Today, Lauren is reading a story submitted to us by one of our followers, with their permission. To share your story, visit us on Reddit at r/iknowwhyshestayed, or reach out via DM on this platform. www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8fkENr7/

Todays bit of Monday Mood Music… 
God of War by SkyxDaddy “Hate me Go ahead and hate me You think you can break me down, down to my core Impostors, making me a monster Time to bloody up my sword Like the god of war You're making me, you're making me The god of war”

Domestic abuse does not end in the home. Abusers, especially those in positions of authority, often go out into the world and continue to exhibit these behaviors to other women. (1/2)

Coercive Control s defined as a pattern of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim. (1/3)

Happy New Year! Here’s to another year of the journey. May 2026 bring healing and growth. We thank you for your endless support. We’ve got big plans to continue spreading awareness and assistance to our community! Stay safe and remember you are a uniquely beautiful soul. See you next year!

Boundaries are so important to set in all of your relationships to make sure they remain healthy and flourish. When boundaries are violated, this can be a very strong indicator of abusive relationship. . . #boundaries #boundariesarehealthy #boundariesmatter #iknowwhyshestayed #authorsagainstabuse


We’re so proud of the work we’re doing, and we’re so grateful to get to help people like this respondent to our case study. 
2026 will be a big year for us, but we need your help. We’re plugging away daily on making our program available to those who really need it. (1/3)

Sorry we haven’t posted in a while. Our team has been hard at work. Check out our computer screens! Kasey (with a surprise came from newbie author Baby Bella) has been hard at work on a Case for Support to help us bring in bigger donors who can help us with our mission. (1/3)

When you’re healing from abuse, it is often necessary to break some of the patterns your abuser left you with. This writing exercise can help you to reframe these negative ideas and see the more positive truths. Give it a try. Feel free to share, if you’re comfortable.

This #givingtuesday, please, join our campaign to launch Beyond Survival: A Four-Pillar Program to Rise & Rebuild. Our program helps victims of financial abuse heal, while guiding them through strengthening their sense of self & taking charge of a life free from financial trauma. gofund.me/44f0cf0b1

On November 25th, join I Know Why She Stayed, Authors Against Abuse, The Wilde Foundation, Sanctuary 4 Sisterhood, and She is Me Global, for the United Nation's International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women and Girls as we campaign against gender-based violence.

Today, we stand with the women of South Africa for the G20 Shutdown as they demonstrate the economic and social impact of their absence. Gender-Based Violence and Femicide is a Global issue, and we demand it be treated seriously. womenforchange.co.za/g20-women-sh...

This article sets up a great framework for protecting yourself from financial abuse. www.fidelity.com/learning-cen...

We stand by survivors. We see you. We hear you. We believe you. . . . . . #believesurvivors #sexualassault #sexualabuse #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #childabuse #genderbasedviolence #iknowwhyshestayed #authorsagainstabuse #artistsagainstabuse #financialabuse

Last weekend was our Music & Messages Event. Thank you to all those who joined us and shared their stories and congratulations to Mariah and her basket giveaway win. (1/2)

In this moving episode of Alexa Haddock’s Publishing Chat, Alexa speaks with our very own Kasey Rogers, K. J. “Kat” Harrowick, and Justine Manzano about using storytelling and authorship to change how the world understands domestic and financial abuse. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/p...

Tomorrow, November 2, 2025 at 1pm, we’ll be at “Music and Messages,” an exciting event featuring readings by Pam Ellis, The Berkshire Medium, and music by musician Lita Williams. Expect insightful messages, rocking good music, and door prizes galore! iknowwhyshestayed.org/events/music...

Who is the man behind the mask? You may never know. This Halloween, we want to remind you that abusers often wear masks. At first, they seem charismatic and kind. To others, they may seem like pillars of the community. But masks come off. Believe survivors.

Every month, we send out an informative and helpful newsletter, with facts and activities to help you to process and move forward from your abuse, and ways you can help yourself and others who have struggled and are struggling. Sign up here: iknowwhyshestayed.org/get-started/

We’re teaming up with Karma Klub, a Las Vegas–based nonprofit focused on preventing domestic violence. They are currently running a short survey to collect data that will help identify red flags earlier. Survey link: csunsbs.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_4VplneYmCYW8dN4

Do you have a story you need to share? Do you want to hear from others who are struggling through a similar situation? Listen to our newest team member, Lauren Clover talk about our newest venture — r/iknowwhyshestayed on Reddit. Join our community there! www.reddit.com/r/iknowwhysh...

And of course, if you just want to learn about #authorsagainstabuse and @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social - you can always visit the website or subscribe to our newsletters: iknowwhyshestayed.org/get-started/

Available now, you can purchase one (or both!) of the prize calendars for our Authors Against Abuse fundraiser. Calendars are $10 each for November or December. Or you can purchase both for $20! (1/2)

I've been a bit silent on socials lately so it's time to introduce myself again for all my new followers. ❤️ I'm K. J. Harrowick (Kat), a SFF author who also lingers in nonfiction. By day I'm the co-founder and CTO of @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social - at night I roam the dark halls of strange worlds.

In honor of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we would like to share our workshop at @writehive.bsky.social ‘s annual writing conference about how Writing to Heal helped us in surviving and coping with our trauma and how you can use it to help you. 

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ghz3...

We talk about financial abuse of spouses often, but elder financial abuse is such a terrible crime. Learn more here: www.fidelity.com/learning-cen... #elderabuse

We heard a rumor…that there’s an awesome new event coming to the Berkshires! 

Join musician Lita Williams and The Berkshire Medium, Pam Ellis, for Music and Messages! All proceeds will go to our I Know Why She Stayed Initiative. iknowwhyshestayed.org/news-and-eve...

Self-Care is so important to rebuilding your life, finding your strength, and helping to lift the effects of gaslighting and coercive control. You can’t stand up against an abuser if you haven’t taken care of yourself. Find little ways, quiet ways to take care of yourself. You deserve it.

Join Survivor Voices and I Know Why She Stayed for the #Hearourvoices campaign started by the Survivor Voices team! Your voice is essential to this fight. Learn more @survivor_voices on the picture app! www.tiktok.com/t/ZT6opkNHG/

Trailblazers Against Domestic Abuse: Erin Pizzey founded the first women’s refuge shelter, Chiswick Women’s Refuge in 1971. She had no resources beyond a run-down derelict house she was able to get from the city with four rooms, a galley kitchen, and a toilet. (1/2)

Neo-Soul today with Gas Light by Kianja. youtu.be/Tbt8wsUKJCc?...

If you’re not already subscribed to our newsletter, sign up! It contains monthly insights to help you tackle your trauma and move forward. This month, we’re sharing Tips for Effective Grounding. iknowwhyshestayed.org/get-started/

I Know Why She Stayed and Authors Against Abuse are currently gathering donations for use in an upcoming prize raffle calendar. Do you have something that you think would be a good prize that you’d like to donate? DM me here, and thank you in advance! #iknowwhyshestated #domesticabuseawareness

Excited to share that our co-founder, Kasey Rogers, will be speaking at SheIsMe at Sea, October 11–15, 2025. This women’s leadership retreat brings together visionaries and changemakers to rise, heal, and lead — stronger together. 🌊✨ Join her onboard: www.SheIsMeAtSea.com #SheIsMeAtSea

Diving into this read, acquired during our recent trip to ALA 2025, Touch Me, I’m Sick: A Memoir in Essays by Margeaux Feldman. I’m only just starting it, but it is incredibly intriguing and has so much to do with our mission. (1/3)

Control is abuse. Abuse comes in many forms. Staying informed is essential.

Yep--the stranger leaps out of the bushes is a way to ignore how in a way it takes a village to rape a person, all the enablers, excusers, cover-up aides, defense lawyers, NDA laws, indifferent legal system, clueless journalists treating each act as isolated rather than part of a pattern....

She gets it. This is an epidemic.

Our Director of Operations, @justinemanzano.bsky.social was featured in Bold Journey, talking about how musical theatre helped her build confidence, the many projects the writer/editor/advocate has going on, and the skills that have helped her in her journey. boldjourney.com/meet-justine...

Have you signed up for our newsletter? We’re launching a new version of our official newsletter on August 1st featuring, among other tidbits, our personal recipe for a self-care kit. iknowwhyshestayed.org/get-started/

I Know Why She Stayed and Authors Against Abuse co-founder Kasey Rogers delivered the opening speech at the H&F Writers' Festival on 7.19.2025. This speech is a call to action to join our mission. If we work together, we can make a difference in ending domestic abuse globally. youtu.be/iae68l2dqSs

One of the most insidious things an abuser does is force you to lose trust in yourself. Through isolation and their own behavior, they make you lose trust in your own judgment. Through gaslighting, they make you lose trust in your understanding of reality. (1/2)

On July 19th, co-founder Kasey Rogers will be one of the opening speakers at @hfwritersfest in the UK, there with a call to action to our arts and author community. That’s the kickoff to a full day of live writing events! www.handfwritersfestival.co.uk

Our co-founder @kjharrowick.bsky.social was featured in Bold Journey Magazine, talking about life, finding her way through trauma with salsa, chickens, dragons, and working on I Know What She Stayed. 

boldjourney.com/meet-k-j-har...

Come hang out with our co-founders @kaseyrogers.bsky.social & @kjharrowick.bsky.social along w/ Director of Operations @justinemanzano.bsky.social ! We’ll be talking about writing to heal at this year’s @writehive.bsky.social Conference on Sunday at 1pm ET. Sign up at writehivecon.org to join!

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