tomorrrow!

Readers of @dansavage.bsky.social have had this fact permanently burned into their brains for a good 20 years already. www.thestranger.com/columns/sava...

A man who wanted to confirm his hetero-flexibility gives his first BJ. But did he pass the c*cksucker test? Hear all about it on today's After Action Report! Want to share your first time doing something? Write us at [email protected].

Breakups are always tough, and this one seems especially so - and very fresh. This caller is dealing with their heartbreak in real time. What encouragement or guidance do you have for this caller? Any tips for how to process this type of grief and sadness? Hear the Q&A at Savage.Love/Lovecast

Strap in- it’s Eric Andre! Together we answer a straight man’s question about whether gathering with other men to masturbate together constitutes cheating. What are your thoughts? Subscribe to hear our full chat at Savage.Love/Subscribe!

How do you go about doing damage control on your partner's reputation? Or should you even try? Thoughts? Hear the full Q&A on this week's Savage.Love/Lovecast

Lovecast Superfan & Comedian / Actor Eric Andre will be our guest on next week's Savage Lovecast Magnum Edition! Now's a great time to subscribe at Savage.Love/Subscribe in time for the episode to drop on Tuesday!

And to think, our desires to make opposite-sex avatars of ourselves to have cybersex with could have gone unfulfilled without the advent of AI. 🙄 Hear the full Q&A on this week's Savage.Love/Lovecast

Not the obituary I wanted to read today. apnews.com/article/barn...

Not the obituary I wanted to read today. www.nytimes.com/2026/05/19/b...

Our hearts go out to those who were close to Juniper Blessing, the 19 year old trans UW student who was murdered while doing laundry last week. The suspect is now in custody as a community continues to mourn the loss of an amazing person, who should absolutely still be here with us.

Comedian Jamie Wolf was named one of Time Out's "Comics To Watch" in 2025 and could also maybe moonlight as an unintentional dating coach for Gen Z men? On tomorrow's Savage.Love/Lovecast Magnum Edition!

Can't find a fork to save your life? Try the kitchen. Gotta question for Savage Lovecast? Call us at 206-302-2064 or leave us a message at Savage.Love/AskDan!

They are serious about repealing the 19th Amendment and denying women the vote. www.theatlantic.com/magazine/202...

Sharing another clip from our convo with comedian and podcaster Jackie Kashian about roommate expectations in relationships. It may not be sexy, but it's crucial! So, how does it shake down in your household? How do you divide up chores? On this week's Savage.Love/Lovecast Magnum Edition!

Not the obituary I wanted to read today. www.espn.com/nba/story/_/...

Let's set the record straight: YMCA is NOT the "gay national anthem"! President Trump insists it is but everyone disagrees. Including the songwriters themselves. What is our gay anthem? Do we have one? For more on this topic listen to today's Savage.Love/Lovecast show intro!

Comedian & podcaster Jackie Kashian helps us answer a question from a man wondering if he should reciprocate interest in a woman 30 years his junior who has made her attraction to him apparent (or so he says). We had MANY thoughts, but what are some of yours? Out tomorrow Savage.Love/Lovecast

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Dick Pics: Yay or nay? Dan chats with journalist and lawyer Jill Filipovic on a new edition of "Sex & Politics", out today! To hear this and other weekly interviews, become a Magnum Subscriber at Savage.Love/Subscribe.

Not the obituary I wanted to read today. edition.cnn.com/2026/05/06/u...

Things for women in America are dire and only getting dire-er. But you can still acquire care for unwanted pregnancy through telehealth services like womenonweb.org and abortionpillsinprivate.com. For my full comments on these topics, listen to this week's Savage.Love/Lovecast, out now!

We chatted with journalist, lawyer, and author Jill Filipovic about the recent disturbing CNN article that exposed an online "rape academy". Jill is our guest on both Savage.Love/Lovecast and a special episode of 'Sex & Politics', both coming out this week!

Meet Spring and Nix or “Sprix” as they are called together. These foxy sex party veterans embarked on an adventure at a religious themed event that became a team sport. Listen to today's After Action Report to hear all the details at Savage.Love/Lovecast!

Manners, people manners! What should be the etiquette expectation on hook-up apps? When rejecting people, what should be the standard of politesse? Hear the Q&A here: buff.ly/goWtC1c

Quick housekeeping question for fleshlight owners: how on earth do you dry those things?

So glad I got my passport renewed in January.

Pope Leo XIV makes a statement about deprioritizing sexual morality to focus on more pressing human rights issues. And this is your PSA to watch Monty Python's "The Meaning Of Life". New Savage.Love/Lovecast out now!

So, first one since the last one.

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Dr. Jennie Young wrote the book on navigating dating apps for straight women. Her new book titled "Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating, Torch the Duds, and Make Room for Men Who Matter" outlines methods that she hopes will help women save time and sanity. On tomorrow's Magnum: Savage.Love/Lovecast

What are we supposed to do with our old dildos? The great people of Minnesota are showing us a hot new use for our "expired dicks" - as a tool for resistance! Listen for more at Savage.Love/Lovecast!

A 38 year old poly married man gets to indulge a long-held desire, thanks to his very GGG girlfriend. I loved this After Action Report so much because it reminds us all how weird and how random a kink or a turn-on can be. I even share a very random turn-on of my own! LISTEN: Savage.Love/Lovecast.

Being a bridesmaid? In this economy?? How should this caller handle the bridesmaid's burden being placed upon her? Our answer on this week's Savage.Love/Lovecast.

This seems like a classic "Do-what-you-have-to-do-to-stay-married-and-stay-sane" situation. Do any of you have a compelling reason why he should *not* cheat? Any other ideas on what this man/couple should do?

I have the utmost respect for Senator Kaine and Senator Warner but we do not need “coaching” on redistricting coming from a cuck chair in the corner. How about you all stay focused on the fascist in the White House and let us handle redistricting in Virginia. 10-1

Time for a poll: what's the sexiest holiday and why is it definitely Easter? New Savage.Love/Lovecast out today!

Begging left nimbys to read Marx, Lenin, Stalin or Mao. None of whom would support propping up the landlord class, which is what laws restricting housing supply do.

Leopard, meet face. Face, leopard.

Now here we have a true conundrum. She has two doms, one who lives in her town and the other who doesn't. What should she do when they issue conflicting orders?

Last week we posted a question from a woman who saw an old friend in a porn and wondered if she should reach out to tell her about it. Our advice at the time was to leave it alone but you all lit up our comments with sentiments to the contrary! And now, we agree. Share your thoughts at Savage.Love

I challenge you not to smile at this call to @dansavage.bsky.social on this week’s Lovecast. Absolute mood boost heroin.

I’m so excited to share that I'll be speaking at Sessions Live 2026, Esther Perel’s annual clinical conference. Sessions Live is a two-day gathering for therapists, clinicians, and curious minds exploring desire, connection, and the forces shaping how we relate today. 🎟️: buff.ly/4Ca0rgd

No shame in kink! Especially when there are many others just like you out there who share similar kinks in reaction to the cultural forces all around us. This clip is from our conversation with Doc Chocolate on the Magnum Edition of this week's Savage.Love/Lovecast.

CA democratic gubernatorial candidate, Eric Swalwell, has dropped out of the race and out of congress following a slew of allegations of misconduct by multiple women. If only all government representatives suffered consequences for their criminal misconduct! On today's Savage.Love/Lovecast!

Former pastor turned porn star & podcast host Doc Chocolate returns to the Savage Lovecast this week to answer caller questions and frankly to make us feel like we are doing this podcasting thing all wrong. Join us as a Magnum subscriber to hear our full convo tomorrow on Savage.Love/Lovecast!

Send him to Moscow.