Karen Ollis, Flow Lady (@karenollis.bsky.social)

Survivor Music | DARVO DARVO — Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender DARVO is one of the most calculated tactics pathological abusers use to seize control of the narrative. What they do is deny what happened, attack the credibility of the victim, and then reverse roles to present themselves as the one harmed. Why they do it is to silence, discredit, and erase anyone who threatens their power. How they do it is through reputational warfare that twists truth until nothing feels certain. For victims, DARVO feels like standing on quicksand. The truth is denied outright. Their character is attacked until doubt spreads through families, workplaces, and institutions. And when the roles are reversed, victims find themselves accused of the very harm they endured. The real offender walks away wearing their story as a mask. On a larger scale, DARVO appears in courtrooms, boardrooms, and political arenas. Pathological abusers use it to silence whistleblowers, rewrite events, and keep the public confused. Deny. Attack. Reverse. It works because once the narrative is stolen, accountability disappears. For victims, DARVO is not just manipulation. It is erasure. It leaves them isolated, disbelieved, and forced to defend themselves against a story that was never theirs. ℗ Cindy Ann Pedersen 2024 Survivor Music: Cindy Ann Pedersen | Award-Winning Songwriter Pathological Abuse Specialist | Advocate Connect: BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/cindyannpedersen.com YouTube: youtube.com/@CindyAnnPedersen Substack: https://cindyannpedersen.substack.com/ Website: https://www.cindyannpedersen.com/ Also featured on: We Resist Web Radio Collective: https://weresistradio.com/cindy-ann-pedersen/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/63zLgna4ymVAZTgyDXl4Xf Apple: https://music.apple.com/sg/artist/cindy-ann-pedersen/1778349950 ..available on most streaming platforms. Note: Pathological abuse serves as the umbrella term to encompass various manipulative behaviors and abuse tactics rooted in personality traits and disorders specifically associated with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD), with or without psychopathy. The terms “narcissist,” “sociopath,” and “psychopath” may be used for clarity. These traits would meet the criteria for clinical diagnosis if formally assessed. Simplified language helps explain these tactics without requiring clinical expertise. #SurvivorMusic #PathologicalAbuse #NameIt #Music #Narcissist #Sociopath #Psychopath #IndieMusic #Songwriter #DARVO #musicthatmatters https://youtu.be/SZWaOHG0zh4?si=iT13JZbyzAZAEBtQ