Off to Athens! Jealous? Maybe a little. My second Greek trip. First was 1978. With my ma. Took a turtleboat. Ferry. Brindisi to Aqua. Cattle call. Spent 10 days on corfu. $200 10 days. Couldnt drink the water. Drink ouzo they said! But you’re so young! We water it down! Ketamine dreams from my youth

On the subject of growth and being self aware and evolved, I just texted a friend “Not many men my age could handle the man I was at that age. Nor would they want to.” Challenge yourselves. We’re not there yet. May never be. Baby steps every day.

Happy birthday Harvey Milk! 👑 May 22, 1930-Nov 27, 1978. Harvey was the first openly Gay politician elected to California public office in 1977. He was assassinated in 1978. Milk’s thirst traps sourced from the California Historical Society archives at the San Francisco Public Library.

Someone I love came out to thier mama today. It’s never too late to live your authentic self. It was all very anticlimactic. Gay boys and our mamas can usually have a bond unmatched. I say usually because I know a few it’s gone the other way. Stay safe. I was a lucky one. So are many I love.

Y’all, it’s Memorial Day weekend in Chicago, that means it’s IML. Men. In leather. You may want to re-think your deodorant and cologne hygiene only rules. Not that all leathermen are into natural scent, but mostly.

Wanna see something fun? Cruise Sniffies at the Congress Hahaha Have ALL the fun!

So my straight boy Jack got married to a woman. He’s a great guy. I hope he gets all the love and success and happiness he deserves. I hope he finds his peace and is living his truth. She got a great one.

Apparently Steamworks by 8 on Thursday is the move for kicking off Memorial Day weekend, IML and the Grabby’s. Chicago gonna Chicago Have fun y’all!

I’m off to Europe on Saturday. Y’all have fun at IML 13 is apparently my limit. I’ll toast yall with ouzo feta tomatoes and lamb from the beaches of Crete.

It’s been in front of me this entire time. I finally saw it. Here we go. Let’s fuckin do this. Step 1 I’m excited.

Go be a boy! I say this a lot to my younger friends. It began as “Go be a cat!” back in Boise about 1998 when my roommate Gail had a 18lb yellow tabby named Nick who was not allowed outside, despite living in a very cat safe area because Gail was worried “he will get hurt”.

Met a beautiful sexy built kinky Pup this week and really connected. Unfortunately he’s moving soon. As we got to know each other he related he had not gotten the best impression of Chicago. He was very sexual and kinky and the people he had made friends with were not.

Being FaceTimed by @tzoops.bsky.social and his love while I’ve got a mouthful of cock and balls was the comedy highlight of my evening. “Ooooooh. Ooookayyyy. I’ll call back later” My partner even laughed.

Plumber working on a different unit just went off on me. If ya know me you are well aware intimidation and toxic masculinity doesn’t work on me. If you’ve known me long enough you’re also well aware of my past mastery of both intimidation and toxic masculinity.

My favorite cock came by. He’s the man who loves getting oral as much as I like giving. We went for 3 hours. He’s super directive and verbal. While I was blowing him he was shouting “THIS IS HISTORIC! THIS IS THE BEST BLOWJOB OF MY LIFE!! YOU’VE OPTIMIZED EVERYTHING! I NEVER WANT IT TO END!” 💅🤤🥰

Check in on your people tonight. Horrid news about people we know. Send love.

Tonight someone told me that a compliment I gave them 25 years ago stuck with them. And they thanked me. This has happened multiple times in the last 5-10 years. Sometimes the impact is small, others it’s much larger. In every case I remember giving the compliment and thinking very little of it.

More kink in 2026

Put toothpaste on my toothbrush and caught the edge on the bristles and it flicked Crest into my eye.

Waiting for my sniffies trade

When my mom got older one of the things she did consistently was tell me who died. I found it kind of morbid. As I approach my senior years I find myself weirdly fascinated with people who’ve died much younger than me. Stevie Ray Vaughn died at 35? So and so just died at 50? On and on.

Husband has been gone a week. Miss him so much. Two weeks until I see him. Ya can’t spend 20 years with someone and not have them be part of you.

This Mother’s Day text anyone you’ve ever put a load into “Happy Mother’s Day”

One nation, under Leather.

RIP Great Head

It’s really astonishing to me how many bottoms are so rigid in only hooking up with tops for penetrative sex only. They will see someone they are attracted to and if they are another bottom they instantly discount any hookup because it doesn’t involve a dick in them. I was 90% top for 35 years.

This is 100% true

Living in Boystown, the gay neighborhood in Lakeview all us gays have main character syndrome and all the straights are NPCs.

This morning the man who loves getting his dick sucked as much as I love sucking came by for a 3 hour session. At one point he yelled “you’ve achieved perfection!” Granted we’ve been doing this for a while, he’s very directive about what feels best so I’m not only relying on reading him.

The boy came over for a movie and sleepover. He just passed out on my chest on the couch. It’s like when my cat/dog fell asleep on me and I didn’t want to move bc I didn’t want to wake them. So atm I’m on the couch with a beautiful man cuddling me. Life is good.

just a quickie. didnt wanna get caught 👀

It’s common knowledge hubs and I don’t really share much in who we are attracted to. We have some crossover but less than would be expected. Add in the factor of the ones that we are both into being into both of us and the venn diagram circles barely touch.

The boy I’ve been hanging out with the last 9 months works where he meets a lot of gay daddies. He’s super outgoing, tall, great body and hung af. All top. When we hang he’s always asking me about some daddy, if I know them and such. He’s got some wild stories about some of them.

For about the last 10 years when I’m on Grindr once a month or so someone will randomly say “can I ask you a question?” And it’s something to do with the struggles of coming out or accepting themselves or sexuality etc. It’s usually someone struggling with being gay, not wanting to be gay, etc.

The boy came over and got it right. Huge one right where it’s supposed to be.

Man came over for head. When he came he pulled out and shot in my face. And my eye. I stg if I get pink eye..

WTF just happened near the Aragon in Uptown?

I get shot down as much as anyone, and as I get older it’s much more apparent than at my peak. I am confident in my appearance so this isn’t about that, unlike my younger years where I now look back and say “whoa”. I am a firm believer in “no answer is an answer” and do not take it personally.

Husband and I looking for someone to share on a late Monday night is like trying to decide on a restaurant. A restaurant that has to decide if it wants the both of us as customers too. 😭😭😭

Old hetero buddy sent this to me. Early 90s. Me in my early 20s. On the right. Looking every bit like my heritage then.

I just overheard my first “I can’t wait til Market Days!”” I’m like “Bitch! Cinco de Mayo is TUESDAY! Stop rushing summer!” Market Days marks the beginning of the end of summer, don’t anticipate for it, don’t wish for it, enjoy summer (which hasn’t even begun yet!). Market Days will happen.

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This is the worst way to open a conversation with me. I was going to ignore him then I remembered I know how to ruin a conversation.

Had a boy crush on the hot af fem boy from the store for like 6 months. Saw him on the apps and chatted with him. He’s adorably sweet too. Makes me happy queers like him exist.

Well I just fan-girled out on Nick from Matteo Lanes show on the apps. So yah, I’m still 13. 🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻

The number of times I’ve scrolled @grindr.bsky.social and accidentally touched the “right now” button is insane. I suggest a confirmation screen. I’ve wasted most of the ones I get when I’m only swiping.

I still see “Sub Bottom No Limits” on the apps. I’ll say it again, you most definitely have limits. I get the idea of wanting to be no limits but truth is, if you’re part of the BDSM community you have and discuss limits. “No limits” is a giant red flag to me.

This is me at 14. I wasn’t comfortable with my looks, I thought I was ugly af. Then me at 30. I didn’t think I was ugly but didn’t think I was handsome. Then me at 36. I thought I was fat. I’d pay to be that fat again. Then me at 57. I think I’m pretty handsome there. Be kind to yourself

When I see my friends doing well I am Tormund Giantsbane celebrating Brianne of Tarth being knighted. I think I get more excited than them.