Coming out isn’t the finish line — it’s the start of unlearning survival. ✨ Download the free worksheet to track how shame, racism, grief, and expectations shape your mental health. Link in bio. #queermentalhealth #mentalhealth #lgbtqia #healingjourney #rahimthawer

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You’re not broken — you’ve been surviving systems that were never built for you. Find your power. Download the free worksheet to name your mental health drivers. Link in bio.

“Set to take effect in July, the policy is aimed primarily at organizations that work with immigrants and transgender youth.” www.pbs.org/newshour/edu...

You came out — but the shame didn’t leave. Find out why and start healing. 👉 Grab your free worksheet to identify where shame still hides in your life— link in bio. #comingout #lgbtqia #healingjourney #rahimthawer

Canada’s Queer & Trans Therapist (CQTT) Directory was created to make it easier for folks across the country to find identity-aware mental health support. 💻 Browse here → queertranstherapists(dot)com 💬 Share this resource with someone who might need it! Find care that gets you. 💖

PRESENTING: The Politicized Practitioner Series, with @bluecactuspress🌵 Vol 1. Practice & Politics – Foregrounds the political dimensions of helping and the myth of neutrality. [Release date: December 1, 2025]. The [U.S.] pre-order link: bluecactuspress.com/product/prac...

Canada’s Queer & Trans Therapist (CQTT) Directory was created to make it easier for folks across the country to find identity-aware mental health support. 💻 Browse here → queertranstherapists(dot)com 💬 Share this resource with someone who might need it! Find care that gets you. 💖

... in case anyone is looking for a queer therapist. 'm on there too <3

Canada’s Queer & Trans Therapist (CQTT) Directory was created to make it easier for folks across the country to find identity-aware mental health support. 💻 Browse here → queertranstherapists(dot)com 💬 Share this resource with someone who might need it! Find care that gets you. 💖

Canada’s Queer & Trans Therapist (CQTT) Directory offers some useful resources to help you find the help you need. Find care that gets you. 💖 queertranstherapists(dot)com #QueerMentalHealth #LGBTQCare #CQTT

Canada’s Queer & Trans Therapist (CQTT) Directory was created to make it easier for folks across the country to find identity-aware mental health support. 💻 Browse here → queertranstherapists(dot)com 💬 Share this resource with someone who might need it! Find care that gets you. 💖

Canada’s Queer & Trans Therapist (CQTT) Directory connects service users with competent, affirming care. 💻 Browse the directory! 💬 Share this resource! 👩‍⚕️ 2SLGBTQ+ therapists invited to join today! Find care that gets you. 💖 queertranstherapists(dot)com #QueerMentalHealth #LGBTQCare #CQTT

Canada’s Queer & Trans Therapist (CQTT) Directory was created to make it easier for folks across the country to find identity-aware mental health support. 💻 Browse here → queertranstherapists(dot)com 💬 Share this resource with someone who might need it! Find care that gets you. 💖

Canada’s Queer & Trans Therapist (CQTT) Directory connects service users with competent, affirming care. 💻 Browse the directory! 💬 Share this resource! 👩‍⚕️ 2SLGBTQ+ therapists invited to join today! Find care that gets you. 💖 queertranstherapists(dot)com #QueerMentalHealth #LGBTQCare #CQTT

Free, virtual, and starting in an hour! As a few spoilers, I will be asking @thepoliticizedprac.bsky.social to talk about: trauma, grief, and honoring your pain; dating apps, hook-ups, and becoming a love alchemist; and de-pathologizing risk discourses (i.e. chemsex, cruising). ❤️‍🔥😈🥵

Canada’s Queer & Trans Therapist (CQTT) Directory connects service users with competent, affirming care. 💻 Browse the directory! 💬 Share this resource! 👩‍⚕️ 2SLGBTQ+ therapists invited to join today! Find care that gets you. 💖 queertranstherapists(dot)com #QueerMentalHealth #LGBTQCare #CQTT

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QUEER AND MUSLIM ON FAITH, FAMILY, AND HEALING Edited by Rahim Thawer & Maryam Khan Foreword by Muhsin Hendricks Release: April 2026 Pre-order: uofrpress.ca/Books/Q/Quee... (Shares welcome!)

Psychodynamic frame: Whose gaze shaped your body story? Whose approval did you chase—or avoid? Exploring this can shift the power #Chapter9 #BodyConsciousCulture

CBT skill: List 5 things your body does for you each day. Movement, sensation, safety. Let utility interrupt judgment. You are more than an image. #Chapter9 #BodyConsciousCulture

Queer spaces can celebrate bodies—but also scrutinize them. When desirability is currency, shame follows. You deserve rest, pleasure, and love outside of how you look. #Chapter9 #BodyConsciousCulture https://bit.ly/44qdj4G

You’re allowed to grieve rejection and still know you’re whole. You’re allowed to be hurt and not give up. Rejection is part of being real—not a sign you’re broken. #Chapter8 #ManagingRejection

Have you ever turned rejection into redirection? Share a time when something that hurt made space for something better. #Chapter8 #ManagingRejection

Rejection sensitivity can be heightened for queer folks who’ve faced exclusion, bullying, or invisibility. Healing begins with recognizing this isn’t overreacting—it’s unhealed pain.#Chapter8 #ManagingRejection

What do you say to yourself after rejection? Is it kind? Harsh? What could you say instead that would feel more healing? #Chapter8 #ManagingRejection

Not everyone has the capacity to see you clearly. Rejection often says more about their limitations than your value. That doesn’t make it hurt less—but it does make it less true. #Chapter8 #ManagingRejection

Gestalt prompt: Speak as the part of you that fears rejection. Then reply as the part of you that’s learned resilience. Let them meet in the middle. #Chapter8 #ManagingRejection

Psychodynamic angle: Who was the first person to make you feel unwanted? That template may still shape how you respond to rejection now. Explore, don’t judge. #Chapter8 #ManagingRejection

CBT practice: When you feel rejected, try writing out the story your mind is telling you. Then underline what's fact vs. interpretation. You’ll often find more compassion. #Chapter8 #ManagingRejection

Rejection can feel like proof of every fear we carry. For queer folks, it often hits an old nerve—one that says, You’re not enough. But rejection doesn’t define your worth. #Chapter8 #ManagingRejection https://bit.ly/4d6Vzh2

Loneliness is a biological cue—it tells us we’re wired for closeness. Seeking connection isn’t desperation. It’s intelligence. #Chapter7 #SeekingConnection

Therapy tip: Notice how you respond when someone says “I care about you.” Do you squirm, deflect, freeze, cry? That’s your connection wound surfacing. #Chapter7 #SeekingConnection

It’s OK to want sex, friendship, community, or all three in one body. Queer longing isn’t shameful—it’s sacred. Seek what nourishes, not what performs. #Chapter7 #SeekingConnection

What helps you feel safe enough to open up with someone? A tone? A gesture? A question? Let’s collect cues that make connection possible. #SeekingConnection #Chapter7

Hyper-independence is often a trauma response. You learned not to rely on anyone. But connection isn’t weakness—it’s repair. Start small. #SeekingConnection #Chapter7

Gestalt practice: Role-play asking someone for emotional support. Speak it aloud: “I feel [X], and I need [Y].” Connection starts with vulnerability. #SeekingConnection #Chapter7

Psychodynamic lens: Do you crave connection but sabotage it? Ask yourself what early relationships taught you about safety, trust, or needing others. #SeekingConnection #Chapter7 https://bit.ly/44qdj4G

Queer connection is survival. Whether it’s a text thread, chosen family, or queer brunch crew—intimacy without shame is the antidote to isolation. #SeekingConnection #Chapter7 https://bit.ly/44qdj4G

This piece explores the concepts of milestone heteronormativity and disenfranchised grief in the lives of GBTQ guys. Based on my book, The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys (New Harbinger Publications). @bpsofficial.bsky.social www.bps.org.uk/psychologist...

You don’t need anyone’s permission to grieve. If it mattered to you, it’s worth mourning. And if you’re still hurting—it means you loved deeply. #Chapter6 #DisenfranchisedGrief

Have you ever held grief silently because others wouldn’t get it? What did you do with that pain? Let’s talk about hidden mourning. #Chapter6 #DisenfranchisedGrief

Disenfranchised grief often becomes anxiety, irritability, or numbness. The cure? Naming the loss and making space for mourning. #Chapter6 #DisenfranchisedGrief

What’s a kind of grief you’ve carried that others didn’t understand? You’re not alone. Sharing it might help someone feel seen. #Chapter6 #DisenfranchisedGrief

We grieve friendships lost after coming out, churches we had to leave, or family connections that frayed. This grief is real—even when no funeral marks it. #Chapter6 #DisenfranchisedGrief

Psychodynamic cue: Grief for what never was is still grief. Mourn the years you hid. Mourn the firsts you didn’t get. Healing means letting yourself miss what you deserved. #Chapter6 #DisenfranchisedGrief

CBT reframe: Just because others don’t acknowledge your grief doesn’t mean it isn’t real. Validate your loss—even if no one else does.. #Chapter6 #DisenfranchisedGrief

Disenfranchised grief is the pain you weren’t “allowed” to feel—like grieving closeted love, chosen family, or who you could’ve been if you felt safe sooner. It still counts. #Chapter6 https://bit.ly/4d6Vzh2

There’s no universal “adulting” path. If your queer adulthood involves chosen family, creativity, fluidity, or freedom from timelines—you’re not off-track. You’re right on time. #MilestoneHeteronormativity #Chapter5