My friend Grace Pinson is a trans woman and jailhouse lawyer leaving federal prison next month after 23 years and needs funds to support her re-entry. She's a badass, but of course she shouldn't need to be to warrant support. Donate and share! @deanspade.bsky.social bit.ly/welcomehomegrace

Prisons are designed to isolate, break social ties, and destroy communities. Yet, people fight hard to keep relationships going across prison walls, and through all the crises that prisons manufacture. Episode 26 is Part One of a multi-episode series on relating across prison walls.

When our friends are venting about what is frustrating them it’s easy to go into autopilot responses. It can help to notice what our go-to responses are so we can choose to do more value-aligned things. Find more conversations about building relationships and movements at patreon.com/deanspade.

Join Autumn Brown, R. Jessica Rosenberg, and me to discuss how mutual aid efforts have changed between 2019 and 2026, the repression of Stop Cop City activists, and transitioning between acute and ongoing crises. Tune in May 11 at 5pm CST / 6pm EST

Resentment can poison our enjoyment of the things, it can be toxic for groups, it is a reasonable response to the conditions we live under, and we must work through it so we can stay connected. Listen to some new tools and explore how we can work with this difficult mental and emotional tangle.

I love hearing Vicky Osterweil talk about anything, but most especially about how she understands the gorgeous threat that trans people constitute to the fascist ecocidal monsters who currently run most things in our lives. The latest podcast episode is out now!

I had the great pleasure of talking to my friend Eli Clare about his new book, Unfurl, and the long arc of his exquisite work shaping trans politics and disability justice over the last many decades.

The second edition of Mutual Aid came out this week! The Free Society People’s Library is hosting a meetup to read and discuss the new edition on April 18th at Sumner-Albina Park in Portland, OR. The meetup is a fundraiser for Be Loved Bloc and Common Fire, supporting families impacted by ICE.

In the latest episode of the podcast, I got to speak with Benji Hart, who has years of experience facilitating transformative justice processes. In this clip, I’m telling him about this experience, and why I think we should reframe what counts as success in transformative justice.

Loved this conversation with Benji Hart about their work facilitating trnasformative justice processes, how they got involved in work to oppose US military imperialism, and so much more.

In this episode, Morgan Bassichis and I discuss a listener’s question about when self-improvement work is too rigorous and/or driven by shame. We went deep with this one, thinking together about the really painful beliefs about ourselves that sometimes come up and how to move through them.

What a treat to have my book Mutual Aid read by @margaret.bsky.social on her podcast Cool Zone Media Book Club. Check out both episodes anywhere you get your podcasts! An updated version of Mutual Aid is coming out March 31st from Verso Books.

Waterstones is offering a 25% off pre-orders of the new edition of Mutual Aid from February 17th to February 20th. To buy the book for 25% off, you can go to the Waterstones website and use the code FEB26.

Natalie and I have been working together to oppose Israeli pinkwashing for over a decade. In this live conversation, we will be talking about conflict in movement groups and tools for addressing it. Join us on my Patreon on Feb 16 at 2:30pm EST! www.patreon.com/posts/upcomi...

6th annual Valentine's Day webinar with Fireweed Collective, Feb 15 at 1pm ET! The theme this year is "too much, or not enough?" You can watch the videos of the prior 5 at the link in my bio. Registration: givebutter.com/deanspade6

It was so much fun to sit down with @chaninicholas.bsky.social and talk about how she got politicized, how we hold fear and choose purposeful action in these difficult times, what it takes to stand up for what we believe in when were are under pressure, what it means to worship time, and more.

From my conversation on the Green Dreamer Podcast. Listen to the whole conversation wherever you get your podcasts. Solidarity not charity! You can find much more about this in my book Mutual Aid which is free on the Anarchist Library. I just wrote an updated edition that is coming out March 31.

This is an excerpt from a conversation about how I’ve never had a cell phone and how that has impacted my boundaries with work and collaborations. In this clip, I discuss how the idea that everyone should be reachable at all times is unrealistic and sometimes less efficient.

My friend Holiday Simmons and I will be doing a livestream conversation on my Patreon this Monday (Feb 2) at 1PM EST. Holiday is a Black Cherokee, genderqueer, two-spirit social worker and the host of the Trans Cookout Podcast. Please join us live or catch the video after. patreon.com/deanspade

In this clip, I discuss the idea that cell phones are important because it helps people reach you in an emergency, and because cell phones make us safer. I’ve heard this a lot, but I don’t buy it. You can watch our whole conversation at patreon.com/deanspade for free!

I sat down with Peter Gelderloos to talk about his decades of work exposing the damaging impact that pacifist discourse has in resistance movements, stigmatizing people who fight back boldly. You can hear the whole interview wherever you listen to podcasts or watch the video on YouTube.

For Episode 17 I got to sit down with Peter Gelderloos, someone whose writing has been central to my political development since I first encountered his book, How Nonviolence Protects the State, in the early 2000’s.

Excited to share my interview with Holly Whitaker, author of Quit Like a Woman and host of the Co-Regulation podcast. I have been very inspired by Holly’s critical feminist analysis of how the alcohol industry and the ubiquity of 12-step impact how we perceive drinking and sobriety.

Washington's governor likes to pretend to care about immigrants, meanwhile his agencies keep lying about handing over info to the feds that helps them round people up. This new report exposes the details.

Wrote about what happens when conflict appears in our movement spaces and how to move through it instead of abandoning our work in @npquarterly.bsky.social ! nonprofitquarterly.org/navigating-c...

In this episode, Morgan Bassichis and I talk about giving and receiving feedback directly as a way to build relationships, and prevent conflict from escalating to destructive and disorganizing levels.

Grateful to Ciro for animating this clip from the recent episode where Morgan Bassichis and I talk about how to deescalate a crush. You can watch the episode on YouTube or listen wherever you get your podcasts.

The second edition of Mutual Aid is coming out on March 31 from @versobooks.bsky.social

Thrilled to share this conversation with Shira Hassan, a brilliant writer, organizer, facilitator, and friend who has influenced harm reduction and transformative justice work, and my own thinking and practice, for decades.

Preorder the second edition of Mutual Aid, out March 31st. I wrote a new section about what I learned about mutual aid since 2020 and updated various sections of the book. Preorder here: store.deanspade.net We also have shirts, hoodies, mugs, and totes! All proceeds go to support the podcast.

A new review of LIAFUW is coming out in Daughters! Daughters is a magazine featuring over 35 incarcerated voices speaking to conditions of confinement with interviews, essays, poetry, legal news, legislative updates, and art! To support their work, subscribe here: docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1F...

Crushes can be fun and enlivening, but sometimes they are ill-timed or ill-suited, and it can be hard to shake them off. In this episode, Morgan Bassichis and I discuss one of the most popular tools from Love in a F*cked Up World the book: 7 Steps for De-escalating a Crush.

Here are a few thoughts about confidentiality and conflict, and in other news, I'm teaching a class about romcoms, consent, and the romance myth with Mia Schacter (@consent.wizardry) Wednesdays and Sundays, December 3-14, 11am-1pm PT / 2–4pm ET. Sign up at consentwizardry.com/guiltypleasure

How do you know if you should leave an organizing group or collaboration you are part of? Morgan Bassichis and I talk this through in this video, and you can watch the whole episode on youtube or listen wherever you get podcasts.

Kelly Hayes’ writing and her Movement Memos Podcast episodes about AI have been immensely useful to me and I recommend them. In this clip from our recent conversation, Kelly talks about how AI is emerging in a context of alienation and dehumanization.

In this excerpt from my interview with Mariame Kaba, I talk about how avoidance is a reasonable response to a coercive society, but also can get in our way when it becomes a habit. Watch the whole episode on Youtube or listen wherever you get your podcasts.

@jessicalanyadoo.bsky.social is back answering more listener questions on Part 2 of this AMA episode! Listen wherever you get your podcasts or watch the full episode on YouTube.

In this clip from my recent conversation with David Palumbo-Liu, we talk about the difference between identifying behavior in others and identifying it in ourselves. Listen to the whole episode of Speaking Out of Place wherever you get your podcasts.

Thank you to @zahrastardust.bsky.social for this beautiful review of Love in a F*cked-Up World in @overlandjournal.bsky.social. "Soft and fierce, utopian and practical, inscribed with beauty and strength, Love in a F*cked Up World is both an intervention and a guidebook."

Episode 10 is out! In this episode, I talk to Kelly Hayes, the brilliant journalist and organizer whose writing and podcast so many of us rely on to make sense of the world. Watch on YouTube or listen wherever you get your podcasts.

Join me in Linz, Austria for a mutual aid workshop tomorrow 12-6pm with maiz! Attendance is free and you can register at their website: www.maiz.at/de/bereiche/...

In this clip from Episode 9 of Love in a F*cked Up World, the podcast, the brilliant Weyam Ghadbian talks about whether the prevalence of insecure attachment might stem from the widespread forced displacement generations of people have experience because of colonialism, war, and ecological crisis.

The Berlin Poly Meetup is hosting me for a discussion of Love in a F*cked-Up World on Oct 26. Please join as at 5pm at Lovelite! ❤️

Morgan Bassichis introduced me to the idea that intentionally generating bad ideas for impossible actions, bad poetry, bad writing can loosen the rigid, critical mind that impedes our creativity. Find more content like this and join the conversation on patreon.com/deanspade.

Shuli Branson recently invited me on The Breakup Theory podcast to talk about a listener letter from someone who had a difficult experience with a community accountability process and was left feeling isolated and defeated. You can listen to the whole episode wherever you get podcasts.

Often times, when we’re having heightened feelings in a group or relationship, on some level it feels like life-or-death, even if we logically know its just the dishes or the money or the jealousy or the disagreement in the meeting.

I'll be with @interruptcrim.bsky.social for a conversation about how to advance narratives that undermine authoritarianism and increase solidarity. Join me, @dreanyc123.bsky.social and Lewis Wallen on October 15th, 3pm est! ❤️ ❤️

If you are not in London but want to attend, there is an online/livestream option. Please still register at the link below to get the link! Tickets are free :)

How can you tell when it's time to leave a relationship with a person, project, job, or group? How can you tell if you have a tendency to walk away too fast or to stay too long in relationships?

I'll be presenting some thoughts about work--wage work, housework, care work, organizing work, and all other kinds--at Birkbeck in London on October 10th at 6pm! www.bbk.ac.uk/events/event...