It’s really fucking hard to hold on to unlearning bad lessons when the world keeps finding new ways to show me how valid they are. Because I am so so tired of asking for what I want meaning I lose what I have.

Merry Christmas from my leg day at a gym very much not built for big boys…I may be using every single 45 they have. 🤣

There is very little wrong with the world that a lazy morning snuggling in bed with a beautiful man and a dog cannot make feel better.

Can we just take a moment to bask in how hot @leatherboyteddy.bsky.social is?

You’d think since I work in an industry where I talk and think about death every day, it would get easier when it touches my life.

The fact that my face decided to break out *right before* I get to see my boyfriend for the first time in a month is just fucking cruel.

Ooooh. Who do I get to see in this next of many many Detroit trips this year?

The best thing about dating someone new and wonderful and completely different from you taste-wise is getting exposed to music you’d not otherwise encounter. I’ve listened to more male vocalists in the last eight weeks than I have in the last eight *years* and I’m very ok with that.

Well, got myself an Associate Director title today.

In the middle of an awful day about violence against my people that I cannot help or control, that a huge portion of the folks I otherwise find community with turn a blind eye to, finding the AirPod that dropped out of my ear on the way to the gym made me break down in relief. It’s hard out here.

Been working on a jock for T, and in the space of one workout it went from “huh, this isn’t happening” to “oh, I can smell myself through my sweats, maybe it’s time to rethink this at the gym.” 🐽😈

Please tell me I’m not the only one who gets “Welcome to Derry” and “Derry Girls” mixed up in my head…

The future looked so bright 7 years ago. Little did I know (how bright the future was, it would just take a bit to arrive) Also, remember when I used to shave my back???

Noxious, reporting for stabbing duty. Watch along starting at noon eastern at m.twitch.tv/adventures_i...

Flying out today to get things started for Adventures in Leather! Hump your way over to ko-fi.com/adventuresin... to help support us and SPARTA PRIDE.

Um. My man’s work is all up in a magazine, y’all. So proud of @leatherboyteddy.bsky.social and the work he did for @fdaddylondon.bsky.social - cause like. Look at that hotness perfectly captured. www.attitude.co.uk/attitude-lov...

You ready for dinner, kiddo?

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Book. This. Boy. He captures people at their absolute best with an eye that just cannot be fucking beat. www.leatherboyteddy.com

I’m glad I remember to schedule leg days for days i have the highest level of anxiety to sacrifice to the iron.

Sometimes a snow day is the perfect day to get chores done. Like clearing out the FOUR THOUSAND photos in your “screenshots” folder.

When your mustache is basically a snowplow.

First cocktail poured (after two slutty mimosas with breakfast.) Happy Thanksgiving, kiddos!!!!

I’m the kind of person who wakes up early on a holiday because I don’t want to miss out on a second of it. I’m a gay man of the 80s and I didn’t expect to live into my 30s much less my 40s and I’m just not willing to waste time.

That feel when taking a day off the gym to make sure you actually recover from the sinus infection/cold that absolutely destroyed you earlier this week is the best choice but also feels like the woooooorst.

Fuck - and I cannot express this enough - that bullshit in a can.

Just viscerally reacted to something that happened to family as a dog dad, and it took me a second to remember that I am not, technically, currently a dog dad and that still just feels so fucking weird.

On December 6, I’ll be in Baltimore with some very cool folks for ADVENTURES IN LEATHER, playing D&D and raising funds for SPARTA, which supports trans servicemembers. Join in person or virtually, and you can be part of the fun to help - or hinder - us at: ko-fi.com/adventuresin...

WICKED: FOR GOOD thoughts: it takes all the problems that exist in the second act of the musical and makes them worse, but I will always bawl at “For Good” and Ariana absolutely destroyed me.

Headed into the office after a truly heinous night of non-sleep; have a humidifier on the way to hopefully solve half of the problem and working on ways to calm anxiety-brain before bed so it doesn’t require wrestling down. Girding my loins to tackle the day - sending y’all strength to do the same.

The thing I love about getting older is realizing how many chances I have to come to the same crossroads and make different choices. Sometimes because I’ve learned better and can be kinder and more generous - sometimes because I just want to try something new. There are almost no only opportunities.

I just only semi-ironically said “Once you’ve had Danger, you’ll never want a stranger,” and yes, I am deeply ashamed and proud in equal measure.

There’s a word we used to say. They don’t let you say it anymore, but I think it’s a beautiful word. We call it: dialectic. You have the thesis, and then the antithesis, and if you put them together it’s a synthesis. Very powerful. We’ll be looking into that. Very materialist, the theory of history

Good night, all you lovely people in my phone. Thanks for making the world a little bit better. It may seem inconsequential but it’s what makes life matter.

First full session of a new monk-campaign with mostly brand-new players tonight. I love new players whose indignations aren’t limited by mechanics.

So, @lthrroxxel.bsky.social made this absolutely gorgeous piece of @leatherboyteddy.bsky.social and me for my birthday and I’m just in fucking awe.

45 trips around the sun today. Grateful for the lessons each and every one of them has taught me, for the folks who have come into my orbit, no matter how. For late nights and early morning, laughter and tears. For the hard times that make me cherish the wins. For a life that keeps surprising me.

It’s always nice when I tell a story that I got gaslit about and get a “no, that’s fucked up.” Validation. It’s what’s for dinner.

Laptop decided it needed to do a half hour of updates this morning. That’s it the world telling me to go back to bed - and the man in it - right?

#18daysofgratitude: friends who understood the assignment.

…do people not know that straight men talk about other straight men sucking *other* straight men’s dicks all the time? Like is this a Straight Culture joke that people just don’t get? Or is it just our weird misogyny and homophobia that makes a joke about fellatio the thing people latch onto?

What’s the German word for the small joy you get from other people independently realizing someone is the asshole you’ve always known they were?

Today’s #fcf is waiting for a very good boy.

#14Daysofgratitude, little mistakes edition: Grateful for the second cup of coffee the folks at CBA poured me by mistake post-fasted doctor’s appt.

happy Partially Muscled Skeleton Stands by the Perimeter Fence and Screams for Thirty Seconds Before Vanishing day

#18DaysofGratitude, winetime edition. Grateful to these two humans, @voltronchris.bsky.social and @fittenorpup.bsky.social for their deep and abiding friendship especially over this last year as we l navigated a shitton of life. Wouldn’t have made it without. Grateful for nights of wine and music

You ever look at folks you know and think “I’m just grateful I’ve had that in my presence?” Like. Grateful. 🤤

The petty in me loves being exactly involved enough to know who folks are vaguebooking/subskeeting about without feeling any need to deal with it in any way beyond a raised eyebrow.

#18daysofgratitude, little treats edition - glad I got a poke moment for lunch with @fittenorpup.bsky.social in the middle of an absolutely slammed first day in the office this week.

#18daysofgratitude - grateful for a nap in my own bed after a long day.

I’m drinking an old fashioned in a basement bar in Milwaukee, where they are playing Kylie and playing the Packers/Eagles game on the tvs. This is the most fucking Danger moment.