today spoon would have turned 12. i can't put into words how much i miss him. roll has been extra clumsy today. she has tried to get comfortable on my lap and fallen off three times, but each time she gets back up purring and drooling on my leg. i needed that.

people who decry political violence while also cheerleading the military being deployed on innocent people should really take a step back and think about what they’re saying they won’t, but they should

fudge.

i bought two and a half pounds of wasabi and soy sauce almonds. i am making good choices.

some roller derby ephemera as i clean my storage boxes: the meal vouchers for announcers at WFTDA playoffs. since these are laminated and don’t denote a specific event, i guess i was supposed to return these. whoops.

it's a great day

maintenance guy was in to check something in my kitchen. he asks me why i have six boxes of cereal on top of my refrigerator. i say "because there isn't room for a seventh". judging by the look on his face, he'll be thinking about that all weekend.

"they're out of bucatini," my shopper says. "is angel hair acceptable?" i can't say it is, jeff. i can't say it is.

it has been an incredibly depressing year.

yesssssssss

over here writing the country song of my life and it’s basically “they took the gelatin out of my gummy vitamins and now i can’t hold myself together”

sometimes in life you just gotta order twelve pints of ice cream

somewhere i assume @dinosaurdracula.bsky.social is smiling

spoon's ashes arrived today, and bursting into tears in front of a mail carrier never gets less awkward (it also came with a sympathy card and nose print, and i'm practically inconsolable)

roll hasn't had dry food in two years because she's had to eat what spoon ate, since the two of them would switch bowls mid-feeding she's losing her mind over having something other than grain-free chicken pate. like taking a bite and looking at me with eyes that say "MAMA THE FLAVORS"

something that is sticking out big time… spoon was very needy, clingy. he loved being hugged, carried, cuddled. roll is pretty independent. she’ll climb into a lap, but don’t dare try to pick her up. it’s not a bad thing, it just stands out more with spoon gone. hopefully i can adjust.

a thread below, because i'm emotional, and i need to do something to let it out, and i think i'm out of tears. like literally, my eyes hurt.

my sweet boy. my handsome man. my buddy, my shadow, my goofball. i’ll love you forever. spoon madison september 28, 2013 - july 11, 2025

i am trying to hold it together and i am not doing a very good job of that

i may have had a rotten few days but i taught my daughter how to make chocolate malts, so really, did i have a rotten few days?

imagine if, ten years ago, we as a society decided instead of "you can just google it", we decided to share our experiences, to teach. help people understand instead of letting them assume. maybe we'd still be ruined but would things be this cruel?

i got asked today if i was jealous of mothers i said “uh why would i be” “well because you’re trans” “… i have a 24 year old daughter?” “…” “good talk, i’m gonna walk away now”

who gives a fuck

i finally got around to buying some pickle crisp and after this latest batch of pickles i made, i regret not buying it sooner. my gosh.

i'll give you a twofer 1) i once delivered a pizza to colin farrell (nice, tipped well) 2) i accidentally stepped on ric flair's shoe

what nobody tells you about getting an aneurysm is that every headache starts a wave of panic. OH GOD IS IT ANOTHER ONE no it’s just a normal headache BUT IT COULD BE SHOULD WE GO TO THE DOCTOR calm down and see how you feel in an hour BUT MY VEINNNNNNNS i may die from the stress.

more bands should make music videos for their older songs www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJ54...

and i just disabled my monthly NPR donation. good work, steve.

Said to me in my morning huddle: “you have to understand, if you do your job well, other people who don’t do their jobs get upset that you make them look bad. If you piss off enough of them, they might try to drive you out.” It felt familiar.

every time i see people complaining that people aren’t posting enough about their plans to stop [insert whatever here] i just immediately assume they’re a cop fishing for details

my theory to this is that target saw how similar boycotts in the past had gone (read: failure in terms of long term impact due to limited scope of boycott length) and figured their customer base would fold to habits, especially since most of these intentionally only last a day.

i can tell i'm getting old when some of the medications being advertised on wheel of fortune sound like something that i might need to take in a few years

every gender transition is a statement in favor of human possibility and freedom and i’m tired of hearing it talked about like it’s some kind of disease

someday i hope to have this much grace, especially when dealing with someone mad about pasta

i see things went moderately okay in the home and native land last night. good job, y’all.

finally got around to listening to the new japanese breakfast album, and speaking as someone whose favorite smashing pumpkins album was adore i’ve never been happier

i got my big salad today, all is well

i wanted a big salad but everywhere i can get a big salad is closed today because of some kind of zombie rabbit who died for our chocolates or somesuch

every time i wonder why i occasionally get raspy voice after four hours of meetings, i have to remember that 15+ years of announcing plus another 10+ years of public performance did my throat no favors

Nonbinary intersex activist Jim Sinclair on Sally Jesse Raphael's show in 1989

good news everyone i am baking peanut butter brownies

i have friends who wonder why i like paris hilton so much, and aside from that she genuinely seems like she's grown up a lot in the last decade or two, she's doing stuff like this when she absolutely doesn't have to deadline.com/2025/03/pari...

good news: last day of work week! bad news: have to go get blood drawn tomorrow! 😵‍💫

my bestie @ericajvanstone.bsky.social is doing things because she's great and i'm so proud of her and i have no idea why this link saying she wrote a book isn't previewing properly but she wrote a book and ahhhhhhh i'm excited for her www.instagram.com/p/DIMRJ-hpy_...

happy rex manning day to those who celebrate

just look at scottie’s face. he doesn’t believe in this juice.

i have an unreasonable amount of chocolate milk because i have a long week ahead

darn. shucks. fudge. heck. 🤷🏻‍♀️

yeah i was already pretty in on switch 2 but giving me gamecube locked me in. especially since mine’s broken.