Everyone is chasing something in dating. A spark. A feeling. A connection. But most people want more than one thing. It’s not unreasonable, but it does create a problem…they rely on different neurotransmitters. So...are you a dopamine or a serotonin dater? open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Let’s skip the shame cycle of falling short on resolutions and build habits that actually stick, in an area of life (relationships) that truly matters. How can you build dating habits that actually stick? open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

We all know attachment is important. Do you know what to look for in a partner to avoid the attachment red flags, while noticing and appreciating the green flags of secure attachment? open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

12 Favorite Insights from The Psychology of Relationships... #1 The love that gets you down the aisle, isn’t the same that gets you to your 50th anniversary. #4 Protecting yourself from pain can also prevent you from finding love. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

It’s one of the most important and underrated dating skills: Being able to end a relationship kindly, gently, and without drama. Here’s what to say (with explanations why you’re saying it and strategies if things don’t go well). open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Your ex-partner has come back into your life. What’s the best move? Is this the second chapter of an amazing love story, or just another way to prolong the pain? open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

You need to be confident, but a lot of people fake it. Confidence isn't thinking you’re the best, being popular, or perfect. Confidence is being secure in who you are and knowing that whatever happens, you’ll be ok. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

"Sorry..." It's a people pleaser's favorite word. Though you’re being nice, there's a way to be kinder to yourself. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

When your relationship doesn’t help you become a better person, ending it does. Getting out (even if it’s not you making the ultimate decision) is addition by subtraction. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

The deepest love isn’t the loudest, it’s the kind that happens quietly, behind the scenes, without us even knowing it. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

“We never argue.” A sign of strength or a sign of trouble? Why every couple needs to learn how to argue better… open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Closeness can feel suffocating. Distance also feels threatening. Greater connection means greater vulnerability. Your amazing partner could drift away and be lost forever. Finding the optimal balance of closeness and connection is a challenge for every couple. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

When love means losing yourself, devotion becomes depletion, not connection. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Our partner is supposed to love us for who we are, not who they would rather us be. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Essential lessons, reminders, and realities about modern relationships. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

In dating, everyone focuses on sexual chemistry. Yet, in long-term relationships, emotional chemistry is what really matters. The magic ingredient is appreciation: When partners show love and gratitude, intimacy thrives. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Looks fade. Status shifts. Careers change. Character endures. The surprising science of attraction and relationship success… open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Clarity reveals compatibility. When you know what you want, you see who fits. @psychtoday.bsky.social @psychologytoday.com www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...

Is the idea that getting into a romantic relationship increases well-being a myth? A new MacLab paper says no. And I had so much to say about this work, I started a Substack: The Unromantic. Links for the paper and the Substack in replies.

Don’t seek a perfect relationship, build a resilient one. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

If you look for differences you’ll find them. But if you look for similarities, you’ll find those too. One helps your relationship, while the other makes connection more difficult. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

A situationship is when they're not invested enough to commit, and you're not confident enough to walk away.

Relationships are important. Time is short. You need to get it right. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors…” ― Anaïs Nin What are you missing? The next “course” on Psychology of Relationships starts soon… open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

#9 - Don’t use how someone feels about you to decide how you feel about them. #15 - Long-term relationship happiness relies on compatibility. Your romantic partner should be your best friend. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Every relationship problem has the same initial solution: Communication. psychologyofrelationships.substack.com/p/the-scienc...

"When your relationship doesn’t help you become a better person, ending it does." open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Healthy relationships shouldn’t be hard, but they do take (a little) work. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Relationships are important. Time is short. Get this right. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

You might be dating for the wrong reasons without knowing it. What’s your “why?” @psychologytoday.com www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...

In your relationship, you don’t get to decide whether you cheated or not. Your partner does. Intimacy doesn’t end with an explosion, but more often, with erosion. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

You and your partner have built something together, something that once felt special. Now, your situation isn't ideal, but it's also not a dealbreaker. You’re caught in between. You’re adrift in love. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Every relationship problem has the same solution: Communication. It's critical to build your skills by learning: ▶️ Why You Need to Argue More to Fight Less ▶️ What Are We Fighting About? Top 10 Conflict Triggers ▶️ How Can I Improve Communication During a Conflict?

Interested in psychology? Relationships? How about using those to better navigate the world of dating?

People in fulfilling relationships have more sex. However, having more sex doesn’t guarantee a better relationship. What else do you wish you had learned in Sex Ed?

There’s a lot about attachment you may not know: - What do people get wrong about attachment? - What are the subtle signs of avoidance? - How can you become more secure? open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

The love that gets you down the aisle, isn’t the same that gets you to your 50th anniversary. psychologyofrelationships.substack.com/p/the-scienc...

Letting Go Takes Time: The Science of Missing an Ex | Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...

To find the right person, you have to be the right person. What questions can you answer to boost self-understanding and help get you relationship ready? The latest article from my Psychology of Relationships Substack. open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Is It Just Me? Or, Is This How All Relationships Are? open.substack.com/pub/psycholo...

Singlehood among 20-30-year-olds is on the rise, but societal expectations to partner can undermine singlehood. Here are tips to support singlehood thriving. Ft. @gmacdonalduoft.bsky.social @a-fisher.bsky.social @bdennett.bsky.social @hannahdupuis.bsky.social, Yoobin Park, Elyakim Kislev and more!!

I teach a wildly popular relationships course at my university—but tuition’s steep, seats are limited, and yeah… there are exams. With Psychology of Relationships tuition is affordable (free), seating is unlimited, and everyone gets an A. psychologyofrelationships.substack.com

What matters most in love isn't the months you can count but the quality of the moments spent together. @psychologytoday.com www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...

3 Ways You Self-Sabotage Due to Fear of Rejection: 1) Putting Up Walls 2) Relying on Fate 3) Being Too Picky

This is a must-listen for parents of teens and, honestly, anyone with emotions. @adamgrant.bsky.social podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/w...

So many of the dating mistakes you’ve made aren’t even your own. Instead, you’re making decisions based on well-intentioned but misinformed advice.

Everyone thinks they're marrying the perfect partner. When they're getting divorced, no one can believe they ever thought that.

What if relationship boredom is really just mastery? Predictability, reliability, dependability, and stability can feel boring but are cornerstones of quality relationships.

I hadn't seen a Relationship Science starter pack so I made one. Please suggest additions or let me know if you have been unfairly tarred with a relationship science brush. go.bsky.app/CyN3fkq

A gratitude shift means consciously focusing on what's good instead of dwelling on what's missing. Here's why it makes such a positive difference in relationships... #gratitude www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-...