'Sticking Together in Tough Times' with Dean Spade 6 Oct 6-8pm Discussing the kinds of bold, rule-breaking, risk-taking resistance that people are taking up to care for each other and save lives right now. www.ucl.ac.uk/institute-of...

How do you balance love, friendship, and radical organizing? @deanspade.bsky.social's new book shows leftists how to build ethical, supportive relationships without losing sight of the struggle. Read the conversation with @emanabdelhadi.bsky.social: inthesetimes.com/article/love...

I'll be in Manchester on October 3rd at 6:30pm with Wu Tsang at @blackwellsmcr.bsky.social. Thanks to the Centre for the Study of Sexuality and Culture and the Centre for New Writing for co-sponsoring. Tickets: www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/love-in-a-...

Edinburgh!! I’ll be with @lighthousebks.bsky.social at the Great Hall on Wednesday October 1st at 7pm for a discussion on Love in a F*cked-Up World with Wu Tsang and Nat Raha! Come join us ❤️❤️ lighthousebookshop.com/events/love-...

UK book tour at the beginning of October! I’ll be talking about mutual aid, Love in a F*cked-Up World, and how to stick together in increasingly brutal times. Join me ❤️💛💗 Tickets and access info here: www.deanspade.net/2024/11/15/u...

There are over a 1000 copies of Love in a F*cked-Up World available for people inside prisons and jails! Request a book for someone through this link: airtable.com/app87WhX08mp... Prisoners can request a book by writing to: 1977 Books 1468 Woodley Road Montgomery, Alabama 36106

We so frequently shame other people and ourselves, hoping it will lead to change. @prentishemphill.bsky.social breaks down why shame does not produce insight or behavior change. You can listen to the whole interview wherever you get your podcasts, or watch on YouTube.

These are tumultuous times. Racial capitalism is the reason. It’s time to think outside the box. Listen and subscribe to the anti-imperialist video pod @makcapitalism.bsky.social — produced and co-hosted by the honorable @jaybeware.bsky.social. Pay as little as $1 a month for exclusive content.

Just got more of these cute stickers that I've been handing out during my book tour to give out to people who join our podcast's new Patreon! Grateful to the artists who designed these with me--Sophie Lucido Johnson, Chris E Vargas, Calvin Burnap, and EM Frank. www.patreon.com/deanspade

In this episode, I got to talk to my friend and teacher, @prentishemphill.bsky.social. Prentis knows so much about love, organizing, and healing, this conversation was a gift and I have reflected on it many times since we recorded it.

If you’re distressed watching the transphobic nightmare unfold, a great way to support trans people is to become a penpal to an imprisoned trans person. @powerblossoms.bsky.social, @arcgenderjustice.bsky.social, @blackandpinkorg.bsky.social, @massamp1312.bsky.social, @tpride.bsky.social

Dean Spade discusses his radical self-help book, Love in a Fucked Up World, here: www.removepaywall.com/search?url=h... via @deanspade.bsky.social

Can you share our link. It is a new way for money pool fundraiser. You don’t have to have a PayPal to donate. This money pool is not just any fundraiser it is a fundraiser that will save trans peoples lives.

I loved seeing what Reyanna James favorite ideas from Love in a F*cked Up World are—an honor to be read closely by such an excellent writer. www.radishliving.com/how-to-love-...

Bring your reading group to a live discussion of Love in a F*cked-Up World! Bring all your questions about crushes, friendships, open relationships, robust support systems, conflict, hard feelings. Tickets: www.patreon.com/c/DeanSpade/...

We launched a Patreon last week to raise money for the Love in a F*cked Up World podcast. The Patreon is a place for people who want to go deeper with all the themes in the book and the podcast.

Is sexting sex? In this video I respond to a listener question about whether sexting counts as sex for purposes of agreements about monogamy and nonmonogamy.

3/10: @deanspade.bsky.social in conversation with Wu Tsang for LOVE IN A F*CKED UP WORLD: How To Build Relationships, Hook Up And Raise Hell Together. www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/love-in-a-...

We are starting a Patreon to support the Love in a F*cked Up World podcast, and to create a place where people can go deeper with the ideas in the podcast and the book. New videos, live q & a's, community message boards and more. Join us!

In Episode 6, Morgan Bassichis and I talk about how to navigate communicating electronically a lot, having dates that are like little vacations, playing house during visits, and other dimensions of long distance relationships.

Join TanyaMarck + Nick + @deanspade.bsky.social for this juicy chat about what it means to liberate #love + #beauty + #queer #joy during challenging times. Link in bio OR find us on Apple Podcast, Spotify, YouTube, Amazon/Audible, or your favorite podcast streamer. Yay!

Conversation with @prisonculture.bsky.social about how the "conciergification" of our lives is de-skilling us for organizing with each other. Listen to the whole episode wherever you get your podcasts.

Talking to @prisonculture.bsky.social about her idea that hope is a discipline. How do we practice that discipline? From Ep 5 of my new podcast, which you can listen to here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/m... Please subscribe and review--it helps others find us.

In Ep 5 I got to talk to @prisonculture.bsky.social about the dangers of putting ppl on pedestals, what to do when you are getting canceled, how to relate to the concept of hope, how norms about sex and romance influence resistance work, and more. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Watch the full episode 13-minute where Morgan and I talk about a tool you can use when you are fixated to get some perspective. Available on Youtube as a video, or listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Watch the full episode about how the "What else is true?" exercise can help when you're fixated on a conflict or interaction. Find it on YouTube or wherever you get your podcasts.

This new episode of Love in a F*cked Up World, the podcast, is also available as a video. Watch me and Morgan giggle about our overly serious efforts to transform ourselves and our conditions. www.youtube.com/watch?v=sHy-...

You can preorder from any bookstore. Here's the link to the book: wwnorton.com/books/978132... And shoutout to @deanspade.bsky.social for the idea!

Episode 4 of Love in a F*cked Up World, the podcast is out now! In this tiny 13-minute episode, I talk to Morgan Bassichis about a tool for getting perspective when we are tied up in knots about something.

My interview with Katie Dalebout on her podcast LET IT OUT was released yesterday!

Fireweed Collective just posted the videos from my Valentine's Day Breakup Webinar. Find the video with ASL and the video with Spanish interpretation at the link in my bio, and the previous four webinars on romance, friendship, and sticking together. www.deanspade.net/2023/02/22/v...

Our study group is over, but you can still watch the 5 sessions and read all the materials from the link in my bio. Best done with friends if possible.

From Episode 3 of Love in a F*cked Up World, the podcast, in which I talk with my dear friends Morgan Bassichis and Tourmaljne about a tool for finding nuance when we’re emotionally reactive and thinking in binaries.

Very much looking forward to this conversation with anarchist workers in Berlin in a couple weeks! berlin.fau.org/2025/07/14/3...

Another Friday, another episode of In The Meanwhile! This one's a 🔥 episode with none other than THE @deanspade.bsky.social. In this raw, funny, wildly necessary conversation, Dean offers a blueprint for surviving collapse without collapsing on each other. youtu.be/-NQmLNXnkzM?...

“Effective responses to these conditions won’t come from the top, they will come from us, doing immediate work in our communities to care for people and fight back. It’s up to us to find ways to challenge and dismantle the systems that oppress us.” @deanspade.bsky.social

Hoy te recomendamos el libro “Apoyo mutuo” (@deanspade.bsky.social, @traficantes-ed.bsky.social), que ofrece una visión radical de la movilización comunitaria, la transformación social, el activismo comprometido y la solidaridad

So honored that @deanspade.bsky.social shared such kind words about our book! ❤️❤️

Episode 3 of Love in a F*cked Up World, the podcast, in which I talk to Tourmaline and Morgan Bassichis, is out now!

From Episode two of Love in a F*cked Up World, the podcast, in which I talk with my dear friend Morgan Bassichis about how we deal with hard feelings—like jealousy, possessiveness and control—when they inevitably come up.

Loved this conversation with @kenworthy.bsky.social and @mhgreen3000.bsky.social about relationships, autonomy, isolation, resistance, masculinity, and so much more.

Such a pleasure to talk to Autumn and @adriennemareebrown.bsky.social about love at the end of the world!

I wrote something for @them about how we need every single person to join in the fight to care for each other and resist our opponents' nightmare world, and how to get started. www.them.us/story/dean-s...

Episode 2 is out! In this episode, I talk with my dear friend Morgan Bassichis about how we deal with hard feelings—like jealousy, possessiveness and control—when they inevitably come up.

A clip from Episode 1 of my new podcast. Listen to the whole interview with @adriennemareebrown.bsky.social wherever you get your podcasts. Please rate, review and follow to help others find it.

This is horrifying and will shorten trans lives. At the same time, we know that trans people have survived attack and erasure many times over, providing each other with love, care, and basic needs. We won't stop or be stopped. www.theguardian.com/society/2025...

When we're overwhelmed by the scale of the systems of domination, how do we change our perspective to think about immediate local action?

I’m so grateful for the amazing responses I’ve been getting for my new podcast, Love in a F*cked Up World! Please check it out and follow on Spotify to help us reach more people: open.spotify.com/show/2QvaJmq...