In college, I wanted to marry a man of color with blue hair, who was Catholic. Just to show my family that this was good, actually (and to make them angry and confused.) I married a white Californian woman who was raised Catholic. Do you think I should convince her to dye her hair?

When we know better, we do better. If we aren't assholes, anyway.

I know everyone is struggling right now. But our trans community is under attack, and it's not safe for some to stay where they are. Bianca is struggling to pay her gas just like the rest of us, AND they need to relocate AND medical bills. I helped with what I could, maybe you could too?

Shaindel does so much for the pets in our community. If you have anything to spare with gas prices this high, consider helping the families get these babies taken care of. I just got a good look at the dental prices of pet care, and as you might know, it is indeed B-A-N-A-N-A-S.

My cat might have an autoimmune disease. My wife was just diagnosed with sleep apnea. America continues to be *gestures wildly* I need to chill out. Should I watch The Thing with the wife tonight, or play Pathfinder and metaphorically kill shit?

*taps the sign again* Rich people are not demonstrably smarter, more competent, or better in any way than poor people. Most of them are dumb as shit and twice as useless. They're just more willing to exploit people for profit. That's it.

@celestialblue.bsky.social , in a world in which I could choose to marry you or Leon S. Kennedy, I would still choose you. And that's really saying something. I love you, Nicole.

Over on FB, my former college advisor is using her time to post AI slop of her dog. Stuff like "this is Ruby at the Oscars!" or "this is Ruby painted like a Warhol!" And I'm like "you're wasting my water and poisoning my neighbors for this shit?"

This. This is how I feel about AI. Especially knowing that the data centers are poisoning the people in my hometown and causing truly alarming amounts of cancer and miscarriage in a town of less than 4000.

PSA: I will be playing Coral Island until further notice, because I want to believe that community can come together to make great change, and that it doesn't only happen in mythical places like Starlet Town and Minnesota.

I think maybe my MIL doesn't get my sense of humor. She told us someone broke the lock on their storage unit, but didn't take anything. Me: "Rude. If you're going to all that trouble, at least steal something. Otherwise, it's breaking in PLUS bitter rejection." Y'all, she took me seriously.

Okay, so I can tell I'm losing weight because I just got these rings from @peculiarityshop.bsky.social and they're SO BEAUTIFUL but they sized them to an 11 for my fingers... and my ring fingers are officially a 10.5 now. Fucking rude, I tell you.

As more places enact harsh transphobic legislation, Keshet is one organization seeking to help by offering no-interest loans for up to $10k to LGBTQ+ folks in the US who need the financial support to relocate to a state with stronger legal protections.

Sometimes I think about how every story is a tragedy, and it breaks me. "If there was anyone to get through this life with their heart intact, they didn't do it right." My heart isn't intact, between death, distance, and watching strangers suffer here and abroad. But I do my best.

We've all been where my friend Gin is. Things are supposed to get better, things are looking up, and then WHAM. You get hit with more unexpected bills, and suddenly, you're drowning again and you don't know what to do. We can help, though. Even a little is grand, if you can.

If Trump was normal, I would go "that guy is stupid, insecure, and prob has a personality disorder, avoid him." Because he was born to money, has stumbled ass-backwards into power, and is surrounded by people who refuse to tell him no, he goes from aggressively irritating to INCREDIBLY DANGEROUS.

Just started @chucktingle.bsky.social 's CAMP DAMASCUS and man. As a neurodivergent, queer exvangelical with CPTSD from their family... I may not be healed enough for this book, y'all. Seriously, I may need to have a long conversation with my therapist about this. And extra snuggles with my wife.

@simguruninja.bsky.social I wish the very best for all of the Maxis team. This isn't your fault. You've done your best for us. But please, tell them their avarice will only be their downfall. First, the buyout. Then, the Marketplace. The Sims is no longer a safe place for the people who love it.

I have been an avid player of The Sims 3 & 4 through some of the darkest periods of my life. Thousands of hours poured into this game, and it is no exaggeration to say it saved me from suicide at least once. I uninstalled it today. I cannot support EA with its current decisions. No more. I'm done.

It's hard enough keeping my shit straight with the world being what it is right now, but my precious Luna, y'all. She's been having the world's worst allergy attack, and nothing we do helps. Now the vet is concerned that something entirely different is wrong. My heart can't take this.

I find it horrifying when writers brag about using AI to write stories knowing full well that the only way we evolved as people was through storytelling, it’s what formed society and taught us who we are and how to love and you all just want to throw our literal humanity away cause you can

Hot take: oatmeal chocolate chip cookies are viciously underrated. Oatmeal raisin cookies taste like betrayal.

I don't have anything useful to say today. But the world is shit and my cats are gorgeous, sweet, and funny. (All the info is in the alt text. Read the alt text.)

I am genderqueer. Too trans to be cis, too cis to be trans. I was told to be small and quiet for others' comfort. I stuffed myself in a tiny identity for most of my life, and now that I'm out, I will never go back. I want that for all of my trans loves, too. You deserve a world that fits you.

For all of us right now.

Maybe I'm flying too close to the sun here, but I feel like that's the kind of thing you should talk about and decide BEFORE you drop the bomb and start the war.

I saw a quote post that said "embroidery is better than doomscrolling" and that's fucking TRUE. So all of you who feel the need to create something that allows you to stab shit should take this class and support Shannon. I'm going to go work on my embroidery.

My wife came home for lunch, and spent half of it helping me shower and dress because I was having trouble managing it today. She didn't complain, and when I apologized, she said "why? I got to spend it chatting with you." *swoon*

You know, I'd blocked this period out because of teenage trauma, so I could have gone the whole rest of my life without being reminded of the banana-pants behavior around the Iraq War. My Nana had a United We Stand Christmas tree in 2001, complete with dozens of mini flags and custom baubles.

I heard there were people bitching about the Grace Ashcroft portions of RE 9. How you have to sneak around, there's no ammo, etc. My dude, that's a FEATURE. Horror is about power. Specifically, when the protagonist doesn't have any. If you complain about the horror bits, you want an action game.

I should say: I am against the bombings. It's okay to be angry at the US gov't. I'm just saying that white people need to learn to stop making everything about us. Iranians are the victims here. They have many differing opinions. Why are we sucking all the air out of the room?

At the risk of being screamed at on the Iran business, I say this: Why don't we de-center white American voices, and center the Iranian (and diaspora) ones in this case? What do they have to say that might enlighten us instead of (as always) thinking we know everything about every situation?

I just made a donation. Does anyone want to help out? They could really use some extra funds to help our trans family get to safety.

I know Shaindel personally. She and the local shelter work SO DAMN HARD to save every animal they can, but they don't have the space or funding to do it without help. This will go to help a sweet girl in my area. We're all short on funds, but even a reskeet helps.

It's so fucking backwards. "Don't call them racist, it might hurt their feelings so they can't hurt other people anymore." BISH THEIR FEELINGS DESERVE TO BE HURT.

So I used to have a wonderful friend. She officiated my wedding, she sat with me through two surgeries. I was her friend through parental deaths, through life events... for 23 years. Saturday she sent my wife and me a formal email cutting off contact. No explanation. Forever. It's heartbreaking.

Okay, so @dropout.tv and their new 24-7 channel is brilliant actually. I needed the TV on, but I wasn't sure what I wanted. Now instead of 500 channels and nothing to watch, I have 1 channel with a spinning wheel of things I love. Excuse me as I cry over the end of Unsleeping City again.

Today, I am not doing anything productive. All the things I need to do can fuck off. I am going to order a taro milk tea. Maybe a giant-ass cookie. I'm going to pull up an audiobook. And I'm going to work on my embroidery. This is emergency self-care, and I am not available for bullshit today.

Trans siblings: as you might know, I've started trying on the name Alyx. But my exposure to the name is low when most of the people who use my name are doctors and lawyers, who use my legal name. My friends don't use any name for me, I've discovered. How do I get more exposure to the name Alyx?

I know it's not going to be passed right now. But this is a fight worth fighting. And worth winning. My trans friends and neighbors are the most beautiful, fascinating, vibrant people I know across the board. I wouldn't give them up for the world, and it's time them to be protected as they deserve.

I am gonna go out on a limb and say that a Jersey dude so horrified that he went to his first protest and is trying not to cry on camera has a pretty good chance of staying radicalized. And that while Bluesky loves to pick apart things like this, this kinda video moves the needle for OTHER dudes.

My wife and I were ordering groceries. I decided to look for dessert recipes for V-Day, and settled on Nutella brownies. "We need eggs," I thought, and ordered them. "Hey, can we order eggs?" Nicole says. She looks up from her own laptop. The recipe: Nutella brownies. Happy Love Day, my darling.

So I'm listening to Hozier on vinyl tonight. Is that it? Do I get my Lesbian Hipster card now? Does anyone know where I apply? (Damn. It's got to be easier than getting my passport renewed.)

Unconfirmed, but during my first mammogram today, it is possible that I flared the covering cape, flashed my tits to my wife and the tech and growled, "I'M BATMAN," making the tech laugh so hard that she made a weird barking noise. Possibly there's something wrong with me.

Notice how the popular media narrative has moved on, while people on the ground in Minneapolis are still struggling and crying out that things are as bad as ever. This is how fascist regimes operate — overreach, recalibration, normalization. Get louder, not quieter.

Great art often says "Yeah, life's hard. But we'll get through this all together." That was ultimately Bad Bunny's message - which is why it resonates so widely. Bad art often says "The world just doesn't understand me, so fuck them." And that's the heart of Conservative media.

I deadass had a fight with my mom one time because I was confused when she used her chosen name/nickname instead of her legal name on legal documents. So did my grandfather. Apparently this was a real thing people used to do just... all the time. Don't let them tell you your name is forever.

CONFIRMED FROM EXPERIENCE: This works! They might give you some stonewalling, but ultimately they let me return my doorbell, which I bought in 2021, and two other cameras, bought in 2024.

Friends from Minneapolis reporting to me that things are at the point where folks are being hidden in other people's houses and we are in the "again" part of "never again" which the "never" was supposed to preclude