The capacity to be alone depends on the sense of being held psyche.co/ideas/the-ca... The overwhelm of grief and parenthood showed me what psychoanalysis assumes – we need to be held to feel safe in solitude. Psyche Idea by @elizabethdyerphd.bsky.social @psyche.co

Solitude can feel profoundly restorative. But, when overwhelmed by responsibility and grief, the psychotherapist Elizabeth Dyer found that being alone didn’t provide respite anymore. This gentle Idea proposes that for solitude to feel restorative, we need to feel held by our environment

My new essay for @thenation.com, “The Nap Room Didn’t Love Me Back,” is about leaving academia postpartum for big tech and what happens when your job becomes your welfare system. When care is routed through work, it is not guaranteed. It reshapes how we attach and what we tolerate

I wrote about Winnicott, structural abandonment, and why the capacity to be alone depends on being held by people, and by institutions that actually show up. psyche.co/ideas/the-ca...

REMINDER: THE USPS IS NOT SUPPOSED TO BE A BUSINESS THAT IS MAKING MONEY. IT IS A CONSTITUTIONALLY PROTECTED ENTITY FOR THE PEOPLE.

I wrote about aspirational pantries, hidden domestic labor, and the fantasy of “effortless” homes for Dwell, with illustrations by Irene Chung and edits by Sarah Buder www.dwell.com/article/the-...

Psychotherapist and writer Elizabeth Dyer argues that, in a climate change future, maybe we should look at the mall in a new way: as bunkers.

Excited to share a new article of mine on menopause, drawn from my on-going research in clinical psychology. I argue it’s a major developmental transition on par with puberty, shaped by culture as much as biology. Grateful for anyone who takes a look! www.zmescience.com/feature-post...