New essay out on desirability + deformity, marriage rights in disability, “silver divorces” and partner abandonment in illness: theimpairingcurse.substack.com/p/do-us-part

"Stag photographed with wire wrapped around antlers” by the incomparable Tolu Oloruntoba @tolu.ca for today’s Poetry Pause @canadianpoets.bsky.social

New essay out on desirability + deformity, marriage rights in disability, “silver divorces” and partner abandonment in illness: theimpairingcurse.substack.com/p/do-us-part

For @thesicktimes.org, I looked at the state of COVID safety in live music and how artists and event producers can still protect themselves and audiences thesicktimes.org/2026/02/17/t...

I miss the mid 2010s internet when I could post a complaint thread on how new purposebuilt rent in my city is 25% higher than private landlords renting condos and every building offers 2 months off instead of lowering $$ and housing policy wonks/economists would jump into the thread to explain why.

theimpairingcurse.substack.com/p/dont-worry... oh @nisamalli.bsky.social HIT with this piece

Last year, the universe sent me a message: it told me to start going to queer raves, and so I did. It’s been a good time! I wrote a retrospective on 2024, the year I discovered that I like dancing, plus reflections on parenting, music, fascism, fashion, and trans joy: okayfail.com/2024/my-year...

New essay out on babygirls, babyfication, adhd babies, trauma babies, adulthood, adulting, t-boys, girlhood, hot girl summers, responsibilization and responsibility, conditional whiteness, and why our present moment is more Watership Down than Beatrix Potter: open.substack.com/pub/theimpai...

“He spoke in the idiom of today’s New York, with its neighborhoods of more recent arrivals. He went on Subway Takes and passed out sweets for Diwali in Jackson Heights, and showed up at the queer dance party Papi Juice to ask for votes.”

“Diligent injury prevention doesn’t address the root cause of Rec League Dysmorphia. The ghost of my adolescent self will always be there, beating me to the ball, unencumbered concepts such as paying for health insurance & Microsoft Teams”@outsidemag.bsky.social www.outsideonline.com/culture/love...

"For me, podcasts were patient companions who didn’t mind repeating themselves...They kept me company when I was too sick to leave the house." @nisamalli.bsky.social tells us about the cognitive impacts of Long COVID, and how she used podcasts to recover. this.org/2023/12/19/h...

Every single page of @arabellesicardi.bsky.social’s House of Beauty so far has contained a horrifying interesting fact I did not know about the beauty industry and also now I can’t stop thinking about how evil the term “beauty” “industry” is.

It’s v apt that a video on how Zygmunt Bauman’s book Liquid Modernity predicted the modern situationship that brought me back to text-based social media but here we go. Because where else can I gripe that actually Bauman predicted the modern situationship in his lesser known sequel Liquid Love?