What began as a companion to Anatomy of Depth became something else entirely. A reflection on trust, openness, pleasure, and the psychological experiences that can emerge through fisting. Read more about Intelligence of Depth in this week's newsletter. 👊✨

Fisting is often discussed as a physical experience. But some of its most meaningful dimensions are emotional and psychological. Intelligence of Depth explores what can emerge through openness, trust, vulnerability, and pleasure. My newest publication is now available. ↓

Happy Fisting Friday! All year, I’ve been working with @ffireboy.bsky.social to train my hole. Here’s a recent clip of him digging out my loose, fleshy, meaty cunt. Proud of the work we’ve done together. Still more to go. 👊 #fisting #gayfisting #ffun #fistfuck

One thing I notice a lot in FF is how quickly people begin monitoring themselves the moment pleasure starts building. They start wondering: “Am I clean?” “Do I look strange?” “Is this normal?” I think a lot of what people describe as “intense” is sometimes divided attention.

FF Myth #2: "If someone enjoys FF, they must enjoy pain." Pain isn’t the goal. Many people describe fisting as intimate, pleasurable, or surprisingly relaxing. The actual experience is often very different from what outsiders imagine. 👊✨

FF Myth #1: "You’ll become permanently loose." Your sphincters are muscles (not one-time-use rubber bands). They’re made to expand and return. Like a deep stretch after a workout, you can feel different for a bit afterward. But “loose forever” is more fear-based shorthand than actual anatomy. 👊✨

What’s something about FF that you used to believe that’s changed over time? ✨👊

I think a lot beginners are surprised by how emotional FF can feel at first. When you slow down enough to finally be present in your body, things can come up that you weren’t expecting. 👊✨

Anatomy of Depth: The Physical Language of Fisting is available now: flareforwardmethod.gumroad.com/l/anatomy_of...

Fisting is about learning the language of pressure, response, pacing, recovery, and timing. Anatomy of Depth is a body-aware guide for people who want sustainability over performance. 👊✨

From your POV: what’s something people get wrong about fisting? 👊🏼✨

PnP is one of those topics people either sensationalize immediately or avoid talking about altogether. But I don’t think most people are simply chasing substances. A lot of the time, I think people are searching for relief. Wrote more about this in today’s newsletter. ↓👊✨

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I hear it all the time: “I wish I could go deeper.” “I want to take doubles.” But you can’t rush something your body hasn’t agreed to yet. Take your time and enjoy the experience. Ironically, people often reach their goals sooner once they stop trying to force them. 👊✨

I think some people underestimate how much communication shapes a good FF experience. Small things like checking in, adjusting pace, or saying “pause for a second” can completely change the experience. The best sessions usually feel collaborative (not performative). 👊✨

In FF play, you get further when you stop trying to get further... 👊✨

If you’ve been curious about working with me, here’s what I offer: • In-Person Training (NYC): hands-on sessions focused on pacing, presence, and sustainable play • Virtual Coaching: guided self-training, breathwork, and education from anywhere All new clients apply first.👊

One of the most unexpected parts of this work has been seeing how emotional people can become when they finally let themselves be vulnerable in their body. A client once told me, “when you told me to breathe, that’s when I felt safe to let go.” That moment stayed with me. 👊✨

Curious to know: What’s something you’ve noticed about your body during FF play that surprised you? 👊✨

I’ve been able to take my big toys/plugs when I mentally see myself opening up and take deep breaths in and out

FFriendly reminder: the body doesn’t respond to urgency. Take your time, stay present, breathe, and enjoy yourself. Fisting is meant to be a bit silly. 👊✨

I've noticed that a lot of fisting newbies try to push themselves before they’ve learned how to listen and communicate. It's really important to learn these skills in order to have safe and FFun experiences. 👊✨

Say less. 😉

I know fisting can be something people feel judged for, especially within the gay community. A lot of that reaction usually comes from sexual insecurity and discomfort. People who are into fisting are just relating to their bodies in a different (and deeper) way. 👊✨

The post-session crash is real. 😴 💤 👊

I want to know... What helps you trust someone more during play? 👊✨

I love my job. 🥰👊

Not ready to commit? Book an intro call. We’ll get clear on whether training is right for you. 👊

When it comes to fisting, your body opens more when you stop trying to force it. 👊✨

If you’ve been curious about working with me, here’s what I offer: • In-Person Training (NYC): hands-on sessions focused on pacing, presence, and sustainable play • Virtual Coaching: guided self-training, breathwork, and education from anywhere All new clients apply first.👊

I'm wondering... what's something you wish you'd known about fisting when you first started getting into it? Comment below 👊✨

Working on a simple idea to make toy cleanup quicker and less of a whole process. 🫧🧼 Still early, but if you want to be part of it: forms.gle/6F82JinCyxfi...

"Doesn't that hurt?!" There’s still this idea that fisting is painful and if you're into this kind of play, then you must enjoy pain. From the outside, it looks intense and rough. But it’s really one of the few experiences where we get to soften, receive, and be present. 👊✨

One where I can let go where anything can happen New experiences in unexpected moments

prefer sensual over rough...but do love multiple punches when I am "warmed up"...more about width than depth...and love having multiple assgasms and creaming on a fist...also LOVE when a guy jacks his dick off inside me.

Curious to know... What does a ✨good✨ fisting session feel like to you? Tell me below. 😉👊

Working on a simple idea to make toy cleanup quicker and less of a whole process. 🫧🧼 Still early, but if you want to be part of it: forms.gle/6F82JinCyxfi...

There’s a level of vulnerability in fisting that a lot of people don’t expect. Especially for men who aren’t used to relating to their bodies in that way. That’s very much part of what makes it special and meaningful for people. 👊✨

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Coach has a hump day session. 👊

Saying that fisting is “too much” or “extreme” is just a way of distancing yourself from something you don’t understand. Now, it's okay if it's not for you. But for the people who are actually into it, the experience is a lot more layered, intimate, and nuanced. 👊✨

Last week, I posted about toy cleanup across my socials. I didn’t expect that many responses. I’m thinking about testing a simple way to make cleanup faster and less of a hassle. If I do a small first batch, I’ll start with a limited group. 🤓 📝 If you want early access: forms.gle/gDqgiTCi7gY6...

Last week, I posted about toy cleanup across my socials. I didn’t expect that many responses. I’m thinking about testing a simple way to make cleanup faster and less of a hassle. If I do a small first batch, I’ll start with a limited group. 🤓 📝 If you want early access: forms.gle/gDqgiTCi7gY6...

Woke up to a lot of kind messages this morning. It really warms my heart to know my posts are resonating with FFolks 🥰 I also got a few questions about working together. If you’re interested in in-person training or virtual coaching, you can check out my website for more details.

Woke up to a lot of kind messages this morning. It really warms my heart to know my posts are resonating with FFolks 🥰 I also got a few questions about working together. If you’re interested in in-person training or virtual coaching, you can check out my website for more details.

Daddy’s working a 3-hr session this morning. 👊😉

Scrolling through your phone while someone is putting time and energy into fisting you… That changes the dynamic more than people think. Fisting isn’t a one-sided activity, even if it looks like it. 📱👊

When I top, that's an instant STOP. It's the exact opposite of what fisting is all about : connection and sharing. If you cannot be in the moment, get out of my house!