Woke up to a lot of kind messages this morning. It really warms my heart to know my posts are resonating with FFolks 🥰 I also got a few questions about working together. If you’re interested in in-person training or virtual coaching, you can check out my website for more details.

Woke up to a lot of kind messages this morning. It really warms my heart to know my posts are resonating with FFolks 🥰 I also got a few questions about working together. If you’re interested in in-person training or virtual coaching, you can check out my website for more details.

Daddy’s working a 3-hr session this morning. 👊😉

Scrolling through your phone while someone is putting time and energy into fisting you… That changes the dynamic more than people think. Fisting isn’t a one-sided activity, even if it looks like it. 📱👊

When I top, that's an instant STOP. It's the exact opposite of what fisting is all about : connection and sharing. If you cannot be in the moment, get out of my house!

Scrolling through your phone while someone is putting time and energy into fisting you… That changes the dynamic more than people think. Fisting isn’t a one-sided activity, even if it looks like it. 📱👊

Random question… does anyone else find cleaning toys after a session kind of a hassle? 😅 I feel like the actual play is the easy part and then cleanup is where I’m like… 🫠. Curious if people have found ways to make the process quicker/easier?

“Am I clean enough?” “Why do I feel tight?” “Does he actually want to fist me?” Fisting can bring up A LOT mentally. But when you’re too in your head, it’s harder to stay connected. If this is you, try taking a few deep breaths and asking your partner for some reassurance. ✨

Thank you @hankeystoys.bsky.social I’m going to enjoy taking the Boss Hogg XXL for a ride. 😉

“Am I clean enough?” “Why do I feel tight?” “Does he actually want to fist me?” Fisting can bring up A LOT mentally. But when you’re too in your head, it’s harder to stay connected. If this is you, try taking a few deep breaths and asking your partner for some reassurance. ✨

When it comes to fisting, I know some folks get caught up in reaching a certain goal (depth, doubles, # of punches, etc). But I think when you’re too focused on getting somewhere, you can lose the experience along the way. 👊

It's true. While I do have goals that I want to achieve I find the only time I really progress is when I jester have ffun and enjoy the experience and don't worry about it too much.

When it comes to fisting, I know some folks get caught up in reaching a certain goal (depth, doubles, # of punches, etc). But I think when you’re too focused on getting somewhere, you can lose the experience along the way. 👊

Agreed! I find myself craving intimacy and affection more and more. Even above the act of having sex and getting off. And fisting is like the most extreme way to feed those cravings. 👊🥰

I find that to be the best part of fisting. It's so carnal and intense but also thoughtful and delicate when done well.

Tbh, I don’t think we talk enough about the level of intimacy involved with FF. Especially as gay men, we often relate with our bodies through control or performance (partly due to p*rn). Fisting really has the potential to teach us to slow down, receive, and stay present in intimacy. ✨ 👊🏻

So I know a lot of people rely on substances to “feel more relaxed” when it comes to FF. But it’s worth knowing that if you can’t clearly feel what your body is doing, it’s a lot easier to miss what it’s trying to communicate. Because of this, things can go sideways quickly.

Fisting plateaus are sooo real. 🫠👊🏻 But remember that hitting the same point over and over doesn’t actually mean you’re stuck. A plateau usually means your body has reached a limit it hasn’t adapted past yet.

I’ve got a car from tomorrow through next Thursday 🚘 So I’m opening a limited number of outcall sessions within ~25 miles of NYC. If getting into the city has been the barrier, this is a good time to reach out. You can submit an application through my site. 👊🏻

Fisting plateaus are sooo real. 🫠👊🏻 But remember that hitting the same point over and over doesn’t actually mean you’re stuck. A plateau usually means your body has reached a limit it hasn’t adapted past yet.

I’ve got a car from tomorrow through next Thursday 🚘 So I’m opening a limited number of outcall sessions within ~25 miles of NYC. If getting into the city has been the barrier, this is a good time to reach out. You can submit an application through my site. 👊🏻

Not therapy… but I get why it feels like it. 😅

Sunday Funday.

I wanted to write a little something on filing taxes as a full service provider. The main reason is because last year was a huge learning curve for me. And believe it or not… there’s really not a lot of helpful information out there for us. 1/11

Are you wanting some guidance with your FF practice, but you’re not based in NYC? No worries! I got you. 👊🏻✨ I offer virtual coaching to help folks train with more structure, awareness, and intention. Feel free to check out my website (in my bio) for details + application.

I adore you.

A man of multitudes… lol.

The second guide in my Depth Series is coming out next month! Intelligence of Depth is about understanding what happens in your mind as fisting becomes more of a practice. It touches on how curiosity can turn into pressure and how progress can turn into identity. More soon! 👊🏻🧠🤓

Sunday Service. 🙏🏼👊🏻🕳️

Time for Daddy to work. Morning sessions are a great way to start the day imo. 😉👊🏻

The Atlas XXXL is my favorite.

I sincerely view fisting as a practice. Every session shouldn’t feel like a test on how wide or deep you can go. The practice itself is about learning what your body is ready for and what you find pleasurable. Progress tends to unfold this way. 👊🏻✨

The fantasy gets the attention while the reality is what makes it work.

People think my job is the session. Meanwhile I’m over here: writing emails setting boundaries and building systems so the session can even happen I know… sexy 🤓 💻

People think my job is the session. Meanwhile I’m over here: writing emails setting boundaries and building systems so the session can even happen I know… sexy 🤓 💻

Last one from the IG Q&A: “Is gaping achievable for everyone?” Some degree can happen during or after play because the muscles have stretched and relaxed. But anatomy and pelvic floor tone vary a lot, so the degree differs from person to person. 🕳️

Another question: “Does everyone eventually get a rosebud with enough practice?” Ahh…The famous 🌹 Anatomy does play a role in whether or not a person shows a rose. Bodies vary a lot, so it's not really a “practice long enough and it will happen" situation.

Another question: “Does everyone eventually get a rosebud with enough practice?” Ahh…The famous 🌹 Anatomy does play a role in whether or not a person shows a rose. Bodies vary a lot, so it's not really a “practice long enough and it will happen" situation.

Another good question I got from the IG Q&A: “How often should someone train?” A general guideline I share: - 1x per week → maintenance - 2–3x per week → building capacity But it really shouldn’t feel rigid. Bodies respond best to consistent, patient training over time. Not forcing a schedule.

From the IG Q&A: “What’s your prep routine to make sure you’re fully clean?” First thing: there’s never a 100% guarantee accidents won’t happen. It’s just part of anal play sometimes.

From the IG Q&A: “What’s your prep routine to make sure you’re fully clean?” First thing: there’s never a 100% guarantee accidents won’t happen. It’s just part of anal play sometimes.

Another IG Q&A question: “Pros and cons of wearing a butt plug for several hours?” Pros: some people find it helps them get used to fullness and practice relaxing. Cons: long wear can cause irritation, dryness, or pelvic floor fatigue.

I've started plugging more often, and struggle with keeping things lubed for longer. I've been using cream based lube and every now and then popping out the toy, adding a little grease, and continuing. I feel like once I notice some pull when I walk or move it's time to reapply. Also feels great 🥵👑😈

Yes . . . and yet. When I plug for say 8 hours, my hole afterwards is just next level relaxed, loose, and hanging open - a condition that over time makes me gapier and able to open up more easily and quickly. I don't know if I recommend it, but I kinda fucking love it 🐷🥰

Another IG Q&A question: “Pros and cons of wearing a butt plug for several hours?” Pros: some people find it helps them get used to fullness and practice relaxing. Cons: long wear can cause irritation, dryness, or pelvic floor fatigue.

✨One question from my IG Q&A: “Can someone’s anatomy prevent them from taking two hands or larger toys?” Short answer: yes, anatomy can play a role (pelvic floor tension, tissue elasticity, nervous system, etc.)

Bone structure also plays a role. I have hit the limit of what can physically fit through my pelvic bone. I often wonder if the extra-girthy (13”+ circ) silicone toys are only possible because they compress going in.

✨One question from my IG Q&A: “Can someone’s anatomy prevent them from taking two hands or larger toys?” Short answer: yes, anatomy can play a role (pelvic floor tension, tissue elasticity, nervous system, etc.)

Last week I gained 300+ new FFollowers on IG after the Sniffies article came out. ☺️👊🏻 So I opened up a Q&A on my IG stories about FF training, anatomy, and coaching. Some really good questions came in. I’ll be sharing a few of them here this week. ✨

If you had told me 10 years ago that I’d be getting interviewed as a “fisting coach,” I probably would’ve laughed. Hehe… Sniffies just published a conversation about the work I do training bottoms. Fun one. 👊💙